My Therapist Said, “you’ve Been A Badass Through All Of This” And I Really Needed To Hear That.

Hey I challenge you, if you’ve been struggling with something physical, trouble at work, relationship complications etc, give yourself the night off. I’ve titled myself your friendly manager and this is your approved time off. You have the night to not think of or acknowledge those things. Just be you, be at peace, get some rest, eat some food. Have a night for just you and your thoughts

lately the only way i can make myself study or do any work is by pretending that i’m doing some super important world-saving research or uncovering some insane secrets of the universe…i’m straight up gaslighting myself into school…

DO YOU NEED HELP?! THIS IS YOUR PUSH TO GO GET THAT HELP!!!

IT'S NOT A FAILURE TO NEED HELP!!! ACTUALLY - ASKING FOR HELP IS ONE OF THE BRAVEST, MOST BADASS THINGS YOU CAN DO!!! SO, IF YOU NEED HELP, IF YOU'RE STRUGGLING WITH SOMETHING - THIS IS YOUR SIGN!!! ASK SOMEONE!!! GOOGLE!!! LET'S GET YOU THAT HELP!!!

I’ve been thinking about 1x03 of The Last of Us and I think why it kicked so many of us right in the heart so hard is because, fundamentally, it said “hey, you’re not going to change this incredibly traumatic forever-altered world you’re in. You - as one person- cannot do that. It is the single most important thing to live and love and build things anyway, you cannot put those things off until the world goes back to normal because it won’t, ever, but there’s room for strawberries here, in this version of this world.”

I think that’s why this particular story doesn’t feel exhausting or entrapping in the way most apocalypse media does in a world that still very much dealing with March of 2020.

(repeated like a mantra while rubbing my temples) i will stay silly and not allow the world to make me bitter and cruel. i will stay silly and not allow the world to make me bitter and cruel. i wi

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

get it done the weird way. do it in parts. do it “wrong”. do it “late”. do it scared. it’s just better to do it differently than everyone else rather than never do it.