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being in a self shipping community generally instead of like a selfship community for a specific fandom is really weird because we’re all talking about the same thing but we’re not. we could talking about our little fictional partners or whatever planning little double dates blah blah blah and then oomf could drop “well it’s sorta complicated after the time vortex” and its like time vortex? your man was in a time vortex? who put your man in a time vortex? is he. is he good or like

Big fan of selfshippers who have a s/I with no lore. Like. No story. Just kissing that fictional character. Or even better if they exist for different aus rather than sticking to one time-line.

Pathetic

sigchuu.....................

SEAFOOD IS GROSS AND SMELLY AND ah i see why you like it now ……… AND HAS A WEIRD TEXTURE . YYYUCK !!!!!!!!!

soooooo i’m granting you immortality . i’ll find a way … no more suicide …. take that fucker

you’re helping make the hashbrowns .. if i read that right … ??? ouuu …. actually i’m good it’s okay …….

— chiikawa beef ( mod ik i interact with this blog a LOT uuhuhu if it’s too much just lmk and i will back off /gen !!!! ☆☆☆ sorry #anxious #audhd /lh)

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i’m helping with the CRAB actually. and i make a LOT of crab so i know what i’m doing…

i’ll leave that up to your imagination …..

your beliefs are WRONG then . when will you accept it dazai…… my gaydar is beeping……

does the horrid sorry genuine typo glorious demon prodigy have a favorite anon………

— guess ( might be obvious ) ( I ACTUALLY ACCIDENTALLY PUT HORRID LMFAO ) ( fuckjign idk if i should clarify all slash lh slash nf2a idk. yeah scurries off )

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i have no favourites because i’m waiting for dream girl anon to come by and sweep me off my feet…..

but i’d have to say gun anon i think!!!!

and i am not horrid. I’M OFFENDED

there's a word for people like them

ily people who write angst into your selfship lore.

ily people who have the craziest, most convoluted selfship lore known to man.

ily people who write tropey selfship lore, like enemies to lovers or friends to lovers or found family or enemies to friends.

ily people who write selfship lore that has NOTHING to do with canon at all

ily people who base their selfship lore on preexisting canon characters or fanfiction or ocs.

ily people who base their selfship lore on songs or poems or specific canon dialogue.

ily people who have no selfship lore at all.

ily people who make a crazy amount of aus with their selfship, like coffee shop aus or vampire aus or soulmate aus.

ily people who aren't afraid to "be cringe" in their selfship lore, make "Mary Sue's" or overpowered s/is or whatever people think is lame.

keep doin u

Hey, so remember that cyber bullying is lame as fuck and we don't like people who do that? *edited with more information

Content warning for talk of bullying, body shaming, threats of harm, joking about sexual trauma, and like, manipulation?

So the tl;dr is there's a person who I've been recently warned about that's rejoined the selfship community. They've hurt two people I know personally and care deeply for. I'm making this post because they don't wish for the attention to be on them, which I completely understand

I don't have any personal connection to this person, however I value the words of these two people (who I will call Mutual-A and Mutual-B) and I only wish for their safety and comfort. I do not want any harm or rude things sent to this blog, simply block and move on

Reblogs would be appreciated, and I ask for people to at least skim over what I talk about under the read more. I don't feel comfortable knowing that my other mutuals interact with a person who's harmed people that I care for

^ their new user name, since I don't want to type here and accidentally find this places where it shouldn't be. I do believe they had a different selfship blog here, that has since disappeared, I think they deleted it, since I had the original blocked and this one wasn't.

Now like mentioned previously, I have no ties to this person and the only "interaction" I've had with them was seeing the incredibly rude and disgusting things they've said about Mutual-A. As a nonsharer myself and someone who fights with my mental issues, I don't think shaming someone's body and outright wishing physical violence on people who share your comfort characters is a sane or normal thing to do. If these screenshots look familiar it's because they've been taken from a post about this person in the past, when this was originally happening

Again, talk of body shaming and wishes of harm (which no matter how silly is still a threat)

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As for this second person, Mutual-B, what they've been through with them was some time ago. While Mutual-B wasn't a victim of harassment to as big of scale as Mutual-A, I still think their feelings on the matter are important to highlight. I don't have screenshots of these ordeals in particular, only word of mouth, but I trust this person deeply, and never before have they tried to bad mouth anyone without reason. On multiple occasions with this person Mutual-B has told me they threatened to call out B as a p.ro.shipper, something THEY ARE NOT, simply for reblogging or interacting with posts with tags they didn't already have filtered out. I've know B for a while now and I can tell you that it's simply not true

Warning for jokes of sexual trauma/SA and manipulation

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That's all. Once again reminding to NOT attack this person, just block and move on. For a community built on self love and comfort I don't find any of this shit to be acceptable to have in it

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EDIT, because apparently we're not done here.

