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Love to all my sweeties!

Polyamory Appreciation

Reblog if you’re polyamorous or support healthy polyamorous relationships!

This sounds like a variation on Tom Smith’s Undead Happy Trees.

imagine Bob Ross painting in the style of Hieronymus Bosch

“this little demon down here is kind of lonely, let’s give him some happy little friends. little demon party.”

Very cool! @rooksandravens

Red fox sits among Ravens.

Source

Woo-hoo!  Whoever you are, you deserve to feel bold, rebellious, and happy!

On Shopping While Fat 2: Son of Fat

This is a brilliant advertising campaign!

Exactly!!

“Find what works for you and work it.“

I’m so glad that my mother was willing to raise my sister and myself to be weird and to accept that we would never be, and didn’t need to be, normal.  Unless you’re sharing living quarters with someone and their needs conflict with yours, make your space work for you.  Why try to make yourself live somewhere that doesn’t fit you, just for some illusion of normal?

Ridiculous yet effective ways to deal with Executive Dysfunction

Dealing with executive dysfunction and ADHD becomes so much easier when you stop trying to do things the way you feel like you should be able to do them (like everyone else) and start finding ways that actually work for you, no matter how “silly” or “unnecessary” they seem.

For years my floor was constantly covered in laundry. Clean laundry got mixed in with dirty and I had to wash things twice, just making more work for myself. Now I just have 3 laundry bins: dirty (wash it later), clean (put it away later), and mystery (figure it out later). Sure, theoretically I could sort my clothes into dirty or clean as soon as I take them off and put them away straight out of the dryer, but realistically that’s never going to be a sustainable strategy for me.

How many garbage bins do you need in a bedroom? One? WRONG! The correct answer is one within arms reach at all times. Which for me is three. Because am I really going to get up to blow my nose when I’m hyperfocusing? NO. In allergy season I even have an empty kleenex box for “used tissues I can use again.” Kinda gross? Yeah. But less gross than a snowy winter landscape of dusty germs on my desk.

I used to be late all the time because I couldn’t find my house key. But it costs $2.50 and 3 minutes to copy a key, so now there’s one in my backpack, my purse, my gym bag, my wallet, my desk, and hanging on my door. Problem solved.

I’m like a ninja for getting pout the door past reminder notes without noticing. If I really don’t want to forget something, I make a physical barrier in front of my door. A sticky note is a lot easier to walk past than a two foot high cardboard box with my wallet on top of it.

Executive dysfunction is always going to cause challenges, but often half the struggle is trying to cope by pretending not to have executive dysfunction, instead of finding actual solutions.

How can there be any doubt that George is an excellent crow??

I’ve spent about an hour or so today listening to “Hidden Almanac” by @ursula-vernon. I just love, LOVE this podcast - and the two main characters. I wish it had more fans here, on tumblr.

Reblog if you agree George is an excellent crow.

Squee!  I’m a Tiny Water Dragon.  It’s very appropriate both for me and for my sister who is in the same date range.  (She might have preferred Jack Ass or Safari Horse though.)

I’m a Safari Horse! What are you?

Discriminating against people based on their religion, ethnicity, skin color, or anything else is just as wrong in the QUILTBAG community as it is anywhere else.  The ways some members of a religion use it to justify doing terrible things to other people is horrible, whether that’s Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, atheism, or anything else.  However, that does not mean that the religion itself is horrible, or that all of its followers should be blamed for those people’s actions. 

anyway here’s your reminder that lgbt muslims exist and islamophobia shouldnt be tolerated within lgbt communities!

shout out to lgbt muslims living in places where our identities are still criminalised. 

I love that this black, spooky-looking house has a lovely garden in front.  Is the garden all foxglove and nightshade and stuff, or does it belong to a family that doesn’t want to get trapped in people’s assumptions (or is really, massively dysfunctional)?

I don’t have the kind of phone that can use these, but they’re pretty!

LGBTQIA+ lockscreens

♥ like/reblog if you save ♥

locks made by me, please give credits

I have been feeling like this a lot lately.  (Except not the drawing part; I can’t draw at all.)  Sigh.

