Here's the thing:
Cis people really do feel like the gender they were assigned at birth.
Cis women really do feel like women, and cis men really do feel like men. They experience what we would call gender euphoria related to dressing and expressing themselves as their gender, whether that's in a femme way or a butch way or any other way. They feel joy and connection with their gender, with their sexuality and how it relates to their gender. They wear clothes, participate in activities, and express themselves in ways that affirm their gender identity.
Gender critical radfems and terfs will try to convince you that "no woman feels like a woman". They do this for several reasons. Firstly, it's to try to convince trans men they aren't trans, they're just women with no connection to womanhood because "no woman feels a connection to womanhood". They also do it to try to discredit trans women, by saying "If you feel like a woman, then you're clearly not a woman, because "woman" isn't a feeling, it's biology".
A lot of gender critical terfs and radfems claim they are "dysphoric women", and will try to convince you this is a normal state of womanhood. I'm gonna go out on a limb and say no, that doesn't sound normal at all, actually. Most women do not secretly wish they could be men, or more androgynous, or have a penis. Most women don't define their lives through suffering - they love being women.
If womanhood - or manhood - is making you miserable... you might be trans, or you might be gender nonconforming. See if dressing a different way makes you feel a spark of joy and happiness - seek euphoria!
Gender should be joyous, not drudgery.
Sometimes the line between being a sort of masculine woman and a sort of feminine man is so thin that you’ve fallen from one side to the other without noticing
TERFs do not only fucking hate trans women you IDIOTS
Terfs are radical feminists so they believe man bad woman good masculinity bad femininity good
So if you're a trans woman they hate you for supposedly being a Bad Man trying to be a Good Woman ("we're gonna rat you out and hurt you and jail you and kill you for being secretly the dangerous gender")
And if you're a trans man they hate you for supposedly being a Good Woman trying to be a Bad Man ("we're going to isolate you from all your communities and your family and rape you and abuse you until you stop trying to Betray Womanhood and become the dangerous gender and everyone knows we gotta KILL the dangerous gender cause yeah we do that too") and then the liberals are like "Well you're not really trans right? I don't see anything on the internet about trans men so obviously you're just a butch lesbian right" and queer people are like "well Trans Boys 👶 (clearly the best term to use) have it a lot easier than Trans Women 👩🦰 (adults, more mature) so we don't really need to mention them ever do we. It's kinda MRA Not All Men to say you wanna be represented and mentioned isn't it? I think actually if you like being so masculine you better just shut up and protect us instead" and trans people are like "haha wittle tboy wittle binder baby ukulele light brown fluffy hair everything about you is cringe never speak up ever ever ever"
I'm getting off track here
You get my point. Though.
“can I be a trans man and a lesbian?” “can I go on T if I identify as a woman?” “can I go on estrogen if I identify as a man?” “can I be a lesbian and bisexual?” “can I be asexual and still into kink?” “can I get top surgery and only use she/her pronouns?” “can I—” listen to me. listen to me closely. look into my eyes and hold my hand. the universe has been around for 13.7 billion years. no listen to me. your life is so infinitely precious. your time on this earth is like a drop of water in ten billion oceans. your body and your mind has been molded by the collective evolution of 120 billion bodies. 120 billion bodies have lived and breathed and loved and lost and laughed and touched and cried and screamed and died. you will never be here ever again. the universe will keep going for billions of more years and you will never ever see it. the earth will die and you will be an atom floating in a distant star.
you can do whatever the fuck you want forever.
i propose that instead of pride month, we have queer year (queer people are treated like actual people all year long)
edit: @ilackhumanqualities wins best addition to this post
Fun game for Pride Month:
When you're at a event, count how many people with mobility aids there are. If it seens low, think about why that might be. Count how many disabled bathrooms. Count how many unavoidable steps. Try and find one accessibility issue at the event and afterwards contact the organisers to ask them to fix it.
Many disabled queer people are left out of the Pride moth celebrations due to accessibility issues, so if you're able to be there, you're already in a position to make it better.
Don't forget your disabled siblings this Pride!
Bohatyrka by sculptor Vasily Korchevoy
at the end of the day youre just never going to be able to convince me that white women talking over men of color is feminist praxis.
it isnt new, it isnt radical, and we arent going to get anywhere until you reckon with the fact that being a woman doesnt mean you cant be racist towards people with "male privilege"
Posting it instead of reblogging it so this is harder to hide/get rid of for the staff<3
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