Who Up Dandying It Or Whatvr

they fucking ruined the word minion. the whole word, ruined, forever. they spent a billion dollars to change the meaning and ruin the word forever. there should be a class action lawsuit

My partners friend went missing if you all could signal boost this!

To the first and second part, yes, we mask near constantly, except in certain online spaces, such as this one or a certain discord server we have with Pluralkit.

As for the third part, that is very much a case by case thing. Some of us mask incredibly easily, our host and co-host most predictably are great at masking. Some of us are abysmal at masking, one alter has a very noticeable American accent and his mannerisms aren't subtle in the slightest, plus he's about 30 years off the body's age. Another one loves fish puns and is very upbeat near constantly, which means he draws attention to us. Both of them are usually barred from fronting in unsafe environments. Then there's the rest of us, who are decidedly average at masking. Take myself, (Brightney) for example. I am older than the body's age, but not by too much. I have "nerdy" hobbies, which align with what is expected of us, and I'm able to mentally adjust my language (with a second or two to process) to better match what people expect, more slang, less odd questions and sayings and the occasional curse word to make sure. It's not full proof, anyone who knows we're a system (which isn't many) would likely catch on, probably not able to tell it's me exactly, (I don't front often enough to establish myself like that outside of the system) but definitely aware that I'm not the host. For the most part though, I, and many others insys, would fool most singlets or unfamiliar systems into thinking we too are singlet.

question 111: can you mask your plurality? do you? are some of you better or worse at it than others?

I HAVE BEEN GIVEN ACCESS TO THE INTERNET, NO ONE IS SAFE FROM MY RAMBLINGS

- Poppy 🫧

Reminder that telling a headmate to change an aspect of their identity or self to be "less problematic" is dehumanising as fuck. You can't go around doing that shit. It's entirely a you issue if you can't handle a headmate having an identity, they're not responsible for your issues or required to morph themselves into something you can swallow. Fictives, factives, people with number names, nonhumans who are "scary", headmates who are queer while the body isn't, headmates who are queer in a different way to the body, disabled headmates, etc.

You can't tell a singlet to change their entire name because you think it's problematic. You can't tell a singlet to hide their gender or sexuality because it "doesn't match" their body. You can't tell a singlet to change or hide their entire damn identity because you don't like it. You can't tell a singlet to stop having days where they experience disordered symptoms.

If the headmate in question is acting respectful, treat them with some god damn respect. It doesn't MATTER if they "match" the body. They're just as much of a person as any singlet is. You cannot convert someone into being something they're not.

REVERSE THAT, DOUBLE DOWN ON THE WEIRDNESS, EMBRACE IT!

chat why am i so weird

i should probably at least try to tone it down

doctor ivo robotnik caught having feelings in 4K

(So horny it’s not even eliciting a physical reaction anymore) now draw them in a strained but ultimately polite professional relationship

I feel like a lot of marginalized people, especially younger ones, have this idea that there’s a limit to the number of things they can ID with. And I think it comes from those anti-sjw posts mocking things for being “too diverse.” Like, if you’re trans and bisexual and disabled, you can’t be autistic too, you’re already over your quota. Or if you’re brown and asexual and have bpd, you can’t be nonbinary as well because that would be too much.

So this is me telling me that there is your identity has no limits. Do not bury pieces of yourself because you’re afraid of what other people will think. Do not break yourself in order to fit into a too small mold. You do not have to hide or shrink or alter yourself to satisfy a statis quo of who is and isn’t “normal enough.” You are you