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Recently said by my wife:

Let’s choose a girl and try to pick her up. Destroy my pussy. I like when you own me.

Because the universe is funny that way: a swinging couple was recently introduced into our lives and lately we’ve been hanging out more. Wifey and I are not seriously interested in swapping--it’s not our primary focus. But it may happen anyway.

Last night we ended up kissing each others’ spouses.

They’re a fun and cool couple, so just hanging out (with mild sexual tension) is enjoyable.

So technically, we have an open marriage. It’s still a novel thought.

What a crazy and powerful week. Here's the gist: We each gave each other explicit permission to fuck others, on condition that there's no falling in love or tearing this family apart. We are still very (VERY) into each other, so this is not at all a green light to go slutty with anything that breathes... more a promise that messing around won't shatter us. We acknowledge that we are both sexy, horny people, and we both are ready to begin a new chapter in our marriage. Together. My god, the conversations have been surreal (but wonderful). And I strapped her down to the bed to remind her that I'm her alpha. That was a fun night. Now my little bird is free to be herself, and I've never seen her so happy and sexy and beautiful.

Freedom+Trust+Honesty

About eight of our best friend and neighborhood couples have gotten divorced in the last two years. It was weird how it cascaded from household to household, pent-up issues and dissatisfaction all revealing itself at once.

One of the things we’ve gleaned from all this heartbreak is a theme of repression/control contributed to the relationships’ failure.

We have vowed to avoid this issue.

Evolutions

So my wife cheated on me. While away on a girls’ trip she made a connection with a random at the bar and ended up letting him in.

She only confessed because we’ve been having these ffm conversations and it came up. I asked if she wanted my blessing to take another man… she was absolutely terrified to tell me that she already did. I had to promise a hundred times that it would be ok and won’t divorce her.

And I won’t. I’m not a hypocrite. I’m asking her to bring a playmate home for some of my fantasies, and she has explicitly told me I’m free to go play if I ever feel the need… of course I have to extend the same courtesy to her.

Unfortunately her hook-up ended up having certain complicating factors, and she had to build up quite the web of lies to keep it hidden from me. It was a terrible burden on her heart and I’m glad she released that burden.

I forgave her for cheating on me, but the lying really hurt me and damaged my trust.

For 17 years it’s been only my cock. And she’s pretty demanding. So I get it-

It’s been a process getting through the emotions involved, but we are rock solid again.

Jealousy is a natural human emotion that we obviously all feel occasionally. I was just wondering because your situation is more unique than most how you personally deal with jealousy in your relationship or how often jealousy comes into play with a relationship dynamic like yours.

I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel those pangs of jealousy, but what I do with those feelings is what helps me. I literally transfer them. I know that sounds odd, and I’m not sure how I do it, but I change them and force those feelings to manifest as other feelings… So instead of jealousy I end up feeling really turned on, determined and challenged with winning back my husband’s affections. Sometimes I get sad, sometimes it’s anger, and most often it turns me on. I know for a fact I am strange, and my brain definitely isn’t wired like others… I think it also helps that I have a deep respect and admiration for my husband and I know he feels the same about me. At the very root of it all, I feel loved and supported and connected to him in ways that could never be broken. I know he would never leave me or do anything to hurt me. We only do this because I want him to, not the other way around 😉 So I guess it’s a combination of it all. My desires mixed with my strange way of thinking and the rock solid foundation I have with my partner! If you’re struggling with issues of jealousy don’t be afraid to speak up. Talk to your partner! If left to fester jealousy can break up marriages and relationships. Being open and honest is a must if you want to navigate this lifestyle together. Good luck! ❤️

Hey my lady and I are interesting in this type of lifestyle but she's nervous and we don't know where to start. Any advice?

Best advice? Take it really really slow. If she’s nervous or apprehensive at all, she’s not ready. Some butterflies are going to be normal because it’s uncharted territory, but it’s hard to say what’s best because I don’t know you or your partner and each situation is unique. Is it actual cuckqueening she’s into? Or just FFM play? Because they’re similar but different… Start with role playing or dirty fantasy talk? You could pretend she’s the other woman while you’re getting it on? Have her describe to you her fantasy, what turns her on and just go with it. That’s how hubs and I got started. I always knew I liked the idea of him with other women. After a few drinks and getting a little loose lipped, I’d describe to him in full detail what I liked, what I wanted to see, what I fantasized about while we got it on. It’s really what started all of this. Let her take the lead and go at a pace that’s comfortable for her. If you’re past all of that and she seems comfortable and interested then go on a date together and check out women while you’re out. Don’t actually pick anybody up yet, just make it a fun game. Where you both look for, talk about and fantasize about a female together and see where it leads? It took Hubs and I a long LONG time to actually bring someone into our bed because we wanted to be SURE it didn’t negatively affect our relationship. We were very cautious because you can’t go back in time and undo something that happened. All too often people jump in with two feet without thinking about the consequences or repercussions. We took it really slow, made sure both parties were comfortable. It was a natural progression to where we are today. I totally just rambled on and on here. But it’s hard for me to answer these asks with so little information. I hope this helps somebody somehow! 💋