Pigeon Comic 56 - Sometimes I’m Just Tired

This is great advice.  Does anyone know if it works for MD-shopping as well?

How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?

Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?

If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?

[blink, blink] Ok, I realize that I’m on the fringes of fandom, so I’m probably not representative of the average fan.  However, the idea that people would value visual art over writing doesn’t make sense to me.  Generally, I’ll look at a piece of visual art, admire it, and move on.  Once in a blue moon, I’ll get a piece to hang on my wall or put on a T-shirt or otherwise save.  (This isn’t anything against the art!  Massive kudos to people who make beauty in a way I never could!)  However, I’ll spend hours reading and sometimes re-reading a good piece of fan fiction.  There have been stories that have stuck with me for years, not just as head-canon, but as ways to help me understand myself and my personal philosophy.  Writers deserve every bit as much respect and support as artists!

Somewhere along the way fanart become worth more than fanfic to fandom.

Artists have Patreon accounts where people pay real money to view their art early or to access special pictures like scraps or tutorials.

Whereas writers are expected to produce more and more, faster, for nothing in return. No one wants to see our “scraps” and writers who do provide Tips and Tricks often get crap for “policing” how people write.

And it falls into the prevailing notion that somehow writing is something easy, something anyone can do.

This isn’t an attack on fanartists. You deserve to receive some sort of compensation and accolades for your work. And so do fanauthors.

Writing fic is hard work. Yes, anyone can type out a story, same as anyone can pick up a pencil to draw, but what makes the difference, what makes a good piece is the experience and talent of an author. It’s all the stories no one saw, it’s all the writing books we’ve read, it’s the classes we have attended, all rolled into a package that works weeks, months, years to bring the fandom their fic. Yes we write for ourselves but we also write to contribute to fandom - just like artists do.

We’re just the same - artists and authors - and we deserve the same respect for our work.

May you always remember to carry your preferred supplies just in case.

May your next period be light and end quickly

I’m not sure I’d want to do that to Mothman.

reblog if you ARE JEWISH, if you SUPPORT JEWISH PEOPLE, or if you WANT ALL NEONAZIS TO BE CARRIED OFF BY MOTHMAN

Asexuality doesn’t have anything to do with the color of your skin!

I wanted to do this piece for two reasons; One, honestly, I saw a post about different eye types, and I really wanted to explore that and that created an urge to draw people of different ethnicities.

But the big reason is that in the ace community, people tend to associate it with white people. There’s a lot of racism and aphobia that goes into this too, like, saying that it’s a “white person’s thing”, and it isn’t. Anybody of any race or religion or gender can be asexual. It isn’t like, a “white person thing”. And I know a lot of POC feel excluded due to all of the overbearing whiteness in the ace community. I really??? Wanted to try to make people feel okay you know??? Shoot. Like, I couldn’t draw too many face types, but- I really– really want more representation for ace people of colour.

Anyway, please take care.

Leafy sea dragon mermaid! [swoon]  (Ok, they’re all cool, but I have a soft spot for leafy sea dragons.)

5/15 mermaid design challenge i made for myself (also happens to be during #mermay)

so far: goldfish, lionfish, leafy sea dragon, deepsea predator, and red octopus

i will post here when another 5 are done, meanwhile you can see each one & WIPs on my twitter if you want

edit: basically i realized way too late that u cant see anything of the details so i added 100% closeups for each one like i did on twitter ///shrug

There aren’t many things that have more pride than a peacock.

Pride flag peacocks! 

These are all available on my new redbubble!

Um, yeah, I definitely support asexuals.

Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals

It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals

I kindof want some of these as pins.  Seriously, if the only part of “homosexual,” “bisexual,” “asexual,” “pansexual,’ etc. that you hear is “-sexual,” the problem is with you, not me.

this has probably been done already but oh well

because tumblr has been marking things as sensitive, feel free to use these or w/e

I don’t think I realized that sexual attraction was really the way it’s portrayed in stories until I learned about asexuality.  I would accept it for the sake of the story, but I still have trouble, sometimes, believing that it’s any more real than telepathy or werewolves.

