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I love being Asexual

Because my acethetic is on point.

Oh! I didn't even notice. Well, look on the bright side - Okimokok 3102 sounds fetchingly futuristic. (⌒▽⌒)☆

http://carletoncolton.tumblr.com/ has sent me so many pictures of herself for reference, thank you so much! Here is another, a quick sketch before sleep, i hope you like it

Let's see if I can get this right...

Heterosexual: Fuck that.

Homosexual: Fuck this.

Bisexual: Fuck you and also you.

Pansexual: Fuck everything.

Demisexual: Fuck you in particular.

Asexual: Fuck no.

It’s All A Fucking Joke, Right

In the few months I’ve been modding at fuckyeahasexual and touring ace Tumblr, there’s been a very. Steady. Stream of info that detail horrifically abusive situations and overall poor mental unhealth. Two a week in the inbox if I’m lucky, usually around seven-ten.

And there’s been so many, I can officially categorize all 500+ of these kinds of asks and submissions into an extensive bulletlist of Why Asexual Exclusionary Radicalism Is Incredibly Toxic And Shitty;

Coming Out To Family, Friends, And Employers

“My parents keep telling me that I’m something else, and it’s making me doubt my sense of judgement, not just about my sexual identity, but also about everything in general.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers keep referring to me as an inanimate object in a manner that’s clearly meant to humiliate and devastate me. Nothing I say will get them to stop.”

“My parents vocally/bodily forced me to undergo medical examinations, some of them concerning my sexual organs, many of them concerning blood tests and other trauma-centric procedures.”

“My family is intervening with my private life by changing my schedule to include exercise, socialization, friend influences, and whatever they think can ‘change’ me.”

“My friends/co-workers no longer respect my bodily boundaries when I came out to them, because they no longer see me as someone who should be respected. They regularly touch, fondle, grope, and prod me without permission, and/or verbally harass me, and don’t take my objections seriously.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers no longer just harass me, but also anyone I’m currently dating because they view my significant other as pathetic, underserved, or even being abused.”

First Few Days Of Dating

“My date got irrationally angry and confrontational when I came out to them, in a manner that made me fearful.” (SO many of these.)

“My date immediately lost any respect they had for my boundaries, no longer asked for consent, and {tried to} force themselves upon me.” (A lot of these, too)

“My date tried to verbally circumvent any boundaries and issues I confessed to, and it made me feel like I was in danger.”

“I didn’t come out to my date at first, and when they found out, they radically changed their behavior in an attempt to control and manipulate our new relationship to their benefit.”

Long-Term Relationships

“My partner has forcefully and radically changed our long-term relationship after finding out about my asexuality, and I’m now trapped and controlled in a way that I wasn’t before.”

“My partner broke up with me/is fighting with me because of my asexuality, and trying to make it seem like I’m hurting them. It’s made me doubt myself and my ability to trust my own intentions.”

“My partner is slowly changing from what was once supportive of my asexuality, and I’m wondering when I have the right to be worried and when I’d be overreacting. I’m aware of the worst case scenario, but I also worry that I’m being selfish and childish - which are things I’ve been told all throughout my asexual experience.”

Self-Care And Self Development

“I don’t trust my ability to say either yes or no in sexual situations, and this has extended to my life in general. I don’t feel comfortable in my ability to self-determinate.”

“The lack of authority, definition, and schooling of the concept of asexuality has made me very uncomfortable with what I think I am, and that uncertainty haunts me every waking moment.”

“I think it’s too late/too early to tell if I’m asexual, but the longer I hesitate, the worse my mental health and emotional wellbeing gets. I’m effectively stuck.”

“I see no benefit in coming out, or even identifying as asexual. There’s no positivity, role models, or supportive community for what I consider a big and scary part of my overall identity.”

“I think this was sexual abuse, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I think I was treated badly by my parents/friends/partner, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I want to believe that I’m deserving of equal freedom and human respect paid to other, not asexual people, but people tell me I’m being selfish and childish.”