What made you decide to share you're husband? I wish I could get my wife to share me. Can you tell many any secrets to get my wife to share me?

I’ve always loved the idea of my husband being with another woman. I would try and dare my friends to kiss him after we’d been drinking, or ask him if he thought my friends were good looking… I really like watching him enjoy himself and he deserves to feel good. So it all kind of swirled together that way. I don’t think you can make somebody think/feel a certain way… But you might be able to try and experience some new and exciting things together and see where it takes you! That’s what sexual exploration is all about, right! No destination, just enjoy the ride. So with that being said, maybe you could see if she’s into threesome porn, female female male scenarios especially. See if she’s interested in bringing a woman into the bedroom. Ask HER what turns her on and go with it. You could tell her you’re interested this lifestyle, but that might look bad because then looks like you want to cheat. This lifestyle is really about the woman’s desire to share her husband so it really has to come from within her. Good luck!

31 Female here.. I absolutely adore your blog! Love it love it! Question: was it tough for you to get through any jealousy issues? If so, how did you get through them?

Yes! The first time we played I was insanely jealous and insecure and a mess. But I think that’s what drew me back in. Call it insanity but there’s a rush of adrenaline that comes with it too. I think for me, winning back my husband affections is what helped me through it. I knew I had some work to do. I had to own him, reclaim him, make him remember why he chose ME. That worked paired with openly talking to him about it. I know in our regular life, he would never do anything to hurt me or harm me. He would never cheat on me or lie to me. So with that rock solid foundation paired with open communication and all around great sex, we get through it together. It sounds crazy. You just need to find what works for you :)

So, I REALLY love the idea of having a threesome, I even picture my husband fucking the other girl while she's eating me out and him & I are just staring at each other which so much passion .. my problem is I'm kind of afraid he may get this idea that I'm not enough. Now I know for fact he'd never cheat on me had I never brought a threesome up .. but idk why I feel that way since I do completely trust him. Have you ever felt like this?

Absolutely I’ve felt that way. It was always a small nagging concern in the back of my mind. It’s such a complex subject isn’t it?? I think the best way for me to handle those feelings of inadequacy was to take them and shift them in my mind. I used it as fuel for a fire that burned inside me. Like this small fire that started to burn… I transferred my anger, my jealousy and my hurt into this raging fire that I used as a tool to win him back. It’s like my inner beast was awakened and I let it out kind of. I reclaimed him after the encounters and made him see just what I was made of. I made it my goal to prove to him that there was nobody better than me. It really sounds silly when it’s in words and I’m feeling insecure about sharing this… But there you have it. Everybody is different though and you just gave to find what works for you. Those feelings are totally normal though and it’s really scary! But as long as you both work together and you ask for what you need (reassurance, quality time, validation etc etc etc) then you’ll be just fine. Hope this little ramble helps 🤓

Do ever turn to Your husband when you need to feel reassured of yourself/ do you ever feel neglected even if it's unintentional?

Of course I do! My husband is my rock. He’s always there to provide me with any assurance or comfort I need. That’s what marriage/partnerships are about. He does this FOR me, not to me. I enjoy it and I want it and if that ever changed he wouldn’t want to go forward with it any longer. Honestly I think I enjoy it more than he does 😉 We don’t enjoy humiliation or degradation of any sort whatsoever. If you need something from your significant other, just ask. If either party isn’t enjoying themselves or isn’t being satisfied, then it shouldn’t be happening. Good luck! Hope this helped ❤️

Things my wife has said lately...

As long as it’s safe, and we don’t hurt each others’ feelings, or fuck up our family & kids… I’m good with it. I love you and trust you and want us to have fun!

She’s also been posting a lot of ‘seize the day’ themed material, about not wasting your life or looking back on a boring life.

There's lots of FFM blogs, but you are the coolest by answering questions and sharing insights. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. Wifey and I are taking baby steps into this, and your comments are helpful. 😘

Thank you! Glad the blog is helping in some way! ❤️

Things my wife has said lately...

