In Regard To My Prior Trans Sky Post.

"trans men transition because they hate women and femininity" I've literally never seen a group of men who felt so guilty and ashamed of their masculinity and being male or who loved and supported women and femininity as much as trans men in my life but ok. just throw away their support it's whatever

you're allowed to love being trans if you:

just came out

havent transitioned and dont plan to

have known you are trans for years but kept it to yourself

don't want surgery or hormones

dont disclose your trans status or genders to other people

dont change your name

never have dysphoria

your transness is tied to your neurodivergence

your transness is tied to your nonhuman identity

dont feel like you have a gender or gendered experience

feel like gender isn't really that important

are intersex

are two-spirit, hijra, or have another cultural gender or expression identity, or "third gender"

are a person of color

are an afab demigirl

are an amab demiboy

have a complex identity

have a very simple identity

cant figure out your gender for the life of you

cross dress

do drag

present socially in ways that are "normal" for your agab

have crushing dysphoria

don't know how to pass

pass effortlessly

are a butch trans woman

are a femme trans man

are demigender

don't like to be reminded you're trans

have a very specific gender

have a gender that's specific to you and you alone

have hated being trans at one point

stopped transition and restarted it at some point

have had to change your gender, name, pronouns or presentation multiple times

change presentation a lot

have a gender that's hard or impossible to put into words

dont want to figure out what your gender is exactly

are plural/a system

are genderfluid, gnc, genderqueer, multigender, polygender, genderflux, neutrois, maverique or genderfuck

are xenogender

are a lesbian or gay

are transneutral

are transfemasc/transmascfem

..... are trans.

every trans person is allowed to love being trans. good day, love yourself today!

PLEASE REBLOG IF YOU VOTE!

I don’t know how we’re letting trump get away with all this shit when I truly believe that if you threw a blanket over his head he would think it was nighttime and go to sleep like a bird

”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.

Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.

We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.

There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.

Damn, you like to make a lot of assumptions about anyone and everyone huh? And this is why your blog is a landfill, cause everything you post is hate-filled rot I am so glad I don't know you irl because you seem like a miserable person to be around

I'm a trans guy, I'm still a minor I live with my parents and my little sister I've tried explaining dysphoria to them in so many ways it's driving me insane I've tried explaining chest dysphoria as feeling like my breasts are tumors(cause that's what they feel like to me) I've tried explaining voice dysphoria as feeling like someone else's voice is coming out of my mouth, I've tried explain that when I look in the mirror it feels like the wrong person is looking back but it still just gets treated like an insecurity or like I'm being dramatic I'm not insecure I don't think I'm ugly I just think I look incorrect and I don't know how to explain it to them when I've tried in so many ways I might as well try learning another language to explain it in that one

I'm constantly misgendered I get deadnamed all the time and then get treated like the bad guy when I get frustrated or upset I've been openly trans for over a year most of the adults in my life do not know I'm trans cause my parents haven't told them and they completely ignore pronouns pins or the fact people are referring to me as a guy or in a gender neutral manner they act like they're being inconvenience by having to use the correct pronouns and name and gendered terms, like me doing things to feel more comfortable in my body is an annoyance to them, I get slightly side eyed when I talk about my dysphoria and wanting to go on testosterone or top surgery

hell they've tried making me promise I won't medically transition till I'm 21 which is bullshit because I've told them how I've literally fucking cried because of how badly I wish I was more masculine, told them how it feels like the person in the mirror is wrong, like my voice isn't my own, I've told them how much distress my dysphoria caused me and they don't give a fuck and then I get yelled at and punished and mocked when I get upset

I have been told to my face before by my mom that she wishes she wishes I was a cishet Christian girl who wasn't asexual and who wanted kids(I'm paraphrasing because my memory hates my guts and I can't remember the exact wording) while she knew I was openly trans and in a long term relationship with a woman I'm expected to sympathize with how hard changing how they talk is for them but they don't seem to give a shit that it's not just difficult for me it's distressing and damaging to my mental health

But they're not transphobic right?/s

But they're so supportive right?/s

God I can't fucking wait to move out

My dad can get so drunk that he literally can't walk and be forgiven the next day even though it could literally kill him even though he's supposed to stop drinking but I can't even take birth control that keeps me from having periods every month🙄

It's kind of stupid and annoying as fuck to me, to be honest, when people are like "trans men need to understand that women are afraid of men for a good reason-"

I think trans men KNOW.

It is literally a THING I have seen trans men speak about a lot where they start to realize they can't speak to women and interact with them the same way they used to because now they look like cis men. I think trans men who pass as cis men are well aware of the fact that women are afraid of people who look like society's expectations of what cis men look like - they literally talk about it. THEY HAVE LIVED IT.

I'm sorry, but it's just so stupid to me - do you seriously think most trans men are not WELL AWARE of what it's like to be terrified of men the same way any other woman is? Do you seriously think most trans men aren't well aware of the fact that they cannot interact with women in the same ways they used to before they started looking like cis men?

Trans men?

The men who make TikToks about how terrified they are when they have to be around a majority cis men and pretend like they're one of them?

since theres been an uptick in transandrophobia and aphobia lately:

you need to care about and support trans men and transmasc people that are asexual or acespec

you need to care about and support trans men and transmasc people that are aromantic or arospec

you need to care about and support trans men and transmasc people that are aplatonic or aplspec

you need to care about and support trans men and transmasc people that are afamilial or afamspec

you need to care about and support trans men and transmasc people that are aspec

yeah I'm afab (assigned freak at birth)