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Chastity & Submission...

CHASTITY AND SUBMISSION – ISN’T IT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS?

If your man is submissive in the bedroom he can still be masculine, sexy, have the ability to inspire you, arouse you, love you and care for you. Being submissive is to him something special that’s a part of this character which he may only allow out to play with you, because he trusts you implicitly, and no one else…

Many men in highly powerful jobs need a release from work sometimes, which is why they venture into submission and chastity…

Wearing a chastity device and being submissive in private will not impinge on his ability at work…

Submission is not weakness. Submission involves your husband having great trust and belief in you. Submission involves having the confidence to express oneself. It’s about placing your needs above his. Submission is honouring you with his mind, body and soul…

WILL WEARING A CHASTITY DEVICE HURT HIM?

At times it will feel as if the cage of his chastity device is “caressing” his penis, this can heighten arousal, and might feel like he’s wearing your own personal “bondage cuddle”.

He will find that the beginnings of an erection feels more like an “erotic pain” rather than being unbearably painful. These sensations will bring his mind back to you, his keyholder, his loving wife…

Generally wearing a chastity device does not hurt, but you shouldn’t always expect it to feel comfortable right away, it can take a little while for him to become used to it both physically and mentally. If he does experience discomfort, it’s likely to be initially felt around the scrotum where the cock ring of the chastity device fits. He may notice a little pinching and it can take up to 2 weeks or more to get the perfect fit and comfort techniques.

His penis isn’t going to rub against his trousers or underpants as it might normally, it will be denied almost all touch. When he goes to the bathroom that will be a different experience too. Wearing a chastity device means that can he cannot touch himself and it’s likely he’ll need to sit down to pee…

He is going to feel sexually frustrated at times. As he embarks on his male chastity journey with you holding his key its almost certain that he will be expecting some amount of frustration, but it’s impact won’t be experienced until he’s gone longer than usual without an orgasm. He may get irritable and ask to be released. Whether this release happens is up to you. Don’t always give in to him, otherwise, to use a very popular phrase in the D/s world, he’s “topping from the bottom”. He’s actually controlling you and getting what HE wants…

HOW LONG SHOULD I KEEP HIM LOCKED UP?

Before locking your man in chastity for more than a few hours he needs to be accustomed to wearing a chastity device, there needs to be a breaking in period, which he must dictate. He shouldn’t simply expect to put on a device for the first time and discover a perfect comfortable fit. It takes a while to adjust himself both physically and mentally. Wearing it a few hours each evening when home from work is a good way to become accustomed to wearing a chastity device. As his keyholder encourage him to temper the excitement of fantasy with the necessities of reality…

Most men once used to wearing their device tend to be locked up in weekly blocks, i.e. 7, 14, or 21 days or for a month or two. However, when you are starting out with male chastity it’s best to agree a target between you for the first few occasions. Chat about it and be realistic, discover what he thinks he can sensibly achieve, don’t be too ambitious to begin with. You should keep these agreed periods quite short until your man is completely used to his device. Often this can mean just locking him up whilst you go shopping, then progress to lock-ins lasting for the weekend, starting on Friday night and then releasing him on Sunday evening (or Monday morning if he hasn’t done his duties properly). Over the weeks you can extend this period each time, until he has settled in to his device and is comfortable for extended periods…

Once you have agreed the length of time for him to be locked up, whether it’s a day or a week, as his keyholder make sure you stick to it. However much he moans and complains stick to your guns and don’t allow him the key and freedom until the hour of his release has been reached, and if he keeps on complaining, threaten to extend it by another day! He’ll thank you for it all the more in the end!

TAKE A BREAK:

To keep the delights of chastity alive, you need to take a break from it, particularly if your husband is a long term wearer. Anything we do, any activity we partake of, can become uninteresting and boring if it becomes the everyday accepted way of living. The same is true of chastity. Often couples will stop using the chastity device for a month or so, and return to chastity with a fresh exciting awareness. We tend to be “Creatures of Habit” and this familiarity eventually creates disillusionment or boredom with any subject that’s a constant focus in our lives. Often it is the keyholder who dictates this…

Thanks to Tickleberry

Thank you for the detailed response!

:)  No problem.  Sometimes I’m just crazy busy and can’t do anything on Tumblr.  Othertimes its something I’m drawn to and use as a release.

I’m happy to answer any questions (almost).

We have had a similar experience trying to find the right cage. It’s either too big and doesnt stay in place, or he complains about it being too tight. I’ll have to look at the Bon4M.

Its apparently a common problem.  We went through lots of different models.  No idea if the Bon4M will fit your hubbie.

I love the idea of the whole month of October coming up!

Right?  Its totally hot!!!

But, I can see myself running into the same problems that you did.   My husband is always giving me an excuse of why the cage needs to come off.  

Ha!  You too?  Seriously, some of it is cute, but a lot of times its just irritating, and I get sick of his badgering.  Sometimes, I’m tempted to just throw him the key and tell him I’m not playing anymore.

BUT…  We’re working on our “wish lists”.  I’m writing down everything I want, he’s writing down everything he wants, and we’re going to work from there, writing back and forth to distill it to a set of rules.

My wish list is almost done, should be done in a few more days.  We set a hard deadline of Friday, but we might have it done before then.

The spanking sounds hot! I’ve never done that though, and I dont know how he would react.

That’s probably something you want to negotiate with him beforehand.  Or not.  Fuck it, he’s your husband.  Just tell him he’s a “bad boy”, spank him and see what happens.  :D

#FLR #sissyGoals

When the leathers come out, watch out.

#FLR #corporal punishment

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