A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
This is a genuinely essential watch, I think. I have often lamented that younger generations, who are otherwise more open and more likely to identify with and embrace queer identities, simply don't get educated in queer history, and the many generations of elders who went before us and paved the way to the world and the understanding that we have.
That education simply isn't easily available, it gets cleansed out of school systems by white supremacy and conservatism, and it gets suppressed on the internet by algorithms that are programmed to understand queerness as "advertiser unfriendly."
So thank Freja, Frigg and Frej that people like Caelan Conrad and their many collaborators are doing the heavy work of making up some of the difference. This video focuses on assimilationist- and respectability politics in the queer community, the false wedge that is being driven between gay people and their trans and queer siblings, and the long history of reactionary forces using exactly that tactic to try and stifle the drive for queer liberation.
Hear your history, so you may know who you are.
Jason Todd, I am free Friday night. I repeat, Jason Tood, I am free Friday night.
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im so normal about hobie
i definitely dont think abt him every passing moment
i love me some oscar isaac, but goddamn miguel o’hara can fight me.
idc if he’s fine asf, we fightin, u CANNOT just do what he did to my son Miles, i cannot b convinced otherwise