“Chronic Illness Warrior!”

Tolkien: Elwe and Olwe had a brother called Elmo

Me: I am a serious adult taking things seriously

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give elrond a break challenge failed

maedhros is a shakespeare protagonist

finrod is a bible protagonist

and fingon is of course a shonen protagonist

no i will not elaborate

Doctors are like: ughhhhh. You're confusing. Come back if you die

Some Crane Wives Pride flags I've made, because their photos always have such cool lighting. I'm also currently planning on making the aroace and trans flags, but if you'd like to see a specific flag feel free to comment and I might get to it!

Also feel free to use these as you wish.

Most of my tags here are pretty self-explanatory, but for all my fellow apothis and aspecs who are simply not in the mood: any shipping related content on this blog will be pretty mild, but you can filter the tag #allo nonsense to not see it here.

Have a wonderful day! 💜🤍🖤🤍❤️/ 💚🤍🖤🤍❤️

Rings of Power meme dump part 2!

guys I know the last episode was heartbreaking in so many terms but have you seen this dude

Yes! So, I am a disabled and chronically ill aroace cane user. I fully understand that not all disabled people are aspec and vice versa. But some are! What we really need is more variety in representation, but there's just not enough of it in the first place.

There can be issues with characters like this depending on their story and how their identity is handled. For example, I think the way Viktor from Arcane was confirmed as ace was... not the best, and potentially insulting to some aspecs and disabled people. It could have been done better. BUT that doesn't mean the idea itself is bad!

With Viktor specifically, I totally get why some people don't want him to be ace, and they're welcome to have other headcanons, I will never begrudge someone that. But the problem starts when I tell someone I like him being ace because I see myself even more in him (I was also starting to use a cane around the time I watched the show, and seeing him made me so much more comfortable using it), and they tell me that it's inherently offensive. Because it's not actually, otherwise so is my existence. You don't have to agree or see him as ace, but please do not invalidate my identity and experiences.

I saw a post that made me think.

Why do people say it's ableist for disabled characters to have aromantic or asexual identity in headcanons or canon? It's seriously weird how people are mad at stuff like that. Having an identity like that is not a bad thing.

I'm asexual, autistic and physically disabled. Is it ableist that I exist like that? I like headcanoning characters who are autistic coded as asexual because it makes me happy because they are like me in my head.

I have seen people online be mad at others for headcanoning a disabled character or autistic coded to have an aromantic or asexual identity. People even get mad at disabled people who share those identities for headcanoning like that. I don't know what is up with that.

Some people seem to be mad only because they think things like an aromantic or asexual identity implies that the character that is disabled will not want things like being intimate, but that is not true. It is up to the person who has that identity, they can choose to be intimate or not intimate. Things like that confuse me. Like how people talk about Viktor from arcane.

I like Viktor, I am happy he is asexual canonically. It means he can still have a relationship with Jayce hypothetically, though. His asexuality is valid no matter what way he is portrayed.

Viktor is my favorite character. Seeing Viktor in Arcane made me feel better about using a cane when my health got worse, I felt internalized ableism at that time. Seeing a depiction of someone who is like me in a way helped me. Learning he is asexual made me happier too because he is also like me in that way, too.

Asexuality is defined as experiencing no sexual feelings or desires; not feeling sexual attraction to anyone. And I think it should be fine for Viktor to be like that and it should be fine for everyone who feels that way.

Let people on the aro/ace spectrum be who they are, disabled people can be like that and still have intimate relationships. And let people headcanon whatever they want as long as they're not harming people.

And that is my thoughts on that. I hope I wrote that in an accurate way. I just feel confused about that topic. People are so hard to understand.

[Disclaimer, obviously not all people think the how I described about asexuality. Some people are fine with disabled characters having an aromantic or asexual identity. And when I say aromantic or asexual identity, I am referring to the whole spectrum of those identities.]

PSA

If you have chronically ill and/or immunocompromised friends, you have to tell us when you are sick. Not just with COVID or the Flu. Even a cold can be a massive deal for us. This is not optional.

And if we tell you we cannot be around you for a while for our own health and safety, you should know it's not you, but you also do not get to be offended.

Also, unless you have a really good reason not to, wear a mask when you're sick. It's a small sacrifice to protect those around you, it's really not hard.

Thank you.