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MOUNT SNEFFLES WILDERNESS AREA COLORADO

If you set a boundary and someone else is disappointed or angry or upset, that reaction does not mean you’re not allowed to set boundaries or that it was wrong of you to do that.

If you ask someone for something and they say no, that does not mean you shouldn’t ask for things or that it was wrong of you to ask. Saying no to something, even if you really want it, is not (by itself) an attack on you, either.

There will be times in every good relationship where one person says no to what the other person wants. And there will be times when that answer feels bad to the other person.

That can be uncomfortable, but it’s healthy and good to be able to say no to each other. It’s healthy and good to ask each other for things and give the other person the chance to say yes or no. It’s healthy and good for each of you to be able to hear “no” and accept it even when it’s disappointing.

It’s healthy and good to own your emotional reaction and make sure you both agree that being upset is a normal and manageable feeling, not a crisis that requires someone to give up their boundaries.

Up on Last Dollar Road, Coloradocolor

Dolomites, March 1939.

Oh lord, to see a light, but fail in strength to follow

Sometimes it's hard to let it go

Oh lord, to fail in heart, and each day grow more hollow

Sometimes I just don't wanna know

But the road that led me here, it's begun to disappear

Sometimes I wonder where I am

Oh lord, to hear a voice, but let it fade and wallow

Sometimes it's hard to let it to

Oh lord, to find the words, but keep them in and swallow

One day the top is gonna blow

But the road that left me here, it's begun to disappear

Sometimes I wonder who I am

Oh lord, to stumble blind, for years without knowing

Sunrise has burned my eyes again

Oh lord, to crumble quiet, watching from the silence

Sunrise has burned my eyes again

It's a seven-story mountain. It's a long, long life we live. Got to find a light and fill my heart again

It's a seven-story mountain. It's a long, long life ahead. Got to find a voice and fill my throat again

-Railroad Earth’s “Seven Story Mountain”