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Conflict between an ENTJ father & a INFP daughter?

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This relationship would be fraught with landmines. A father/daughter relationship is already unequal due to age and gender. On top of that, ENTJs can be very domineering, which could easily intrude upon an INFP’s sense of privacy and personal boundaries. Both would have to work hard to find some middle ground.

ENTJ (Te-Ni-Se-Fi) + INFP (Fi-Ne-Si-Te)

Potential for Conflict:

Te: ENTJs need structure and INFPs tend to resist it. Thus, ENTJs may see INFPs as ineffectual, disorganized, or undisciplined, and INFPs might see ENTJs as controlling, overbearing, or inflexible.

Ni v. Ne: ENTJs tend to look for one direction/path to take, whereas INFPs enjoy exploring ideas and possibilities. Thus, ENTJs might see INFPs as impractical, unfocused, or unreliable, and INFPs might see ENTJs as stubborn, closed-minded, or single-minded.

Se v. Si: ENTJs can use Se defensively to overemphasize achievement or recognition, which may strike INFPs as vain or misguided. INFPs can use Si defensively to obsess about (past) details, which may strike ENTJs as fussy, irrational, or stubborn.

Fi: ENTJs tend to have difficulty processing and expressing emotion, whereas INFPs value and stay in touch with emotions. Thus, ENTJs might see INFPs as oversensitive, withdrawn, or too passive, and INFPs might see ENTJs as repressed, unreflective, or judgmental.

ENTJs tend to be more assertive and outgoing than INFPs.

Opportunities for Growth and Balance:

This pair could complement each other well if they were mature enough to learn from each other’s strengths. ENTJs could learn from INFPs to be more reflective and treat people more sensitively. INFPs could learn from ENTJs to be more organized and goal-oriented.

Be more open to each other’s advice or suggestions. ENTJs should realize that INFPs tend to be more spontaneous and individualistic, so be more flexible in your expectations and do not try to place undue restrictions upon them. INFPs should realize that ENTJs tend to need more structure/routine, so help them maintain order and fulfill your responsibilities on time.

ENTJs should realize that INFPs are creative people who like to explore new ideas, so be more open-minded in exploring things with them. INFPs should realize that ENTJs are pragmatic people, so do not distract them with things they would consider a waste of time.

ENTJs should realize that INFPs have their own standards for success, so do not try to change them into something you want them to be. INFPs should realize that ENTJs tend to be driven and ambitious, so try to be more supportive and accepting of their efforts.

ENTJs should realize that INFPs tend to be empathetic people who are in touch with emotional life, so do not judge them as oversensitive. Be more open to exploring your feelings with them instead of dismissing or brushing them aside. INFPs should realize that ENTJ are not always good with exploring emotional life, so try to approach them more calmly and objectively.

In terms of conflict, it would be important that both learn to express dissatisfaction or negative emotion in a constructive way in order to resolve relationship issues properly. Never assume that you know what the other person is thinking, feeling, or intending without getting all the facts first. Both types tend to judge others too quickly and this could easily lead to frequent misunderstandings. ENTJs should remember that INFPs do not respond well to harsh criticism, and INFPs should remember to express needs/requests clearly and matter-of-factly instead of bottling up emotions or resentments.

Find an activity or project that you can work on together in order to build closeness through teamwork. Come to an acceptable compromise in terms of maintaining good E/I balance in shared activities.

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𝟚. ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕜 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕝𝕠𝕠𝕜 𝕕𝕚𝕤𝕘𝕦𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘!

𝟛. 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕗𝕚𝕥 𝕚𝕟𝕥𝕠 𝕤/𝕩𝕤/𝕩𝕩𝕤 𝕔𝕝𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘!

𝟜. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕙𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕔𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕖 𝕠𝕗 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕒 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥𝕟𝕖𝕣!

𝟝. ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕘𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕒 𝕓𝕖 𝕤𝕠 𝕛𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕠𝕦𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦~!

𝟞. 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕣𝕪 𝕚𝕗 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕖𝕤 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕪 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕤𝕚𝕫𝕖!

𝟟. ℕ𝕠 𝕞𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕖𝕒𝕣 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕝𝕠𝕠𝕜 𝕘𝕠𝕠𝕕.

𝟠.𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕓𝕖 𝕒𝕤𝕙𝕒𝕞𝕖𝕕 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕗!

𝟡. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕘𝕒𝕚𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕪 𝕡𝕣𝕚𝕧𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕘𝕖<𝟛

𝟙𝟘. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕥𝕒𝕜𝕖 𝕦𝕡 𝕝𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕤𝕡𝕒𝕔𝕖!

𝟙𝟙. ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕓𝕝𝕖𝕞 𝕨𝕚𝕥𝕙 𝕡𝕚𝕔𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕦𝕡!

𝟙𝟚. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕗𝕖𝕖𝕝 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕗𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕟𝕥!

𝟙𝟛. ℕ𝕠 𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕚𝕤 𝕘𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕒 𝕥𝕖𝕝𝕝 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕠𝕠 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕧𝕪.

𝟙𝟜. ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕨𝕚𝕝𝕝 𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖

𝟙𝟝. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕘𝕖𝕥 𝕝𝕠𝕥𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕡𝕝𝕚𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥𝕤~<𝟛!!!

𝟙𝟞. 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕨𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕣𝕪 𝕨𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕣𝕖 𝕙𝕦𝕘𝕘𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕠𝕠 𝕗𝕒𝕥!

𝟙𝟟. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕓𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕚𝕖𝕣.

𝟙𝟠. 𝔼𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕖𝕒𝕥 𝕤𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕝𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕗𝕖𝕖𝕝 𝕗𝕦𝕝𝕝.

𝟙𝟡. 𝕐𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕠𝕦𝕥𝕗𝕚𝕥𝕤 𝕒𝕣𝕖 𝕘𝕠𝕟𝕟𝕒 𝕓𝕖 𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕟 𝕓𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕟 𝕓𝕖𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕖.

𝟚𝟘. 𝕐𝕠𝕦'𝕝𝕝 𝕗𝕚𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕖𝕒𝕦𝕥𝕪 𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕟𝕕𝕒𝕣𝕕𝕤 𝕚𝕟 𝕤𝕠 𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕪 𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕥𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕤.

𝟚𝟙. ℙ𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕥𝕖𝕟𝕕 𝕥𝕠 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕤𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕟𝕪 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖

𝔸𝕟𝕪𝕨𝕒𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥'𝕤 𝕟𝕠𝕥 𝕒𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕖𝕟𝕕 𝕠𝕗 𝕞𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕘𝕙𝕥𝕤 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕜𝕖𝕖𝕡 𝕞𝕖 𝕗𝕚𝕥, 𝕓𝕦𝕥 𝕚'𝕝𝕝 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕡𝕒𝕓𝕝𝕪 𝕕𝕠 𝕒 𝕤𝕖𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕕 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕥~!<𝟛

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