You know this is so true.
I had asked my husband to write a few notes about why he "lets" me do it. I don't mean to seem like he controls me, because he doesn't. However, if he told me tomorrow he'd like me to stop having sex with other men, I would. Because in the end it is about our marriage. So here's what he wrote.
Because it absolutely makes our communication stronger. There are no secrets, and that is super sexy and hot. Even when we're out and you say something like, "that guy is super hot". Every woman thinks it, but few have the freedoms to say it because of their own insecurity, or the insecurity of their husband, which comes out as jealousy.
Sex was always good with you of course, but it's way better since it started. Way better. It's more erotic, since we open up our marriage. It never fails either--when you've been with other guys, our sex after is more passionate. I can feel it.
I see your confidence and the fun that you're having. It doesn't take away from us, it adds to us, and to you. I love seeing how erotic you are, and I love it when you describe an encounter with your guys. Most men would be threatened, I am not. I love it.
I love surprising you by planning a date for you with a random strager men. I love how it brings out the femininity in you.
I love the not knowing. I go to work, and I don't know if you're having sex with someone. That makes every single day erotic in a hard-to-define way. In the times that I "catch" you in the act? Super freaking hot.
All of the different possibilities that are opened up by this--the physical, mental, are all a lot of fun, and thrilling. I love the fact that you get a lot of sexual satisfaction, from me and from others. But in the end, I know you love it, and it brings us closer together. That's the best part.
1) Sexual competition with other males over the wife will greatly enhance the libido of the husband. The husband will then try even harder to please his wife.
The wife in turn will receive the pleasure she naturally deserves and get to have sex with many men in order to reach her optimum sexual satisfaction.
2) A woman with multiple sex partners is naturally more attractive than a monogamous woman, and thus, the wife becomes hotter, more attractive and more precious to her husband.
The thought of his wife having had sex with another man makes the husband sexually potent and energized like never before. Human Biology will ensure that the husband gets a better erection and produces better sperm count in order to compete with the sperms of the other man, all in order to ensure that it is his genes which are transferred into the children of his wife.
3) In a good marriage, the wife’s pleasure should be paramount for the husband and cuckoldom is a means to achieve that.
4) It achieves the biological & genetic purpose of humanity, that is, to pass on the better genes to the progeny. A woman is naturally able to choose males with better genes to mate, so as to pass on better genes to her children, increasing their chances of survival.
Thus, a woman in her natural state, has sex with many men in order to let the man with the best genes impregnate her, so that she bears his children who will have better chances of survival and development.
5) Psychologically, the woman can enjoy proper sex and not feel guilty by the norms of a deceitful society. Women have always been subjugated unfairly and illogically by a deceitful society dominated by men. Its time for men to actively contribute to the true freedom of women.
6) Cuckoldom ensures the true sexual liberation of women. It brings about the true nature of women and allows them to be true to their biological needs.
Having sex with multiple men is not a ‘desire’ for women but rather an absolute ‘need’.
7) Cuckoldom will save marriages. Divorces will be few. Couples in a cuckolding relationship are much more closer and communicative than other couples.
8) Fact is, a woman’s sexual drive is large, much larger than a male, thus it is unhealthy and wrong to repress it forcefully. A woman should have sex as many times as she wants and with as many men as she desires.
9) Its the duty of dead-battery husbands who have no sex to offer to their wives, to at least let the wives enjoy sex with other men. Husbands have no right to force their wives to live a life devoid of sex, a basic human necessity.
10) Also, its much better for the wife to have sex with other men who can better fuck her than her husband. It may be a bigger penis or better stamina and technique, point is, a woman deserves better sex. If not from her husband, then from some man else.