This Is Literally The Sweetest Thing Ever 🥺

KenyA!🖤 🇰🇪🇰🇪

Lamu Island, Kenya, Photo Sandy B

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“I want too much, she thought. I want everything. I want day and night, sleeping and waking, world without end, amen. Someone warned her once that it was fatal to tell a man you loved him. ‘What I really want,’ she said, ‘deep down, is stillness, safety. The feeling you’d always be there. I love you. I think I must have loved you without knowing it all my life.’”

— Daphne Du Maurier, Don’t Look Now & Other Stories (via the-book-diaries)

Script Your Desired Life -Part 1-

I was worried the post would be too long to read in 1 sitting, so I decided to publish it in parts because I miss my blog :(

Y’all. I love making subliminals, blockage removals and boosters for myself, but sometimes I want to dramatize and exaggerate my current life. I’m tired of wanting to drown myself out of my current life and watch other’s realities on shows or what they show online.

Now, I’m bored of *that* attitude. I always want to be in euphoria.

💎 Exaggerate, exaggerate, EXAGGERATE, your daily routine!

Before Dawn

If I wake up around and unable to fall back asleep, I’ll have a handful of organic blueberries and a shot of cold brew to wake myself up. I have an early morning class and falling back asleep will throw my schedule off.

In the Morning

Instead of “I wake up excitedly at 5AM,” it’s, “I step out of bed into my cutest house shoes with the sound of my waterfall white noise machine cascading me into a 5:00 morning. Vitamins? In my greens. I already have on under eye masks and a glass of whole starfruit juice for an energy boost. Am I in the mood for more fruit juice, iced coffee or cold brew? Cold brew, then decaf for the rest of the day.

“I am feeling the beneficial effects of coffee every millisecond”

I can’t wait to use my rich b— Breville with my homemade, toasted croissants covered in honey butter with my espresso accidentally tasting the same since I did dip it in. Does white chocolate espresso and honey butter croissants taste weird together to anyone else?

I’m going to have perfect marks when I go back to school. My commute is a breeze & my morning dragonfruit smoothies make the experience even better.

It’s not the writing that should be exaggerated as a point, that’s only being more descriptive. Play a sparkling noise as you wash your face, study, anything! You’re the character you dreamed of.

⚠️ Be ready, this will feel out of body ⚠️

When I feel out of body, I have unlimited amounts of energy, confidence and clarity.

Exaggerate your morning by applying the perfect lacquer you have on your nightstand to stand up tall, a continental breakfast in bed, pulling out your perfume and makeup book to layer your scents. Sheesh, buy an electric kettle for early morning tea.

For dreary days, script a contingency plan such as drinking hot cinnamon tea or mango boba, applying siren makeup with sparkly blues & greens, leaving early to where you need to be, bubble wrapping your personal coffee/tea cup to be used in public. For example, “Rain never showers the same. I look out of my window in wonder with my favorite rain shoes on and how easy my trip will be, but enough daydreaming.

💍💍 Allow yourself to be inspired by parts of your personal favorites that scare you.

What is my favorite color(s)? Wellll, society is telling me my favorite color is pink because periwinkle is unusual for a woman like me. No ma’am???

For example’s sake, I drive a Ford Fusion. Not anymore. I drive a Tesla Model Y to university.

💎💎💎 Now, EXAGGERATE your habits & favorites. Ask yourself why you are really afraid of expressing yourself to the fullest. Is it because you’re worried about how you’ll be perceived in other’s conscious minds? Is the attention you’ll garner frightening?? Or exciting?

You love perfumes? Try ouds with other fragrance mediums to layer your scents like a plush throw on a mattress.

Separate your perfumes by sexiness, sweetness and mellowness.

I love getting my lashes done. Go above and beyond your usual options such as classic, hybrid and volume for styles such as cat eye, glamorous, *more/less fans*, a dollop of color, dramatic bottom lashes or lash lifts with bottom lashes.

I craft inspire lists. These are items I buy at 1 time as a routine shopping day. Wishlists and dream items are banned from my vocabulary.

✨✨✨✨ Play your unconscious conscious’ mind games. You know what you really want. Your unconscious conscious’ mind’s world is your fantasy land. Unshackle yourself from self limitations of not being good enough or less disciplined to complete your goals due to your upbringing.

