Finding A Colorblind Friendly Redesign Of The Rainbow Flag Has Me Happy To See A Pride Flag For Once

people making fun of trans masc and men’s names always falls so flat, because they tend to be some of the most beautiful and classic male names that exist? liam, will, jack, finn, izzy, viktor, lucas, theo etc . and you know if we were instead en masse choosing names like apollo, achilles, hades, dionysus they’d find a reason to make us feel pathetic for it too. one can make anything look stupid if you try hard enough, and people try really hard when it comes to trans men and mascs and what we choose to do with our own autonomy.

right a week or so ago i saw a post re: trans masculinity about how it's silly to say the queer community doesn't devalue men cos gay men are often the centre of attention and the main 'representation' of the community, and i hear that, acknowledge it, whatever

but you acknowledge that's a specific type of gay man, right? usually skinny, white, a 'twink', if you will - effeminate if not outright femmy, heavily embellished in drag culture and 'the scene'. rarely (and mostly online, maybe different outside the UK) does it include black men too though they are usually also skinny and 'twinks' (and obviously in different countries this will also centre/include different races. don't be obtuse with me here. they're still usually skinny and ablebodied still).

meanwhile bears are viewed as a rarity, 'actually they're so masculine but they're very nice!' which is backhanded lol; whenever a 'masculine' looking [straight] man is a little bit effeminate they get assumed to be gay, but masculine looking masculine acting men don't get this assumption; masculine presenting and acting trans men (and neither are trans women or nonbinary people who fit this bill) aren't included in so-called 'safe spaces' for cis women, trans people, nonbinary people; any masculine looking guy in a gay space is assumed to be a threat first; every masculine gay guy i know feels a little bit annoyed/irritated that they have to fem themselves up to fit in to the point they reject calling themselves 'gay' and opt for 'queer' cos they aren't effeminate

like, yeah, sure, men are the face of the queer community when they're effeminate, usually white, ablebodied, perisex, and skinny but not when they're masculine, fat, disabled, intersex or of colour. anti-masculinity is fucking rife in the queer community at large, the only places i really see it openly accepted and celebrated IRL and online is in kink and fetish spaces (where they're also presumed to be tops, dominating, aggressors until they prove otherwise - usually by making themselves act more effeminate as mentioned previously - and then society at large considers these types of men predators and pedophiles etc for daring to express their kinks in spaces made for them in a safe-for-work manner)

then older men are better at accepting masculine men, also, but the queer community especially online doesn't acknowledge older people ever. so

no, actually, i do think the queer community has a problem with men, but more specifically masculinity (which isn't limited to men of course). so the moment trans men dare to dip their toes into masculinity, embrace body hair, beards, embrace 'men' mannerisms, to take up space, to be loud, to have masculine-associated hobbies, they're not considered trans anymore. and you barely like trans men when they're more feminine, anyway.

It really can't be used against me seeing as the only people I wouldn't want to see it don't have Tumblr and you sure as hell don't know them

By the way since you like drama so much here is some for you

Your blog is the digital equivalent of a dump filled with mostly garbage and rotting trash with a few things that people accidentally threw away don't comment on me venting about my experiences as a trans man I don't want it to end up in your landfill of a blog

I'm a trans guy, I'm still a minor I live with my parents and my little sister I've tried explaining dysphoria to them in so many ways it's driving me insane I've tried explaining chest dysphoria as feeling like my breasts are tumors(cause that's what they feel like to me) I've tried explaining voice dysphoria as feeling like someone else's voice is coming out of my mouth, I've tried explain that when I look in the mirror it feels like the wrong person is looking back but it still just gets treated like an insecurity or like I'm being dramatic I'm not insecure I don't think I'm ugly I just think I look incorrect and I don't know how to explain it to them when I've tried in so many ways I might as well try learning another language to explain it in that one

I'm constantly misgendered I get deadnamed all the time and then get treated like the bad guy when I get frustrated or upset I've been openly trans for over a year most of the adults in my life do not know I'm trans cause my parents haven't told them and they completely ignore pronouns pins or the fact people are referring to me as a guy or in a gender neutral manner they act like they're being inconvenience by having to use the correct pronouns and name and gendered terms, like me doing things to feel more comfortable in my body is an annoyance to them, I get slightly side eyed when I talk about my dysphoria and wanting to go on testosterone or top surgery

hell they've tried making me promise I won't medically transition till I'm 21 which is bullshit because I've told them how I've literally fucking cried because of how badly I wish I was more masculine, told them how it feels like the person in the mirror is wrong, like my voice isn't my own, I've told them how much distress my dysphoria caused me and they don't give a fuck and then I get yelled at and punished and mocked when I get upset

I have been told to my face before by my mom that she wishes she wishes I was a cishet Christian girl who wasn't asexual and who wanted kids(I'm paraphrasing because my memory hates my guts and I can't remember the exact wording) while she knew I was openly trans and in a long term relationship with a woman I'm expected to sympathize with how hard changing how they talk is for them but they don't seem to give a shit that it's not just difficult for me it's distressing and damaging to my mental health

But they're not transphobic right?/s

But they're so supportive right?/s

God I can't fucking wait to move out

My dad can get so drunk that he literally can't walk and be forgiven the next day even though it could literally kill him even though he's supposed to stop drinking but I can't even take birth control that keeps me from having periods every month🙄

TikTok comments that are actually funny.

Parents (when their child is young): "I know everything. You must obey my every command. The tiniest amount of doubt toward me is considered so disrespectful that I'm justified in hitting you for it.

Parents (when their child is grown): "Please forgive me. I'm only human. There's a lot I didn't know. I tried my best."

"trans men don't contribute to trans culture" have you considered that up until Horrifically Recently that women/trans men were lobotomized and thrown into insane asylums to never see the light of day again if they were anything but docile little cishet barbies? and that those things still happen around the world? or are you so brainrotten by 4chan you forget misogyny is still an issue?

When a cis man gets offended and says, "Not all men," it is generally in the context that he feels he is personally being attacked as an individual, and said to try and halt a conversation on sociopolitical issues that he is not generally a victim of (benefits from, even).

When transmascs get offended and say, "Not all men," it is generally in the context of them feeling erased from a sociopolitical perspective on the basis of their nuanced identity (not a cis man but not a woman-- or, in the case of some genderfluid / multigender individuals, not just a woman), and said to try and broaden a conversation on sociopolitical issues (because they are far deeper than just, "masculinity as a whole is evil, and men are trash") that they are being othered from, despite facing said sociopolitical issues as a victim of them.

Whether you acknowledge this or not, you having the same exact negative reaction to both instances is a reflection of a cisgender-centric worldview.

When I was a kid my family pretended to get raptured so I would think I was left behind on earth while they all went to heaven.

I was like 8 years old and my sister and mom had gotten really into the Left Behind novels (bible fan fic about the rapture). In the books when the rapture happened the clothes that people were wearing when they got raptured were left behind in neatly folded piles.

One day when I was getting home from school my family decided that they would leave piles of neatly folded clothes around the house, and then hide in the basement.

The intended effect was that I would get home and see the clothes then, think that my family had been raptured and that I wasn’t good enough to get into heaven… or something?

The problem was that I had never read these books, and didn’t really think about the rapture very often. There was no reason that I would see some laundry on the floor and think “The rapture happened and I’ve been abandoned by God! I’ll never see my family again!! Oh nooo!!!!”

I just sat down and watched cartoons and eventually my family got bored and revealed that they were all hiding in the basement.

It’s a good thing I didn’t understand the joke, otherwise that shit would have been traumatic.