unsung benefit i think a lot of ppl are sleeping on with using the public library is that i think its a great replacement for the dopamine hit some ppl get from online shopping. it kind of fills that niche of reserving something that you then get to anticipate the arrival of and enjoy when it arrives, but without like, the waste and the money.
The Beguiled, dir. Sofia Coppola, cinematographer Philippe Le Sourd (2017)
My favorite part is the fact that they are in essence a sharp and pointy weighted blanket.
Okay another post made me think of this but
Journaling prompts to find your identity when you're drowning in labels and subcultures
Let me be real with you. I'm a teenager, as I assume most of you reading this are (And if you're not, that's totally OK), and trying to find your identity often means trying on persona after persona, hoping that someday something will fit. Which, yes, it will, but I personally believe writing it out and exploring is so much more rewarding (and so much less embarrassing).
This is like writing a discord intro. Include your (Actual, chosen) name, gender identity, and so on, if you would like, but the most important part isn't that obvious.
How do I feel about my nationality? Am I proud of where I live? If I had to choose somewhere, anywhere to live, where would I choose?
What are my feelings towards my assigned gender? Where do I fall on the spectrum? Is my energy more masculine or feminine, or completely neutral?
What is my body image like? What do I like about the way I look, and what do I don't?
Do I actually feel like my bodily age? Younger, older?
Am I aligned with 'Human nature'? Do I enjoy being human, or would I rather be something else?
By taking these traits you were born with and evaluating, you start to get an idea of what you identify with, and what you don't. This is very important, but people often don't question things like this, as they seem a given (But end up unhappy with their view of themselves).
Divide your page into a left side and a right side. On the left, write down your real-life answers to these questions. On the right, write what your 100% ideal version of yourself would say. Then compare.
How do I feel about going to school / university / my job?
How do I wake up feeling in the morning?
How do I express myself? (Clothing, makeup, art, music)
What does my friendship circle / lack thereof look like?
How does my brain think people see me? Do I care?
What does my living space look like?
How do I treat myself? Is it fair?
What goes on daily inside my head?
What are my goals in life?
How do I react to failure / disappointment?
What is my main coping mechanism?
What is the strongest opinion I have about myself?
How do my hobbies / activities contribute to my life?
What is my biggest vice?
What am I proud of, relating to my identity?
If it doesn't match up at all, no worries. The most important step to creating an identity for yourself is knowing who you want to be. For a long time I had no idea, and ended up becoming someone I strongly disliked, which is counterintuitive and mentally draining.
Get yourself a blank piece of paper, and write down as many things as you can that interest you, describe you, or that you love. It doesn't have to be cohesive, follow a theme or anything like that, just words on a page. I'll do an example here:
Boba tea, meditation, blogging, Laufey, Cinnamoroll, studying, wonyoungism, skincare, medical dramas, Murakami, dusty pink, journaling, aquarium, cats, that girl/boy, Turkish delight, vanilla
As a highly visual person, I make collages from Pinterest all the time, and making one or a couple for yourself, or who you want to be, is a great exercise for identity and manifestation. Ideas for what to put on:
Photos related to your aesthetic
Indoor design that speaks to you
Photos of your hobbies
Items you would love to own, or already do
'Goals': photos of good grades, your desired appearance, money etc.
Fashion styles that you wear, or wish you could
Your future occupation
Photos conveying your mood lately
Media (Games, books, movies, shows) that you really enjoy
Your favourite album
An example:
Feel free to reply to this post with your answers!
𓂃˖ ࣪⊹ Kakao
i’m determined to keep my heart soft. to not let bitterness take root within me.
hi! please could you recommend cheap fragrance free moisturisers, suncream and cleansers (both oil and water based), as well as body wash, shampoo and conditioner? :) thank you ♡
Hi Nonnie! Of course!
For Drugstore fragrance-free products in the $5-$15 per product range, I really like CereVe for facial skincare, they have a foaming oil cleanser. They're too mass-market for my tastes. However, they are dermatologist-recommended and affordable. I also believe some of their packaging is recyclable, but check with your recycling provider to see what plastics they accept and don't accept.
They also have fragrance-free sunscreens with and without tint if you're looking for something with more of a BB Cream effect, and an AM and PM moisturizer pair, with the AM moisturizer having SPF 30 built-in.
As far as body wash & shampoo, I'm honestly not sure about fragrance-free products, I'm sure there are plenty out there. However, I switched to an all-in-one castile soap from Dr Bronners for my body, face, and hair (which is unscented), and I really just use natural oils to condition my hair. I also home-make a lot of my skincare & hair care, and I'll be posting skincare & beauty recipes soon to help you ladies start crafting your skincare from food-grade ingredients.
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Weekly Date Night
I'm pet sitting for my "Bonus Parents" (the parents of one of my oldest friends) this week in a lovely 1700s farm house and had permission from them to bring BoyToy over for date night this week. We cuddled into the couch after chatting about the features of the house we'd like in our own future farmette and watched the Lord of The Rings extended editions. As it got colder in the evening, we snuggled in with my dogs and the dog I'm dog sitting and built a fire in the great room. It was absolutely lovely. We got takeout barbecue from the honkytonk we met at and just generally had a great time having a lazy night in with the dogs.
Craving another shopping trip like this but with Philosophy for the body care and fragrance.
Collective VS Haul- Iconic VS Stripe, Bras & Panties, Body Care/ Fragrance, My Faves 🎀🖤💕