If you lay in bed hours after you’ve woken up, questioning why you won’t get up when you have the energy to get out of bed, write in your script, “I am making omniscient decisions about my life at the speed of the multiverse,” with, “I have unlimited energy and storage for processing ideas for my life [at the speed of the multiverse],”

If you have to ask yourself if you're 110% in control of your life, you haven’t forced your free will entirely.

Go speak your entire mind when your reputation is questioned in front of others.

Be Luxury, Live Luxury.

Dear Jesus, Please take this Wheel....

This is VERY relatable.

advice for giving my life to god and let him take over? I’ve been so worried about rejection and anxiety about making friends and just been happy in life. I’ve been obsessing over it,and I need to let it go and give it to him. Any advice and favorite bible verses?🤍

Tips on How To Give Your Life To God:

- Pray 3 times a day: morning, afternoon, and night (it is not going to be easy and you are going to get lazy, but that is what is expected of you because you are only human, but you MUST gain power over your flesh) this is your communication with God prioritize it because he hears you and knows his son/daughters desires 

 - Read your Bible: find out what the bible says for itself (not from a sermon, devotional, friends, family, society) the bible is actually very interesting, and again the Word of God is healing and transformative. He has made the impossible possible multiple times because I was using his word. Psalm is pretty easy to read so you can start out with reading one chapter from Psalm every day.

- Clean your environment: take a break from the movies, tv shows, books, and yes music that contains negative things in them. These things consume your mind and distract you, and they might be the reason why you are thinking about rejection and anxiety when it comes to making friends. Give it a break and when YOU ARE READY (if God gives you that conviction) take it out of your life.

- Worship Sessions: Find Christian music that you like! If you don’t know the words, look it up, and just shout the lyrics as loud as possible! Have fun, dance, and cry. Worshiping is so powerful and I always feel a connection with Jesus when I worship. It is so intimate. (I like to do this in my room alone lol I do not like people watching me, but I also worship hard in church too, but I really go all out in my room)

- Fasting: DO NOT fast if you are not spiritually ready. When I was younger I tried to fast when I was not ready and it was the worst thing ever for me. You have to be intentional! You do not have to do a food fast completely, fasting is just taking something away that you know your flesh loves and cannot live without, because by doing so, you are showing Jesus he is the only one that you need to live, and you can live on the Word of God! (I do a social media, tv, music, and tv fast to cleanse my mind) You can do a 5 hr fast, 6am-6pm, water fast, a full day, a week, whatever you feel comfortable with but just take baby steps. but GIIIIRRRL fasts are the biggest ways to grow closer to God and get big prayers answered (if it is His will for you), you feel untouchable coming out of a fast.

*Again these things will feel weird first starting out, its like eating vegetables, it feels weird, but its good for you plus growing closer to God is beyond being just good for you, its life-changing-- YOU ARE about to be on the winning team*

Fav. Verse when I am feeling tired, scared, discouraged: 

28 Do you not know?    Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God,    the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary,    and his understanding no one can fathom. 29 He gives strength to the weary    and increases the power of the weak. 30 Even youths grow tired and weary,    and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the Lord    will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;    they will run and not grow weary,    they will walk and not be faint.

(Isaiah 40: 28-31)

“In the 1950s kids lost their innocence. They were liberated from their parents by well-paying jobs, cars, and lyrics in music that gave rise to a new term —the generation gap. In the 1960s, kids lost their authority. It was a decade of protest—church, state, and parents were all called into question and found wanting. Their authority was rejected, yet nothing ever replaced it. In the 1970s, kids lost their love. It was the decade of me-ism dominated by hyphenated words beginning with self. Self-image, Self-esteem, Self-assertion….It made for a lonely world. Kids learned everything there was to know about sex and forgot everything there was to know about love, and no one had the nerve to tell them there was a difference. In the 1980s, kids lost their hope. Stripped of innocence, authority and love and plagued by the horror of a nuclear nightmare, large and growing numbers of this generation stopped believing in the future. In the 1990s kids lost their power to reason. Less and less were they taught the very basics of language, truth, and logic and they grew up with the irrationality of a postmodern world. In the new millennium, kids woke up and found out that somewhere in the midst of all this change, they had lost their imagination. Violence and perversion entertained them till none could talk of killing innocents since none was innocent anymore.”  ― Ravi Zacharias, Recapture the Wonder

tell us tips of how to be a confident woman

To be confident you need to be a self sufficient individual in ALL aspects, from your finances, personal growth and self sufficient in your self esteem (others opinions of you have little to no relevancy on how you view yourself, your self-perception comes entirely from within).

