Happy Tdov My Loves. Don't Let Anyone Else Define Your Transness For You.

Happy Pride Month

Sometimes Tumblr is a lot like trying to explain a toddler that you can't eat bugs and spiders because that's bad for you, and then someone shows up to lecture you about how spiders are a completely different class from insects, also you got "centipede" and "millipede" mixed up, so obviously you don't know anything about what you're talking about.

And if you try to answer like "do you want me to just let this kid just eat bugs or what", they'll get offended because correcting you about being wrong has nothing to do with implying that anyone would be eating bugs off the ground, obviously nobody is stupid enough to be doing that in the first place, that's a straw man and insulting to every group of people ever.

And then you look up at the other side of the yard and the toddler is there right back at it, slurping up centipedes like spagetti.

When a cis man gets offended and says, "Not all men," it is generally in the context that he feels he is personally being attacked as an individual, and said to try and halt a conversation on sociopolitical issues that he is not generally a victim of (benefits from, even).

When transmascs get offended and say, "Not all men," it is generally in the context of them feeling erased from a sociopolitical perspective on the basis of their nuanced identity (not a cis man but not a woman-- or, in the case of some genderfluid / multigender individuals, not just a woman), and said to try and broaden a conversation on sociopolitical issues (because they are far deeper than just, "masculinity as a whole is evil, and men are trash") that they are being othered from, despite facing said sociopolitical issues as a victim of them.

Whether you acknowledge this or not, you having the same exact negative reaction to both instances is a reflection of a cisgender-centric worldview.

A Reminder

Palestine is not over. Palestine is not dead. Gaza, the West Bank, the entire region between the river and the sea, and the various countries across the world where refugees have fled to, house a surviving people and surviving culture. Palestine is not dead, and WILL NOT die.

I'm seeing a lot of very valid despair online, but if you're someone like me, living a privileged life in a Western country NOT under active bombardment, and which is actually COMPLICIT to some degree in that bombardment: we don't get to give up. Not now, not ever.

You can still get involved in protests or direct actions (e.g. blocking supply), you can still donate eSims or fund UNRWA on your government's behalf, you can still hassle the crap out of your local MP. No, it won't roll back the harm that's already been committed, but all of those things are STILL WORTH DOING. PEOPLE ARE STILL ALIVE OVER THERE. PALESTINE IS STILL WORTH SAVING.

If you've bothered to read this far, you're probably already aware of what's going on over there right now. If not, check out Al Jazeera's fantastic coverage. But also remember that Palestine, and Palestinian culture, is more than just death and despair. Examples below:

Long live Palestine, from the river to the sea.

people making fun of trans masc and men’s names always falls so flat, because they tend to be some of the most beautiful and classic male names that exist? liam, will, jack, finn, izzy, viktor, lucas, theo etc . and you know if we were instead en masse choosing names like apollo, achilles, hades, dionysus they’d find a reason to make us feel pathetic for it too. one can make anything look stupid if you try hard enough, and people try really hard when it comes to trans men and mascs and what we choose to do with our own autonomy.

Lmao.

A visitor came up to me at work and thanked me for wearing a he/him pin and “being an ally to the trans community” and “how important it is that cis people normalize sharing pronouns” and BRUH I am SOARING rn

And transphobes still be out here saying “wE CaN aLWaYs tEll”

This just in: “Trans Man Rolls a Nat 20 For Stealth”

You really are a pathetic individual reblogging this on a blog about a minor venting you keep saying leftists need to be sent to an asylum but you're really just projecting what the hell is wrong with you

I hope you die alone<3

I'm a trans guy, I'm still a minor I live with my parents and my little sister I've tried explaining dysphoria to them in so many ways it's driving me insane I've tried explaining chest dysphoria as feeling like my breasts are tumors(cause that's what they feel like to me) I've tried explaining voice dysphoria as feeling like someone else's voice is coming out of my mouth, I've tried explain that when I look in the mirror it feels like the wrong person is looking back but it still just gets treated like an insecurity or like I'm being dramatic I'm not insecure I don't think I'm ugly I just think I look incorrect and I don't know how to explain it to them when I've tried in so many ways I might as well try learning another language to explain it in that one

I'm constantly misgendered I get deadnamed all the time and then get treated like the bad guy when I get frustrated or upset I've been openly trans for over a year most of the adults in my life do not know I'm trans cause my parents haven't told them and they completely ignore pronouns pins or the fact people are referring to me as a guy or in a gender neutral manner they act like they're being inconvenience by having to use the correct pronouns and name and gendered terms, like me doing things to feel more comfortable in my body is an annoyance to them, I get slightly side eyed when I talk about my dysphoria and wanting to go on testosterone or top surgery

hell they've tried making me promise I won't medically transition till I'm 21 which is bullshit because I've told them how I've literally fucking cried because of how badly I wish I was more masculine, told them how it feels like the person in the mirror is wrong, like my voice isn't my own, I've told them how much distress my dysphoria caused me and they don't give a fuck and then I get yelled at and punished and mocked when I get upset

I have been told to my face before by my mom that she wishes she wishes I was a cishet Christian girl who wasn't asexual and who wanted kids(I'm paraphrasing because my memory hates my guts and I can't remember the exact wording) while she knew I was openly trans and in a long term relationship with a woman I'm expected to sympathize with how hard changing how they talk is for them but they don't seem to give a shit that it's not just difficult for me it's distressing and damaging to my mental health

But they're not transphobic right?/s

But they're so supportive right?/s

God I can't fucking wait to move out

My dad can get so drunk that he literally can't walk and be forgiven the next day even though it could literally kill him even though he's supposed to stop drinking but I can't even take birth control that keeps me from having periods every month🙄