I Want To Speak Quietly And Gently To My Fellow People Pleasers For A Minute.

I want to speak quietly and gently to my fellow people pleasers for a minute.

We don't believe it, and we will deny it with our last breath, but social fatigue is a real thing. It is not selfish, nor is it lazy, to tell the people you love that you're taking a day, or the weekend, or whatever you need, to rest and recover from how draining it is to be around people.

We tell ourselves that we can't disappoint anyone, that they're going to be mad at us (one of my favorite, relatable jokes is "Hi, I'll be your waiter tonight. Are you mad at me?"), or the most insidious of them all: I don't deserve to rest.

I outrank that voice in your head, and I am here to gently and lovingly remind you that you are worthy, your friends who matter understand, and that you don't owe anyone anything.

For anyone who needs it: I give you permission to cancel that thing you're dreading tonight or tomorrow. I give you permission to rest and recover your HP, so you aren't going into next week with disadvantage.

I love you, friends. Take care of yourselves and take care of each other.

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How does anyone hate kids they are so funny I sold tickets to incredibles to this little girl and her mom and she’s like mom are we sitting next to each other and the moms like ya and the kid screamed YES so loud it broke my ears

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3 years ago

sometimes i remember how bart was allowed to be so utterly disgusting and is truly one of the least sexualised women i’ve ever seen on tv,,,, she was so menacing and in some ways terrifying yet so innocent and adorable. and i just :D

or sometimes i remember how farah black was allowed to be so badass and capable but SO confused and neurotic and vunerable and i’m just amazed,,, especially as a black woman, who are still so often forced into a “kickass and untouchably tough” trope. she’s just allowed to be fuckinh weird and complex and that’s just :D!!!!!!

sometimes i think about amanda brotzman who is allowed to be angry!! she shaves parts of her head and rocks that “three days later and i haven’t removed any makeup but i just keep putting on eyeliner” look! she smashes and screams and she’s punk baby!! her chronic illness does NOT define her or even stop her and hey maybe it turned out to be useful in other ways but yknow what she was Out There way before that and she still fights through the pain!!! look at her go :D!

4 weeks ago

Hey, don’t cry. Free online database of Japanese folk lore

4 years ago
Edit: I Made The Assumption That As I Left The Original Posters Name On The Photo And The Fact It Is

Edit: I made the assumption that as I left the original posters name on the photo and the fact it is a photo people could deduce that it was not my own.

I found this image on Pinterest and thought it would be helpful, I attempted to find the original to reblog but the name @ceebycee does not come up when I search it and I was unable to find the original.

I do not claim this is my post and I am not trying to steal someone else's just thought that it could be helpful.

I'm sorry if I have caused any issues or offend anyone in sharing this information.

4 weeks ago
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This is about Sci-Hub. yeah we get it.. gatekeep knowledge and protect the interests of capital…

4 years ago

reminder to:

straighten your back

go pee goddAMN IT STOP HOLDING IT

go take your meds if you need to

drink some water

go get a snack if you havent eaten in a while

maybe wander around the house/stretch a little if you’ve been sat at the computer a while (artists especially: sTRETCH THOSE WRISTS)

reply to that text/message from earlier you’d forgotten about

maybe send a nice lil message to someone having a bad day?

2 years ago

I keep seeing blazed posts about losing the game, but little do they know I was freed from it almost 15 years ago.

    [The comic is a simple box with text.]
    You Just WON The Game.
    It's okay! You're free!

I'm as surprised as you! I didn't think it was possible.

And now you're free too!

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