Honour The Little Girl Inside Of You, The Little Girl That Was Abused, Hurt, Abandoned, Who Felt She

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✨ Currently Manifesting... ✨

Regular facials, manis, pedis, massages, Brazilian waxes, lash lifts. Glowing skin. Glowy makeup. Fluffy curls. Microshaded brows. Laser hair removal. Veneers. Subtle plastic surgery. Intoxicating perfumes. Shopping. Diamonds. Designer bags. Credit card rewards. International travel. Networking. Career certifications. Investing more. Brunch with the girls. Picnics. Farmers markets. Art galleries. Museums. Fresh flowers. Silk scarves. Big sunglasses. Beautiful lingerie. Silk robes. Receiving lots of gifts. Lots of sunlight. Hot yoga. Incredible sex. Nature hikes. Tennis lessons. Green smoothies. Matcha lattes. Candles that smell expensive. Sleeping 8+ hours a night. Bubble baths. Studying foreign languages. Absorbing as much knowledge as I can. Book clubs. Pottery classes. Jazz & classical music. Cooking with fresh herbs, vegetables, and spices. Champagne. Charcuterie & bruschetta. Gelato. Fresh bread. Ocean air. Hugging my loved ones. Petting dogs. Giving lots of gifts. Journaling. Meditating. Gratitude. Volunteering. Donating to charity. Manners. Etiquette. Charisma. Therapy. Healthy boundaries. Radical personal responsibility. Positivity. Self care. Abundant love.

today's mood: making art here, surrounded by plants and flowers, where I can concentrate on my feelings, keep calm, get inspiration and charges my works with positive energy

Don’t you owe it to yourself to live your dreams, to at least try? To wake up and put your best foot forward, to do the things you’ve been saying you’re going to do. To make some fucking moves. You know how powerful it feels to make progress, so why are you holding yourself back? Why are you blocking yourself from your dreams? What matters right now is that you get out of your own fucking way, that you push forward. You pull your shit together and you make today fucking count. You pull out your to do list and you start stabbing through those tasks like a beast. With so much force and energy within you, that you’re ready to destroy today. Destroy it in a way that reveals all the trapped energy, stagnant energy that has been dormant inside of you. That you finally come alive and snap out of this low, inefficient state. That today you are finally awakened. 

being surrounded with winter garden, living alone in the big cottage with a lot of art works and books, wearing long fur coat and gloves, drinking mulled wine, baking bread with herbs, walking with dog and being a strange, but friendly person for your neighbors

it’s comforting to know that the universe prefers life over death. they are constantly evolving animals to survive longer, one creatures death will allow for the continuation of another’s life, everything will collapse in on itself some day so that a new life could be created all over again. the universe is addicted to living, so when u make someone’s life easier to live you are literally doing gods work 

𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭 "𝐈𝐓" 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟐

It’s always been my dream to be viewed as a living goddess. When anyone encounters me, I want them to feel as though they have just come in contact with an ethereal being. Someone who is so uniquely feminine, elegant, skillful, kind, elegant, and charming. I want them to be captivated by my beauty and enraptured by my intellect. There is no spell that can accomplish this. Only dedicated and precise hard work. You have to be dedicated. You have to show up for yourself every day, even when you’re tired. Even when you’re sad. Even when you feel totally uninspired. Put in the work for what you want. Here is your guide.

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Consider your diet. Be mindful of how much you’re eating. Try to stray away from overeating. You should cut back on the amount of sugar and processed foods that you eat (cut back ≠ cut out). Make sure you are getting enough greens, protein and fruits.

Drink at minimum 3L water.

Incorporate daily fresh pressed juices.

Drink hot tea.

Keep alcoholic beverage consumption to a minimum.

Take daily vitamins and supplements.

Exercise 5 times a week at minimum, even if it’s only 30 minutes on the treadmill. Do something that will help you maintain your weight and your figure. The goal is to maintain a tight and toned figure.

Incorporate a consistent stretching routine into your daily routine. Stretching lengthens limbs and improves gracefulness.

Play tennis in warm weather and start learning how to play golf.

Go on walks whenever you’re not in the gym. Fresh air is good for longevity.

Get chiropractic adjustments and massages to keep the muscles limber and free of tension

Clear face and body of acne and hyperpigmentation.

Get skincare treatments that help the skin look clear, radiant, and age gracefully.

Practice consistent oral hygiene routine: whitening mouthwash + floss + scrub tongue + brush teeth + act fluoride rinse mouthwash

Get a teeth whitening kit and start drinking through a straw so you don’t stain your teeth.