A confident woman stands up for what she believes in and is not easily persuaded from her opinions or values by people. She doesn't worry about pleasing others but about getting her business done and making sure her presence is felt, regardless of who likes it or not. She owns and takes space without being overbearing. She is on top of her game and is constantly looking for ways to outgrow the person she was the day before.

Confident women are quiet, they don't feel the need to call the attention or announce their moves because they have nothing to prove, she relies on her internal knowing that she is capable of achieving the goals in her life and the applause of an audience is not needed.

A confident woman is proactive on keeping her physical appearance very polished, from the way she dresses to her commitment to being fit and healthy, not in an attempt to attract attention, but as a way of improving herself because she knows that her sense of self will be higher is she looks and feels good.

A confident woman has a resilient mentality, if she falls, she stands back up. If she feels distressed, she gets her emotions out and allows herself to feel all the emotions that make her human, but after that she's ready to move on and not allow her sentiments to overpower her rationale.

Confident women aren't easily impressed, they know their worth and who they are, so they expect others to impress them, the power dynamics are usually in their favor.

Confident women are intellectually proficient, they read and are masters of different subjects. They know that their brain is one of their main assets, so they keep pushing themself to exercise their intellect by learning new things constantly.

I could go on and on, but these are the things that come to my mind at the moment 💗.

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

(source)

Keep me updated? xx

Jeeez.

watercolor asks

zinc white; how are you really feeling today? no one-word answers please!

cadmium yellow; when you think of the word “happy” what’s the first thing that comes to mind?

lemon; what’s your comfort food?

hansa yellow; what’s your guilty pleasure song?

yellow ochre; name an artist/band whom you just discovered & can’t get enough of!

naples yellow; where do you feel most at home?

raw sienna; with whom do you feel most at home?

golden ochre; describe the relationship you have with your closest friend.

golden deep; what’s your favorite season?

cadmium orange; what do you like to do on your days off?

orange lake; do you have anyone you can turn to when you’re sad?

titans; do you prefer slow mornings or relaxing evenings?

shakhnazaryan red; are you currently binge-watching anything?

red ochre; are you more right-brained (creative) or left-brained (analytical)?

burnt sienna; is there a painting that brings you peace when you look at it?

english red; what animal do you relate to most?

vermilion; what’s your favorite accent?

cadmium red; do you have a “type” when it comes to a significant other?

scarlet; describe your current crush/es.

ruby; what does your ideal first date look like?

carmine; what does your ideal second date look like?

madder lake red; would you ever kiss someone (or accept a kiss) on a first date?

rose; what’s something really positive going on in your life right now?

quinacridone rose; what’s something you’re really looking forward to?

violet rose; what does your dream house look like?

violet; is there any place in particular you’d like to settle down?

blue lake; what would you like to do/accomplish before you settle down?

cobalt blue spectral; what is the most beautiful place you have ever been to?

ultramarine; when was the last time you were in a good mood? do you know/remember what sparked it?

blue; what’s the most recent dream you remember?

bright blue; what does your dream family look like? any kids or pets? how many of each?

blue cobalt; do you like your name? would you give yourself a different name if you could?

prussian azure; what’s your favorite scent?

azure blue; what’s your favorite type of tea, if any?

turquoise blue; if you could start a garden, what would you plant?

cerulean blue; if you were guaranteed to have a viewership, would you start a youtube vlog?

glauconite; describe your body without using any negative adjectives.

yellow green; picture yourself walking in a field. what do you see & hear in this scenario?

green light; are you in a comfortable place in life? if not, what do you think might make it better?

green; name three countries you want to visit; do you have any actual plans in place to visit any of them?

emerald green; do you speak any languages besides english? are there any additional languages you want to learn?

oxide of chromium; what’s your favorite book?

olive green; are you currently reading anything? how do you like it so far?

mars brown; what’s a movie that always puts a smile on your face/makes you laugh?

burnt umber; what’s something you plan to do before the day is over to take care of yourself?

umber; have you drank enough water today?

voronezhskaya black; what or who is your go-to outlet for when you need to vent?

sepia; name five things that always make you happy.

indigo; what’s the best/sweetest compliment you have ever received?

payne’s gray; describe your aesthetic?

black; post a selfie because you are so beautiful!