Do you want me to like girls more? -maybe a little. But what you do now is awesome and I love you.

You should flirt more. I don’t care if you squeeze tits and kiss, just bring that energy home to me.

Re: our completely spontaneous new playmate who my wife invited over, and then got eaten by at least twice (that I know of)… I asked why did you bring her home; what did you want to do with me? She replied: I did it for you. I just wanted to have some fun. I thought you would like it.

Then she said: I was really drunk and don’t remember much…

That’s just self-defense. She was feeling stir-crazy back then, and needed to find a way to shake things up. Well, it worked. But perhaps it was too much too fast, she got in over her head and is still trying to process it.

I love my wife and she’s super fun to fuck. We’ve been hitting each other hard for a couple years now, it’s been a glorious resurgence of our honeymoon years (our initial romantic period lasted at least six years–though now it’s even better, more dialed in, more hot).

I said: I’d like to try again. I want you to bring a friend home to suck my cock. Let’s play and make our organisms even bigger.

She agreed. She wants to try again, so we’re talking about it in detail.

I’ve got you. I love you. You’re my favorite.

We are in the midst of this as well. It's exciting. And our 1on1 sex has been massively more hot and passionate for months.

Hi! No question, I just wanted to tell you how much I love your blog! My boyfriend and I recently had our first threesome, and while we were busy planning it, I realized I was more turned on by the idea of him with another woman, than the idea of me being with another woman for the first time. During our threesome, watching them turned out to be the most erotic experience of my life!! It was at that moment I realized I was a quean. We both decided to explore this further, and I'm soooo excited!!

😍😍😍 Such a rush, right?? I’m so glad you two are exploring this further. And together! Thank you for sharing 💋

Snow bunny

I think if I talk this out it will help me process it. Constructive feedback welcome.

Happily married for 15 years; monogamous, traditional, awesome. We average sex every 2–3 days, and it’s good stuff. My wife has never shown an interest in any other man, but can get a little flirty when drinking. I’m ok with that. But she gets really flirty with other women when she’s drinking. Usually just caresses and snuggling, but titty squeezes, nipple play and motorboats are par for course too. I’m also ok with that. We are strong sexually, and having a great time in life together. She is beautiful, sexy, amazing. She’s 30s, I’m early 40s.

And then one day, she brought a stranger home

Last winter. We we’re coming down off the mountain together after a full day of skiing, exhausted, happy. A snow bunny (early thirties, cute) started up a conversation with me, but then gives full attention to my wife. They hit it off and exchanged #s, my wife inviting her to the big dinner party we were attending that night.

I was kind of surprised when she actually came to our little rented house about an hour later. We still had an hour till dinner, and we have a hot tub… fast forward a couple bottles of wine, two smokin babes in tiny bikinis and me in hot tub paradise. They’re flirting with each other, gently touching, building each other up.

And right about the time we should be leaving to the dinner party (with my two daughters who are patiently waiting inside), little miss thing has her arm around my wife, grabs her tits and smooches her… then looks at me and says right to face, “I’m going to fuck your wife tonight.” She’s only slightly drunk so her words are just barely slurred. It was hot.

Wifey has an embarrassed, but flattered, but maybe yes? expression on her face. But what I know for sure is that she wasn’t backpeddling or trying to get out of it. I could see that in an instant. So, I smiled at them both and nodded.

We all go upstairs to our suite (allegedly to get dressed for dinner). It’s normal getting dressed and girls talking about bras stuff. I’m ready first so I go downstairs and get my daughters ready for the walk down the street to dinner. But too much time passes. It’s quiet upstairs. They should be done by now.

I wrestle with the awkward situation of going up to check on her, or honoring her privacy and her wishes. Eventually, I go upstairs.

They’re both halfway dressed but almost done. My wife quietly whispered to me, “she licked my pussy!” “Did you like it?” “Yes.” “Show me.”

Next thing you know they’re both naked, my wife is on her back getting eaten and finger-banged. It was sooo beautiful. Her orgasm came quick.

And then wifey crawls over to me, pulls out my hard on and says “Come on!”

I’ve never had my dick out in front of two hot sexy women. And I don’t know what my wife had in mind for me–I think she would suck on me while getting eaten by our new friend, and who knows what next…

But my 10yo daughter started banging on the door complaining about how late we were for dinner and how hungry she was. And we were late–more than an hour.

So that’s how it ended. Dinner. Awkward goodbyes. Missed opportunities.