“No one encourages this part of me. And that makes me feel forgotten and abandoned in general.”

Shut the fuck up about your petty beef with tumblr bloggers and youtubers and Archie comics or whatever. I literally do not care, I can’t care. I see these messages every goddamn day - this post was written and drafted a month ago, and I very easily compiled most of this bulletpoint list from scratch, just by eyeing what I see in the askbox and what comes across my dash. 

‘Ace discourse’ anger is empty and so meaningless. This is what I see by being part of this one 17k follow asexual ask blog for maybe half a year. I am so Done with all the faux rage posts and all the false positivity about how it’s ok to NOT be ace and all the acephobia that falls perfectly in line with the gaslighting typical of acephobia-101 while also having the audacity to claim it not so.

This is what’s real and I want to bleed it into your goddamn eyes.

fic:

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day 6 - todd chavez, bojack horseman 

happy pride month!

I want to take a minute to rant about my favourite Firefox add-on

(Well. Second favourite. Shinigami Eyes is my favourite.)

Welcome to SponsorBlock.

SponsorBlock is a particularly sophisticated ad blocker for youtube that skips over promotional spots within youtube videos. You can customise it to allow, autoskip, or ask to skip various types of in-video promotion.

For example, I’m watching this video:

If you look down in the progress bar, you’ll see yellow segments highlighted for unpaid/self promotion (this is people telling you about their patreons, or new merch they have for sale, or new youtube series they’re making, stuff like that), and a green segment for paid promotion (for if they start ranting about skillshare or hellofresh or squarespace, you know the kind). I’ve got it set up so that SponsorBlock will automatically skip the paid promotion – I don’t even know who this guy’s sponsor is. But he’ll keep telling me about his new PO box unless I choose to skip it with a single button press. (You can set it up to autoskip this stuff to, if you prefer). Segments are user-submitted, so there’s no weird errors made by bots or anything. This is the cleanest, most ad-free youtube experience I’ve ever had; often I’ll forget I have this installed and be like ‘wow youtube’s been surprisingly good lately’.

one day I’ll have enough money to buy les nereides jewellery 🥲 one day…

jessica rabbit is literally a sex symbol though she can't be asexual?

she is in romo with a rabbit because he makes her laugh and aside from using her looks to get things out of people she literally never once shows interest in anything or anyone sexually through the entire movie and is clearly appalled when anyone makes advances towards her like there is canonical evidence that jessica rabbit from the classic motion picture who framed rogger rabbit is an asexual character  

Hola Dudes and Dudettes, its giveaway time! (Woo! Its been ages!)

Just this week I got in a small heap of slightly misprinted keychains which I’d be uncomfortable selling but still make pretty nice prizes- I’m keeping a few back for conventions and things so even if you don’t win one here you’ll have more chances~ The misprint is that they’ve come out a little greyer and lighter than usual, but they’re still pretty cool.

Rules: 

Comments, Likes and Reblogs all count for a total of 3 entries!

Gotta be following this blog (I mean why would you want my art anyways if you weren’t?)

I’ll ship to anywhere in the world!

Giveaway ends 21st June (1 week)

Prizes!

1st Place: Any of the above badge sets and any keychain!*

2nd Place: Any of the above badge sets and any misprinted keychain!

Runners up (3 people): Any misprinted keychain!

*Subject to availability dudes, if a keychain design sells out in the next week or so I won’t have any more for a while. You can see the badges & keychains in more detail over on my Storenvy.

Keychains: Hannibal, Will Graham, Newton Geiszler, Hermann Gottlieb, Joan Watson, Sherlock Holmes, Daenerys Targaryen, Thranduil, Castiel and Spock.

Misprinted Keychains: Will Graham, Newton Geiszler, Thranduil, Castiel & Spock

Good Luck chaps!