Compare.

This can be addressed. Something can be done. Just because you don’t see the future right now doesn’t mean you never will or that the future doesn’t exist for you. The very fact that you recognize that there’s something to see but you’re just not able to see it right now might mean that you were able to see it once before. It might not be the same future that you envisioned when you were younger, but it still belongs to you.

The future is yours. It won’t be perfect and it won’t be easy, but it has never left you. Never let it.

“My problem is, I don’t see a future for myself, and when you see no future it becomes easier to see the end.”

- It becomes closer everyday.

xkcd.com

No one breaks your heart more than you do by overthinking every goddamn little thing

Grumble grumble…

If we set aside the statue of the perfect self, we might be able to see identity as a dynamic process rather than a static object. The chiseling, the carving out through our decisions, is what defines who we are. We are sculptors, finding ourselves in the evolution of choosing, not merely in the results of choice. When we change our thinking to embrace a more fluid process, choice will become no longer a force of destruction, an effort to break down what we don't want to be, but an ongoing, liberating act of creation. The writer Flannery O'Connor reportedly said, "I write to discover what I know." Perhaps we can take a page from her book and say, "I choose to discover who I am."

Sheena Iyengar, The Art of Choosing