TED Talks For The New Year

We need to get a little uncomfortable for a minute. But it's ok. You have to be uncomfortable in order to grow.

You're going to fail. You're going to disappoint people and yourself. You're going to have moments where you're so overwhelmed that you're curled in a ball crying and frustrated. You're going to miss important milestones. You're going to drop the ball so many times things seem impossible. You're going to fail. You're going to be mean. You're going to be a bad person at points. It's life. It happens. You just need to understand that it happens. And on those days where you want to dissappear and never be seen again because everything is too much, your brain is going to amplify all these faults and failures and make them seem worse.

Babe. We all go through this. We ALL fail. We ALL make awful choices and fuck people and ourselves over. We ALL will have moments where we are the villains. Where we completely fail a lot of people in our lives due to bad decisions. It will happen. Probably multiple times. What matters is that you recognize these things and make appropriate changes in your life to help make sure that next time isn't as bad. Maybe start learning time management so you're not stressed constantly and blowing up on everyone. Maybe find a healthy outlet like painting or the gym or cooking. Find small, simple joys to make life better. It's going to suck. You're going to be the bad guy. But that's not your entire life.

It's uncomfortable and hard to sit with. Sometimes things are your fault. Sometimes you make bad choices and they fuck your life up and fuck others over at the same time. It happens. You can't change the past, but you have the power to change your future. You can change your future. Talk to people. Find yourself outlets. Learn skills. Things get better, but they only do so if you put the effort for them to do so. I love you. You're trying. And that's all you can do. And one day you'll slip backwards and feel so defeated but when that happens, you'll have many tools to help you get even further. I promise babe everything will be ok.

study/productivity server!

here is the link to the study/productivity group server that i said i'd make!

join in to accomplish your goals with others like you!

How to study for long hours/

I find it easier to study with the pomodoro method, where you focus for 25 minutes at least and then take a break.

However during exam preparation or whenever we have situations where there’s a lot of portions to cover, focusing is really hard. We often get distracted by our phones and devices as well as social media.

So I introduce my favourite life changing app!

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this app, it’s available on both android and iOS.

It basically has a feature where you can choose the apps you want for studying and the rest of the apps are blocked.

It also has a study log where it basically tracks how long you study for a subject.

It allows me to use the apps that I WANT for studying as well as block social media. It reduces my screen time and distractions immensely and I’m able to focus much better !

(Ps- this is not sponsored)

I hope this helps!

Love,

Mith <3

1/100 days of productivity

I was doing problems and tests for my statistical mechanics test... Which is tomorrow... I am happy with how are things coming along, but we will only know for sure tomorrow after the fact... Not to mention I have even more work! It's hard out here for a gorl... I have also taken a walk today, and played with the cats!

3/100 days of productivity

Soooo I have a test tomorrow, my project is due soon, and my head hurts and overall I don't feel that well… That being said, I have made a Notion dashboard! I was inspired by work by a looot of people here, so I wanted to give a try too!

And I have to be honest… It's waaay more practical than i initially thought! I am genuinely excited to use it as a hub for anything that interests me, and I can see myself using this for a loong time! Here is how it turned out:

I was heavily inspired by this tutorial, so if you wanna create something similar, here u go: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrhFvIsq86g

I still have to make the dashboard for my uni specifically, but I gotta take it one step at the time! Also I GOTTA STUDY FOR MY TEST, which I did 😅

P. S. My board is in Serbian, if you were wondering what language that is 😆

SHIRT MY FRIEND GOT ME

working student's survival guide for life 👩‍💻💻📱

also my phone's colors are a little happier today, yay! 🌷

everyone tells you how to launch and advance within your career, but i haven't found a lot of advice about surviving the day to day that has actually consistently worked for me. so here are some tips and tricks i learned the hard way. none of them are a magic pill, but i hope it helps even a little bit ☺️ these are also not really limited to being a working student, adulting can be a pretty universal struggle 🙈

talk to a friend — preferably a friend who shares common hobbies rather than a shared career, location, etc. you don't have to be picky by any means!! i talk to friends who are in the same career, school, etc. all the time! i've just found that when i talk to friends who share hobbies, it eliminates stress so much more effectively because the topics tend to center around our shared hobby and i've never found out later that there was an ulterior motive for the friendship because it's all just for fun!

take lots of breaks — don't worry about appearing unproductive because your work will speak for itself. i used to have my butt pretty much glued to my chair from 9-5 and most days even beyond. now, i take breaks to exercise, read a fun book, complete my studies, sometimes even take a nap, and i get the same amount of work done!! of course, knowledge plays an important role and for a time, putting in those extra hours may even be necessary, but it should definitely not be treated as the gold standard!

get a hobby — this is closely tied to the first point, and no, watching TV doesn't count (unless you actively participate in the fandom by creating fanfic, gifs, etc.). it can be hard to find something that sticks. it can also be hard to accept that this is something fun that you can suck at. but don't give up!! try many things! try things you've already tried! and for the love of all good things, do not turn your hobbies into a side hustle!! (unless you also commit to having new hobbies outside of those)

you've probably already heard at least some of this before, in which case, consider this a friendly reminder — you got this! 💕

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Hello all, it's me again

I just wanted to give an update and to tell you why I am off of the grid all these months

I have been dealing with toxic shame a lot, and it has been exacerbated by working a job that is not related to my studies and my poor mental health. There is an irrational thought in my heart that I am undeserving of my studies, and seeing all the positive/productive posts. I know it makes no sense... I have felt this way since I was very little, and the origins of these feelings are very complex, so I don't think there is an easy solution for this...

I am not doing better when it comes to this, but I can't just give in to these feelings!!! So I will try to be more active on here and also be more honest, because I know I am not alone in this struggle 🏵️ Might help someone get out of their shell too :> I know it's hard, but I shouldn't betray myself like this