It Takes An Inhuman Amount Of Strength For Me Not To Say To My They/them Friend “no You Were Not ‘serving

They've been writing "OP is a TERF" on my posts for 10 years. 10 years. I check their bio and they are 30 years old now. It's not a new generation of idiots, it's the same idiots. They have not matured at all. They're 30 and they still fight against the feminazi boogeyman. "OP is a TERF". And every time, all I take from it is: "OP is a feminist who doesn't believe sexist stereotypes are identities and that upsets me somehow." Or "OP is a feminist who doesn't believe in gendered souls and that upsets me somehow." Or simply "OP is a feminist and that upsets me somehow."

During those 10 years, I have not seen the emergence of any other acronym used to designate any other group that is critical of the gender fandom. No "TECA" trans exclusionary conservative american. No "TELM" trans exclusionary leftist man. No "TEC" trans exclusionary celebrity. No "TEP" trans exclusionary parents. No "TEMP" trans exclusionary medical professionals. None of that. Therefore, I have not seen threats and insults that are specifically tailored towards any of these demographics. I have, however, seen a lot of "art" depicting the supposed radical feminist stinky vulvas, a lot of threats detailing how we should be raped and have our breasts cut off and a lot of signs with hanged women on them.

So, it's 2025, and what have the big bad radical feminists done really? What crimes have been committed? 10 years of screeching and crying and panicking over a branch of feminism, and for what? What have "TERFs" done? They wrote words on the internet? They printed stickers? Signed petitions? What? You decided to reduce their feminism to "trans exclusionary" but it looks like they've had their hands full with all the other issues that women face. Of course you were never really scared of radical feminists. People don't harass and threaten those they fear. You just enjoy attacking women. And for 10 years you've been pretending to be oppressed by feminists, like a fucking incel, and you've got nothing to show for it. The jig is up. "op is a terf" is a laughable catchphrase and nothing more.

has anyone else noticed the shocking amount of pro-pedophilia sentiment on this site recently. Because i have noticed it . and sometimes it's under the guise of supporting Everyone and not doing "puritan callout culture" or whatever but i've also seen people say, like, "you have to support weird freaks even the ones with unethical dangerous paraphilias" and act like you're the weird one if you go hey wait a minute. i think pedophilia is bad actually. Like has anyone else noticed this because i feel crazy rn

Sometimes it's really really concerning how much anti-psychiatry and anti-recovery rhetoric exists-- and for once I'm not just talking about endos, but even within the OSDDID internetsphere, especially in actively pro self dx circles. It's not to say that you can't or shouldn't work on things away from a healthcare team, but with chronic and intensely debilitating disorders it is rare, if not impossible to fully be "fine" without help.

Like. If you're experiencing dissociative amnesia or memory/identity issues in general (even when caused by things as innocuously treated online like ADHD if it's at a debilitating level), you NEED someone who isn't affected by those things in order to have a sense of grounding and heal. And it's vital for that to be someone who has a baseline understanding of how dissociative disorders work.

My caseworker calls are sometimes the only thing giving me any sense of the passage of time, and she remembers things during calls that I completely forget or dissociate through. Not even my partner can consistently provide this because of her time blindness, vs the professional who reaches out, doesn't have a disorder affecting her memory, and takes notes during our calls.

My therapy visits, as infrequent as they've been lately, are some of the only reason why we've made progress toward one of our alters no longer making contact with our abusers when she fronts, and that fight isn't over yet. My partner can't stop her from doing it-- she'll wait until they're asleep. They also don't have the resources or bandwidth to address with her why doing this is bad, and if they intervene incorrectly it increases the chance that one day I wake up in another state.

I get from firsthand experience that healthcare, especially in the US, is notoriously inaccessible, and in some places the facilities available are full of inexperienced, incompassionate tools who don't care about their patients. But instead of using that as an excuse to stop trying, instead of pushing others into not seeking care and not trusting doctors, that needs to get channeled into finding and providing resources.

Many states have government funded healthcare available for those below the poverty line. Many facilities offer payment scaling plans even without insurance. A fair amount of insurance companies that "don't cover this" will make exceptions if you go through other channels and get professional referrals. It's not easy, it's not always free, and it's not fast. For those underage, it may be awhile before you can legally access it.

But for the love of all that is sacred on this burning planet, do NOT discourage trauma survivors from trying to get psychiatric help over the potential of a bad experience or a bad doctor. You are not helping people heal and learn to love themselves. You are creating paranoia and enforcing a regressive mentality that can prevent someone from reaching out before its too late.

"you can't find me annoying or the conservatives win!" is an opinion a disturbing number of people have

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/03/25/woke-institutions-backpedalling-on-trans-ideology/

if you insist on pretending that people are oppressed for their "sex", then don't complain when you're rightfully called transphobic

does anyone else remember when women weren’t allowed to vote or is that just me?

I wonder if women who identify as men see males as the "basic, default person" in a way. TIFs dysphoria sometimes begins with discomfort toward their breasts because they've been sexualized, or the trauma inherent in puberty and getting their period, or the expectation to wear makeup or objectifying clothing - and then they think, "Well, men don't have breasts or periods. They don't have to wear makeup or clothes like that."

I wonder if it's less about truly "feeling like a male" and more about seeing the male as the standard person who does not have all these additional problems and expectations and identifying with that.

Getting the "girls can do anything and still be a girl" talk is like being handed a sword. Being told “maybe you’re a boy” when you stray from the mold? That’s a cage.

One says: you’re real.

The other says: you’re wrong.

You were never wrong. You were always you. And anyone who tried to un-girl you for not being soft enough, quiet enough, pink enough? They were scared of a girl who didn’t need permission to exist.

You didn’t need to change. The world needs to catch up.

You know that feeling when you spread your wings like you've been grounded forever, feathers tangled in the wires of their expectations and suddenly, the wind catches you? The air’s not heavy anymore, it's freedom.They tell you you're too wild for a cage, that you should be smaller, quieter, tamer. But they don’t understand you’ve always been meant to fly. Maybe you haven't even figured out your full wingspan yet, but every time you stretch, you feel the sky, vast and endless, waiting.

You were never meant to stay in the nest they built for you. The moment you left, you started becoming the bird you were always supposed to be. They can keep their cages. You’ll keep your flight.

Or something like that, I like birds....

For most people, life doesn’t truly begin until they’re 26-30 or older. The way we romanticize and obsess over youth is super harmful. Your life is not over at 21, I promise you. It’s just beginning