Don't kill me for this but methinks maybe some people on tumblr do not know what a toxic relationship is both in fiction and irl. like I'm seeing people calling their ships "toxic yuri" or whatever because their relationship is tumultuous and has ups and downs or because the people involved got into a fight and hurt each other's feelings a couple times like....my liege that is just a normal relationship. In literally any kind of interpersonal relationship it is inevitable that you are going to hurt people sometimes and you're going to be hurt. You're going to disagree with people. You're going to do things wrong. That doesn't mean you're toxic or that your relationships are unsalvageable. That's just how people work. Like I'm starting to genuinely worry that people r gonna carry this attitude into their real lives and fuck themselves over because they think that their real relationships with other people aren't supposed to have any conflict or discomfort whatsoever and I feel like it ties into this weird hyper-individualism thing that tumblr has going on where people are not supposed to rely on each other or try to grow and have compassion for other people or it's "emotional labour"....babes relationships are supposed to take work. We work on ourselves for other people because we care about them. Take my hand it's okay you can do it
im normal
“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”
dont play defense
Something that I first applied to working with children, and have applied in a limited form to working with adults: you don't need to tell someone when they read your instructions wrong. Sometimes it's enough to point out what they did right and then whatever they didn't do? You ask them to do it in more precise words, and you make it sound like it's a new request. Remarkable how fast things get done this way.
you know when you see those gross cooking videos where a lady is dumping baked beans onto a countertop and mixing in cheese with her bare hands or something, and it's obviously meant to spark engagement and outrage. and people will always say "don't interact with these video; this is just fetish content"
i think a good way to have piece of mind online is to apply that same mindset to more things.
you saw a really bad take online? that person just has a degradation kink and they're waiting for someone to call them out. if you don't want to participate in their kink, leave them alone.
some people can only get off by being wrong. it doesn't have to affect your day.
UM GUYS. I JUST NOTICED A CRAZY ISSUE W THE TUMBLR UPDATE.
IVE BEEN WAITING ALL YEAR TO POST THIS YOU DONT EVEN KNOW