Age 9: "Tomboy"
Age 15: Strictly enforced femininity
Age 30: Hitting the mental limits of being closeted all his life and about to crash HARD
Age 47: Fifteen years now since starting transition. Far more good days than bad, no regrets.
The world may be full of uncertainty and danger, but I resolve to continue to find joy in who I am. Be joyful to be kind to yourself and be joyful to spite the bastards who would tear us apart.
a big lesson for me was learning that most things are not as fragile as I’d believed. missing a class, or turning in a bad assignment, won’t instantly destroy your professor’s opinion of you. accidentally saying something harsh won’t make your friend want to end the friendship. it takes work to repair these things - it takes effort and research and sometimes a sincere apology - but you can do that because they’re not irreparably broken. what you’ve worked to build, in academia and in relationships and in life, is stronger and more enduring that your mind may teach you to believe. don’t let imagined fragility lead you to giving up
Saw this on Twitter and I obligatory need to share it
I feel like we need a refresher on Watsonian vs Doylist perspectives in media analysis. When you have a question about a piece of media - about a potential plot hole or error, about a dubious costuming decision, about a character suddenly acting out of character -
A Watsonian answer is one that positions itself within the fictional world.
A Doylist answer is one that positions itself within the real world.
Meaning: if Watson says something that isn't true, one explanation is that Watson made a mistake. Another explanation is that Sir Arthur Conan Doyle made a mistake.
Watsonian explanations are implicitly charitable. You are implicitly buying into the notion that there is a good in-world reason for what you're seeing on screen or on the page. ("The bunny girls in Final Fantasy wear lingerie all the time because they're from a desert culture!")
Doylist explanations are pragmatic. You are acknowledging that the fiction is shaped by real-world forces, like the creators' personal taste, their biases, the pressures they might be under from managers or editors, or the limits of their expertise. ("The bunny girls in Final Fantasy wear lingerie because somebody thought they'd sell more units that way.")
Watsonian explanations tend to be imaginative but naive. Seeking a Watsonian explanation for a problem within a narrative is inherently pleasure-seeking: you don't want your suspension of disbelief to be broken, and you're willing to put in the leg work to prevent it. Looking for a Watsonian answer can make for a fun game! But it can quickly stray into making excuses for lazy or biased storytelling, or cynical and greedy executives.
Doylist explanations are very often accurate, but they're not much fun. They should supersede efforts to provide a Watsonian explanation where actual harm is being done: "This character is being depicted in a racist way because the creators have a racist bias.'" Or: "The lore changed because management fired all of the writers from last season because they didn't want to pay then residuals."
Doylism also runs the risk of becoming trite, when applied to lower stakes discrepancies. Yes, it's possible that this character acted strangely in this episode because this episode had a different writer, but that isn't interesting, and it terminates conversation.
I think a lot of conversations about media would go a lot more smoothly, and everyone would have a lot more fun, if people were just clearer about whether they are looking to engage in Watsonian or Doylist analysis. How many arguments could be prevented by just saying, "No, Doylist you're probably right, but it's more fun to imagine there's a Watsonian reason for this, so that's what I'm doing." Or, "From a Watsonian POV that explanation makes sense, but I'm going with the Doylist view here because the creator's intentions leave a bad taste in my mouth that I can't ignore."
Idk, just keep those terms in your pocket? And if you start to get mad at somebody for their analysis, take a second to see if what they're saying makes more sense from the other side of the Watsonian/Doylist divide.
Being like. Post-suicidal is so strange. Like hiiiii everybody im new I spent a good chunk of my life languishing and have like 3 or 4 lived experiences. But now I'm ready to fuck and party or whatever. Can we be friends. Im so happy to be here. Can we be friends
CINEMA'S BEST SWEATERS
Basic Instinct (1992) · Let's Make Love (1960) · Scream (1996) · The Big Lebowski (1998) · Lucky Number Slevin (2006) · A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984) · The Holiday (2006) · The Devil Wears Prada (2006) · While You Were Sleeping (1995) · Home Alone (1990) · Good Will Hunting (1997) · 21 (2008) · Sweet November (2001) · Knives Out (2019) · How the Grinch Stole Christmas (2000) · Ocean's 8 (2018) · The Matrix (1999) · Mystic Pizza (1988) · Bridget Jones's Diary (2001) · Clueless (1995) · House of Gucci (2021) · The Lighthouse (2019) · When Harry Met Sally... (1989) · Awake (2007)
I must explain to my American followers. Follow me on this thought experiment.
Read these questions. You do not need to answer, just read them.
Who is the current head of government of Ethiopia?
Are they a king, queen, president, prime minister, dictator, or tsar?
Are they generally liked or generally disliked by their people? Why?
Are they seen as conventionally attractive?
What was their most recent scandal?
What’s a weird outfit they’ve worn while in office?
What are their interior design preferences?
Has anyone tried to assassinate them? How many times?
What’s their favourite food?
Does Ethiopia have a national anthem?
What are the top 3 most iconic symbols of Ethiopia?
What’s the most prevalent religion in Ethiopia?
What are 5 Ethiopian TV series?
What languages are spoken in Ethiopia?
What are 5 Ethiopian celebrities?
Can you draw the Ethiopian flag?
What are 5 rights or privileges granted to citizens of Ethiopia?
What structure do Ethiopian school systems follow?
What are 5 Ethiopian foods?
What are 5 Ethiopian exports?
What countries are allied with Ethiopia?
What is one topic in Ethiopia that you are more educated on than in America?
What are 3 Ethiopian stereotypes?
Does Ethiopia have States, Provinces, or neither?
Where is Ethiopia’s government capital?
What currency is used in Ethiopia?
What animal is the Ethiopian symbol? Do they have one?
What is Ethiopia’s ethnic majority?
Who was their first government leader of Ethiopia? What is an interesting fact about them?
Who has Ethiopia gone to war against? Why?
Can you name 3 wars Ethiopia was involved in?
Can you name 3 Ethiopian women famous for their beauty?
What is the current Ethiopian political climate?
What areas of Ethiopia are considered rural or urban?
Can you name 3 major Ethiopian landmarks?
Can you name 3 Ethiopian amusement parks?
Can you name 3 Ethiopian national parks?
Can a civilian openly carry a gun in Ethiopia?
At what age can a person begin drinking Alcohol in Ethiopia?
What is the age of consent in Ethiopia?
Can you name 3 infamous Ethiopian criminals?
Can you name 3 Ethiopian comedians?
What was the most recent major natural disaster to hit Ethiopia?
Is Ethiopian culture as a whole generally considered more conservative or more progressive than your own?
Roughly how much money goes into the Ethiopian military budget? Millions or billions?
What are the staple crops in Ethiopia?
What is something that was invented in Ethiopia?
Who are 3 famous Ethiopian businessmen?
What are 5 wildly popular Ethiopian musicians?
What was one viral fashion trend among Ethiopian youth?
If you could correctly answer around 40 of these, then congratulations! That is what every other English speaker feels like living in proximity to America
That is the extent to which American media leeches into everything
Yes, it is weird
so i just spent $355 dollars paying for standardized tests i need to take to apply to graduate school. for 2 tests. i’m salty as hell because its not cool that schools require you take these tests to apply, then the testing institutions can charge whatever they want because you have to take the test. more proof regarding how its hard for poor people to pursue a higher education, keeping them poor
For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, excerpt from “The Poet’s Tale” (via larmoyante)
The act of feeling mentally and physically alone.
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