Since making this post, this person (will be referring to them/her as Rot) has since made a post addressing the situation. I'm also adding on more screenshots found by myself and others (apologize for the quality of some, as they're taken from my computer due to the picture limit) Going to go ahead and add another content warning for talk of SA/a character who has committed it, will add more warnings if needed

First thing Rot talks about in her post is how her interaction with Moot-A was a year and a half ago, which isn't true, right now it's been barely over a year and two months ago. I feel like this is a way to try to paint us badly by "Bringing up stuff from way back in the past", I understand a few months difference isn't much, this is a tiny nitpick I'm sure but it still didn't settle right with me. I can also understand if this was just plain misremembering.

Second point, as for the warning above, Rot makes it clear that she ships herself with a canonical rapist, J.immy from the game Mouthwashing. The fact he assaulted his coworker is incredibly important to the story of the game, there is no denying it or any chance that this could be some gross misinterpretation. Not that Rot tries to deny this. She understands who Jimmy is. She just choices to ignore it.

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And I find that really fucking disturbing. Considering how she assures people she doesn't condone his actions and how she says she takes SA seriously, then why the fuck would you even ship with him in the first place? Would also like to point out that if you do choose to ignore the worst flaw of his character... there's still so much more to him that's simply bad. But that's irrelevant/personal opinion. J.immy is a well written character and villain, I can agree, however he is a man who should not be touched with a ten foot pole

Considering a lot of her harassment towards A was about how bad A was for "mischaracterizing" a shared F/o and how A diverged from canon, and how much she disliked A for it, I find it very hypocritical for her to ignore J.immy's biggest flaw. The fact she doesn't mention his actions in game isn't something I didn't notice either, whether that's intentional or not I'm not sure, but it still feels gross

She and others also mention the character K.enjaku. However, I have not watched/read J.J.K. so I have no comment on that.

My final note on this is simply. I don't care if you ship with villains, I myself have multiple characters that are villains or bad people that I hold dearly. (this is a reason why i'm hesitant to talk about this in particular) however. There's just some things and characters you shouldn't fucking touch.

The last thing I will add to this edit is her stance on pro.shipp.ing. She's reprimanded past friends for reblogging posts from pro.shippers, she's threatened to call them out as pro.ship for it. She also pointblank puts on her blog that she doesn't want that part of the community to interact with her. Except she still continues to reblog posts with the pro tags. People make mistakes, but the fact she's scolded and threatened people for doing the same while these posts get to stay on her blog upsets me

**I've also been given screenshots of dark content she's reblogged. Now I do agree with the statement that dabbling in darker themes with ships is fine (there's some big scary ""n*ance"" in that comment). I won't shame someone for enjoying fucking idk kidnapping or unhealthy relationship dynamics. Again, I don't think I'm the right person to play holier than thou on a high horse, but I feel it's worth mentioning since someone went as far as to send me those screenshots.

Warning for allusions to SA in the 3rd/nonfiltered post

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^^ last screenshot is added simply because nonsharervents has a "bad rep" because OP is neutral to/allows pro.shippers to interact

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Your F/O loves you no matter what. Not just when you feel good about yourself or when you’re laughing at your own jokes, but even when you’re curled up in bed, tired and overwhelmed just from being alive. They love you when you’re crying and don’t know why, when you cancel plans last minute because everything feels too loud, or when you’re quiet and don’t have the energy to talk. They love you on the days when your clothes don’t feel right and you don’t like what you see in the mirror. When your skin is acting up, when your voice shakes, when you’re too nervous to speak or too tired to smile. Even if you’ve been distant or moody or feel like you’re too much—they don’t see you as broken. They see someone real, someone who deserves love.

They love you when you’re doing well, when you’re laughing so hard you can’t breathe, when you talk excitedly about something you love. But they’re also right there when you forget to eat, when your hands shake, when you’re crying at 2 AM and feel like nobody could ever understand you. They don’t just love the good parts of you, they love all of you. And they’ll stay through every hard moment, remind you how much you matter, and be right there—whether you need a hug, a quiet moment, or just someone to sit with. That’s how strong their love is. Don’t you ever forget it too!