How Do I Stop Questioning If I’m Attracted To Men. I Think I’m A Lesbian And I Really Like Women

how do i stop questioning if i’m attracted to men. i think i’m a lesbian and i really like women and only want to be with them. but i’m constantly going “what if you do like men and you’ve brainwashed yourself into thinking you’re a lesbian.” i constantly test my attraction and i try to imagine myself with men and it makes me feel sick to my stomach. i know it’s easy to say that i’m gay if i’m repulsed by men but for some reason i just can’t accept it. i just want to feel better about myself

It really does sound like you’re a lesbian, but having some difficulty with that. It could be internalized homophobia. We’ve been raised our whole lives in a society that basically forces heterosexual ideology on us, and it can make us doubt our own feelings and comfort.It’s going to take some time. It’s going to take introspection and self-affirmation. You’re not alone; others have gone through this and are currently going through this. My advice is to just mentally and verbally affirm to yourself things like “It’s okay if I don’t like guys.” Just remember: society’s hetero-normative. It can be hard to overcome the way we’ve been conditioned, but it’s possible and you’re more than strong enough to discover who you are, one way or another.

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the bible

your own phone number

music

the entire country of England

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Songs about killing barney the dinosaur

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Gross pizza but its better than no pizza

Red ribbon/say no to drugs week

Pajama day

Chewy tortillas

Pizzas and grilled cheeses and pb&js in plastic packages

Gendered and/or assigned bus seating

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Treasure chest/prize boxes with cheap erasers and pencils in them and maybe a toothbrush if youre lucky

Off-key singing happy birthday and grocery store cupcakes on your birthday

Bunching up/twisting the swings to set them higher

After school program with going outside + watching Netflix later

60 second times tables

5 finger rule for books (more than 5 words you can't recognize on a page = too advanced for you)

The first school day after Halloween being a MESS of trading candy and being little shits

Very low quality education about non Christian holidays during December in the first few years, then never learning it again

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The 100th day of school being VERY important

Silent reading time

Instead of As and Bs amd Cs, it was E (exceeds standards), M (meets standards), P (progressing), I (insufficient)

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Field day being insane and everyone getting covered in water

Being too loud at lunch and making the teachers have to clap a rhythm and you repeat it to get your attention

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Foldables that you fill in for notes

No movies over the rating of G

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Shame, lemonade, concentration, among other hand clap games

Cheese touch

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That awful lined paper with pink lines and blue dashes in the middle to help your handwriting

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Kahoot

Those awful "plays" that were standing on risers and singing off key and weird dancing and crappy dialogue

*makes weird hand shape* if you looked at this you're gay

Sharing takis at recess

Show and tell

Being jealous of the kids who got the newest iphone despite them being 9

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Playing either horses (pretending to own and ride horses), cats, or wolves depending on if you were a horse girl, a warrior cats nerd, or furry in training (yes I know there are cat furries)

Monthly or weekly assinged classroom jobs like line leader, paper passer outer, school lunch or home lunch counter

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One of the main complaints I see a lot from ST fans is that many of the characters are either useless or have had nothing to do over the course of the show. I wonder if said fans ever took the time to consider the fact that:

Mike’s intelligence, optimism, compassion, unorthodox method of thinking, and commitment to his friends saved the Party from bullies and the great evils of the Upside Down, the Demogorgon, and the Mind Flayer.

Lucas used common sense and rationale to aid in finding Will, and was supportive of Max and Mike in their respective times of need.

Dustin’s keen sense of observation helped to resolve conflicts within the Party, keeping them on track to finding Will, and his book smarts later gave more clarity on the impending dangers of Dart and the Mind Flayer.

Will’s heightened sensibilities informed and prepared the Party for what they were up against in fighting the Mind Flayer.

El’s empathy, loyalty, and protectiveness saved her loved ones on several occasions, both physically and emotionally.

Max’s independence and willingness to extend a hand in friendship made El realize that she could have a life outside of her boyfriend.

Joyce’s maternal love and unwavering faith in the impossible aided in Will’s return and subsequent well-being.

Hopper’s protectiveness and a strong sense of duty resulted in Will’s return and El remaining safe for nearly a year after her disappearance.

Jonathan’s displays of kindness and courage, as well as a sincere fondness for all things abnormal, provided a solid foundation for his family (both biological and surrogate).

Nancy’s fierce determination, intellect, and passion for justice led to uncovering the truth behind Barb’s death and the growing threat of the Mind Flayer.

Steve’s willingness to reconcile his poor decisions and become a mentor figure to Dustin showed us all that self-reformation is possible.

Robin’s unconventional skills and academic intelligence helped to expose the truth behind the Russians’ involvement with Starcourt Mall and their plans to reopen the Gate.

At the end of the day, this is a large ensemble cast of characters. While one can argue that some individual storylines could have been executed differently, it’s impossible for everyone to get an equal amount of screen time. A character’s purpose isn’t always measured by how many times they can throw a punch or swing a nail bat. Their mental and emotional strengths are just as important, if not more compelling and vital to the show overall.

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While I understand the importance of emphasising the point to not jump into relationships for the sake of it and to wait for your time and not rush anything, but (young) wlw should be able to gush excitedly about wanting a girlfriend or wanting to kiss a girl without people aggressively mentioning that.

I am not the kind of person who would date for the sake of it, I am simply excited, the thought of having a loving relationship with a girl is an exciting and happy thought! The idea of getting to kiss a women is phenomenal to me! I have spent years being insecure and hating this part of me but I love and accept it now and I am excited to experience all the things my peers have that I haven’t yet.

It’s okay to be excited about experiences you want to have, it’s okay to have a passion and excitement for life.

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