Please Reblog Is Your Blog Is Safe For Non-Binary People.

Please Reblog is Your Blog is Safe for Non-Binary People.

If my mutuals can’t rb this then we can’t be mutuals

More Posts from Hey-howdy-mister and Others

6 months ago

IM SORRY BUT THOSE HANDS ARE SO WELL DONE!!!!! OH MY STARTS ITS BEAUTIFUL ART!!!!!!

The Fall (Part 1) - 2024

The Fall (Part 1) - 2024

Inspired by the painting The Fall by Alan Stephens Foster. This one is called "Part 1" because I did two versions. As I couldn't decide which one to post, I'll post the two of them this week ("Part 2" will be uploaded this Saturday).


Tags
4 years ago

It’s asexual awareness week! All cheating at cards is allowed for the next seven days!

YEEHAW! Jokes on anyone who tries to play cards with me! I don’t know how to play and I can’t remember the rules for longer than three seconds! I hope you get some use out of the week though! I kinda forgot it was asexual awareness week, so thanks for letting me know pal! The week has been improved!!!!

(October 25 2020)

10 months ago
7 months ago

You will never be able to convince me otherwise and I can't prove it but drunk Dean Winchester absolutely listens to early 2010's White Girl Music and Sam and Cas are just, like, forced to witness it and his denial about it the day after


Tags
11 months ago

Honestly. He's better than a Tory.

Count Binface has launched his manifesto

Count Binface Has Launched His Manifesto

Glad to see he's keeping his pledge to bring back Ceefax.

(Follow the Count's intergalactic electoral adventures on Instagram countbinface)


Tags
1 year ago

anyone who thinks dostoevsky's writing is dry and humourless is missing out on passages like this

"I do not believe in a life hereafter," said Raskolnikov.

Svidrigaylov remained thoughtful.

"What if there is nothing there but spiders or something like that?" he said suddenly.

"This is a madman," thought Raskolnikov.
4 years ago

anyone else get the constant fear that there are unspoken social rules you dont know about (especially in new situations, like when i first started taking the bus, i was afraid i was doing it wrong lol) so youre just always on edge and kind of… watching how other people act so you can copy the “correct” thing to do

6 months ago

Please this would make up for the anxiety of this election, we're all owed that much

hot take but i think that given that november 5 is going to be a presidential election once again, jensen ackles should finally drop the tapes of the destiel confession scene

you know, just for funsies, to celebrate this glorious anniversary, and to maybe (hopefully) ensure trump’s defeat once again


Tags
4 years ago

Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.


Tags
  • fvckthisletsparkup
    fvckthisletsparkup liked this · 1 week ago
  • ratlike-intern
    ratlike-intern reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • dandy-s-dreamway-express
    dandy-s-dreamway-express reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • icollectcantabs
    icollectcantabs liked this · 1 week ago
  • valliflower
    valliflower reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • valliflower
    valliflower liked this · 1 week ago
  • leodoesnt
    leodoesnt reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • gothgleek
    gothgleek reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • lolwhatrbraincells
    lolwhatrbraincells reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • lolwhatrbraincells
    lolwhatrbraincells liked this · 1 week ago
  • bench-lord
    bench-lord reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • bench-lord
    bench-lord liked this · 1 week ago
  • baby-kirby
    baby-kirby reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • dannyjimen
    dannyjimen liked this · 1 week ago
  • icarusalis
    icarusalis reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • kensaki-tataki
    kensaki-tataki reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • kensaki-tataki
    kensaki-tataki liked this · 1 week ago
  • spikedarms
    spikedarms reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • gudvina
    gudvina reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • gudvina
    gudvina liked this · 1 week ago
  • frozeninksac
    frozeninksac reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • frozeninksac
    frozeninksac liked this · 1 week ago
  • dragon-of-the-soutn
    dragon-of-the-soutn reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • dragon-of-the-soutn
    dragon-of-the-soutn liked this · 1 week ago
  • opentanie
    opentanie reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • sylvialactea
    sylvialactea liked this · 1 week ago
  • bookwyrms-world
    bookwyrms-world reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • murmel-malt
    murmel-malt reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • murmel-malt
    murmel-malt liked this · 1 week ago
  • caninetofive
    caninetofive reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • caninetofive
    caninetofive liked this · 1 week ago
  • carry-on-wayward-sister
    carry-on-wayward-sister reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • aquain
    aquain reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • aquain
    aquain liked this · 1 week ago
  • frettedzetaplushball
    frettedzetaplushball reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • frettedzetaplushball
    frettedzetaplushball liked this · 1 week ago
  • thecoffeeisntstrongenough
    thecoffeeisntstrongenough liked this · 1 week ago
  • randomlybugnow
    randomlybugnow reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • wilddreams-and-rainydays
    wilddreams-and-rainydays reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • thelove-ablepenguin
    thelove-ablepenguin reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • thelove-ablepenguin
    thelove-ablepenguin liked this · 1 week ago
  • kateshappyplants
    kateshappyplants reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • erkolblinguispretre
    erkolblinguispretre reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • erkolblinguispretre
    erkolblinguispretre liked this · 1 week ago
  • mysticalgalaxysalad
    mysticalgalaxysalad reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • fancyfinny
    fancyfinny reblogged this · 1 week ago
  • fancyfinny
    fancyfinny liked this · 1 week ago
  • queen--kenobi
    queen--kenobi reblogged this · 1 week ago
hey-howdy-mister - Howdy Mister
Howdy Mister

•He/They• •I Had My Angel Blade•Unruly Son•

108 posts

Explore Tumblr Blog
Search Through Tumblr Tags