IM LAUGHING SO HARD I DIDNT THINK SEXUAL DESIRE WAS A REAL THING LIKE I ALWAYS SAW PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT HOW THEY WANTED SEX BUT I THOUGHT THEY WERE JOKING OR EXAGGERATING OR SOMETHING THATS WHY IT WAS SO HARD FOR ME TO REALIZE I WAS ACE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WENT WITHOUT SAYING SEX ISNT THAT IMPORTANT IM 19 YEARS OLD I CANT STOP LAUGHING LITERALLY 99% OF THE POPULATION EXPERIENCES SEXUAL DESIRE AND I THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE

I’ll have to remember this!

SMALL TALK TIP FOR PEOPLE WHO HATE SMALL TALK: Ask people if they have any pets. This is light and impersonal enough to offend no one. People who have pets are usually pretty excited to talk about them and show off pictures, so there’s a good chance that you will be looking at kitties and doggos. People who don’t have pets will usually talk about the pets they wish they had, or have had in the past. People who neither have nor want pets are pretty rare.

Thank you!

Thanks to the person who sent me The Patriarchy Isn't Going to Smash Itself from TeePublic!  (Hooray for geeky, nerdy goodness with strong females!!)  Unfortunately, the package arrived without any indication of the sender. :(  If you let me know who you are, I will happily shower you with direct appreciation as well as indirect.

That’s quite a weekend!

Day 8 Fav Quote. http://gailcarriger.com/books/sas/ #julybookchallenge #bookbabesjuly #bookchallenge #instachallenge #july #bookstagramchallenge #bookphotography #book #booklover #bookstagram #instabook

Ace owls!

Ace + gender identity owls for anon~

From top to bottom:

Ace and Transgender, Ace and Nonbinary

Ace and Genderqueer, Ace and Pangender

Ace and Demigirl, Ace and Demiboy

Ace and Genderfluid, Ace and Genderflux

Ace and Agender, Ace and Neutrois

People are free to use them as icons.

Pride kitties!

i made some cats in pride flag color schemes ʚ♡⃛ɞ(ू•ᴗ•ू❁) !! i’m a little late for pride month but i hope you enjoy them cause they were lots of fun to make ^^ you can use them as icons or edit them into headers if you want; just please credit me somewhere visible!!! ♥ ♥ ♥

from top to bottom, left to right:

lesbian

gay

bi

trans

questioning

genderqueer

intersex

aromantic

asexual

i couldnt find just a queer flag so i separated the q into questioning and genderqueer bc those are the ones that i know. i hope thats okay!

please do not edit your own versions without my permission; if you want one in another flag scheme just shoot me an ask ~♥

(set two can be found here)

I found a Maleficent lunch box with dragons on it in an after-Halloween sale several/many years ago.  I happily took my lunch to work in it until it was literally falling apart.  Some of my co-workers complimented me on it over the years, and some probably snickered at it (although no one ever gave me a hard time about it).  Why give up the things that give you joy just because you’re supposed to be “too old” for them??

Don't feel ashamed of doing "CHILDISH" things

•buy toys/dolls/crayons •play with Legos •play old videogames/dress up games •weave friendship bracelets •watch cartoons •use stickers •draw pics of your favorite characters

If it makes you feel nice, do it. Don’t even worry about what other people think, because it doesn’t matter–if it brings you happiness, it’s not “ridiculous”, or “immature”.

You deserve to enjoy yourself.

Knowing and accepting all of the options makes a huge difference, too.  I suspect that many people who identify as heterosexual do so by default.  They don’t know, don’t understand, or aren’t willing to accept that they could be something else.

This was being wondered some time ago but the 1% asexuals in population is from UK census from January 1994. I think the latest studies had numbers such as 5% and hypothesis that the actual number would be closer to 10% (that would be the same as homosexuality) if people with split attraction are counted in too. Most of the population are multisexuals (bi, pan, ply, omni...) followed by heteros.

That does follow every study I’ve seen. Amazingly queer things happen when society lets people be themselves