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Pakikipag-pustahan

Nakipag-pustahan kana ba? Yung pustahan na makakasakit ng isang tao. Na ang pustahan eh paunahan kayong dalawang makuha ang loob ng isang tao. At pag-napasagot eh kailangan hiwalayan para matapos ang pustahan at masabing ikaw ang panalo? Ngunit paano kung sa gitna ng pustahan bigla kang na-inlove sa kanya? Sa taong pinag-pustahan at pinagtitripan nyo. Anong gagawin mo? Itutuloy mo paba ang pustahan? O ititigil ito at aaminin sa kanya ang totoo?

Napakasakit sa pakiramdam na pagtripan ka ng mga tao, lalo na’t ang damdamin mo ang pinaglalaruan nila. Yung gagawin nila ang lahat gumaan lang ang loob mo pero katapos tapos eh sasaktan ka lang nila at iiwan. Sobrang sakit diba? Paano nalang kung yung taong mahal mo eh minahal ka dahil sa isang pustahan? Hindi mo masasabi yan dahil sa ngayon likas na ang mga manloloko. Kaya wag kang magtiwala sa mga salita, hangga’t hindi mo nararamdaman na mahal ka wag na wag kang mafo-fall. Para hindi ka masaktan ng wala sa oras. Para hindi ka tawaging TANGA.

Payo lang sa mga nakikipagpustahan, dapat buo ang loob mo sa pakikipagpustahan mo, kasi once na nafall ka mas magiging complicated yung sitwasyon. Kung ako sayo don’t play someone’s feelings. Kasi magbabounce back yan sayo hindi man sa time na gawin mo yun pero isang araw makakaranas ka din kung anong naramdaman nya nung pinagtitripan mo sya.

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“Everyone faces challenges in life. It’s a matter of how you learn to overcome them and use them to your advantage.”

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Ending that 11 years of friendship is better than continuing it without knowing who you really are and your true colors.

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

“It’s Independence Day but the available dubs for Trese are of the three countries that took over the Philippines.”

hHAHSBDHEHAA PLEASE NOT THIS RN

P*rn, dating apps/hook up culture, and 50/50 normalization are the three main culprits as to why the men of this generation seem so different than men from previous ones, and why so many beautiful and accomplished women are unable to secure a relationship without settling. Men always had their issues collectively, but it was never to the degree that we see today, and it’s largely due to the normalization from an early age to those three things.

The brains of men these days have been wired in a completely overly s3xualized manner. They don’t view women as people but as objects of strict desire and nothing else. Consumption of p*rn has not only given them unrealistic expectations of intimacy, it has influenced their s3xual orientations (see DL epidemic), and their social behaviour. Nowadays many don’t find regular girls attractive, which is why they choose to engage in “taboo” activities to feel some arousal. This leads them to becoming socially inept and to falling easy prey to manosphere content that only reinforces the objectification and dehumanization of women.

Dating apps then come in as an easy way for these men get the illusion of options, because while they might be generally not attractive, in the apps they get instant access to women they otherwise would never have in real life. And because many women have become desperate, by entertaining these men and giving them easy access to their bodies, the men no longer feel like they have to improve and work on themselves to attract a quality partner. It also gives them the idea that women are disposable because at any point they can ghost them for no reason and then swipe right to get another one. It makes them devalue access to us.

This easy access is then transferred to their expectations of relationships. They abuse the concept of equality to manipulate women into financially abusive arrangements where she’s expected to provide fiscally while also performing her feminine duties and taking care of a grown, able-bodied man. Naturally this continues to reinforce men’s lack of respect and gratitude for women in their lives, while increasing their own sense of self-importance, narcissism, ineptitude, and ungratefulness.

Obviously women are not responsible for the actions of men, but we do have the power to not reinforce and condone their sick ways. By deleting dating apps, standing our ground when we oppose 50/50 dating, and choosing to remain abstinent until marriage, we are taking the power dynamics back to our advantage. No, you are not unreasonable for not wanting to be with a man who consumes p*rn, or who wants to be sexually fluid with other men, or who views red pill content that dehumanizes you, or seems unwilling to provide things for you and cherish you in his life. It’s on you to stand firm in your decision to only entertain the gentlemen whose mindsets haven’t been completely fried by modern societal trends.

The “male loneliness epidemic” that we hear so much about is entirely self inflicted (not that anyone cares when it’s women who are lonely), and it’s a direct response to women saying no more to men who exhibit the behaviours outlined above. Hold the line, because they either leave their toxic ways and get better, or they will doom themselves to a life of solitude. Either way, that is their responsibility to fix, not yours.

“Never miss an opportunity to show your love, especially to those close to you, because we are always at our most cautious with them for fear of being hurt.”

— Paulo Coelho (via perrfectly)