Stick to a consistent bathing routine.The body should be exfoliated and shaved 2-3 times a week. Use kojie san soap to maintain skin’s even complexion. Use a yoni shower gel for the vaginal area. Use exfoliating gloves + exfoliating cloth to wash with. Scrub feet to maintain between pedicures.

Post shower (spring/summer): hempz body lotion (add glycerin) + avene body oil + dove dry spray + (pink rosa) + femme rejuv oil + perfume oil + fragrance of the day

Post shower (autumn/winter): hempz body lotion (add glycerin) + cerave healing ointment + dove dry spray (vanilla + cocoa butter) + femme rejuv oil + perfume oil + fragrance of the day

Stay on top of wellness check ups:

Physical

Vision

Dental

OBGYN

Derm

Start taking care of your natural hair. Get a relaxer with every 10-12 weeks. Get sew-ins with closures/ minimal leave out to grow hair. Box braids and feed in braids for the summer time with. Deep condition hair under the dryer whenever not in protective styles. Dye your hair back black for a more classic + natural look.

Start using hair perfume

Once a month, get a deluxe pedicure at Bally once a month

soft pink for spring

white for summer

french pedi with fleshy pink base for summer

black for halloween

red for the holidays

Do gel manicures at home with a gel mani kit

Milky white

Baby pink

Baby blue

French

Red for the holidays

Keep eyebrows groomed - trim them every 2-3x weeks

Get your lashes done every month and fill ins as necessary at LaLa Lash. Always go for the classic style

Keep your makeup natural. Do not paint your face. You should look as natural and real to you as possible. For night time or special occasions, of course you can do a little more like a sultry look. Your makeup should just enhance your natural beauty and the work that you’ve put in to have good skin.

Makeup routine:

Primer + powder to prep

Lighter concealer for under eyes to brighten

Perfectly matched foundation

Concealer closer to your skin tone for any other inconsistencies

Powder foundation to set the makeup

Bronzer to warm up the face

Fill in your brows lightly and conceal to clean up

A little bronzer on the lids

Lash extensions should be done but if not, lashes that look natural or mascara

Top off with a neutral lipstick or a gloss

It’s critical to keep on top of your beauty treatments so they don’t pile up and your look remains consistent.

my formula for success

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no bullshit,

straight-to-the-point

manifesting guide

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Disclaimer: this post is about my personal experience, beliefs and what works for me. If you don't resonate with what I'm saying it's totally fine, you keep doing you.

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living in your head

doesn't mean being delusional, or crazy. imagination is the only reality. as simple as that. the faster you realize it the better things will be.

detachment

I've noticed that being objective of certain aspects of my desires had led me to instant success. but detachment from what? not from the desire itself but from the need of getting it. realizing that i don't desperatly need something somehow makes things easier and faster. lessening the importance of getting certain things makes you free from anxiety and fear, in my personal experience. and why would you be anxious about getting something you already have (see living in your head and daydreaming). go on with your day and stop sulking.

keeping it simple

if it feels like a chore, it won't do it for me. the simpler the better. only affirm or do methods when i want and feel like it. don't force it.

daydreaming

again, I'm a sucker for effortless stuff. for me, daydreaming has always been something natural to do. and if you can see and imagine yourself living your best life then you can have everything.

you do it to yourself

what you see is a reflection of your thoughts. you can't complain and ask why things are "not working" when you are the one who is in control. if you think you can't manifest, you won't. if you think manifesting is hard, it will be. you want to manifest effortlessly and fast, then say you can. you don't like something? change it.

don't question it

don't question how it works or how long it will take. don't question if you can get it or not. doubting is a waste of time. just trust that drive that won't make you give up your dreams.

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@bastarrda

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Hi hon, could you talk more about finding my own ‘dream girl archetype’ & creating ‘my personal manifesto’ as you mentioned in this post? 💌🌹

Gladly! Some notes on creating your own dream girl archetype and personal manifesto are below. Lmk if you need anything else x

How To Build Your Own Dream Girl Archetype: 

Reflect on your role models: These can be TV characters, celebrities, public figures, or, even better, those you look up to in real life. What qualities and characteristics about them do you admire and want to emulate? Is it their poise, work ethic, their personal strength, confidence, style, general aesthetic, lifestyle, cultural affiliations, career, and hobbies? Make a list of these people or characters with bullet points under each one. If you find a lot of commonalities and find certain qualities on multiple lists, place them on a separate list – this list will become the framework for your dream girl archetype.

Get introspective: After gaining some inspiration from those you admire, it’s essential to look inside yourself to acknowledge the characteristics and personality traits you like about yourself, your natural talents, skillset, and your motivation for wanting to become your dream girl – this desire for self-growth and perseverance should make it onto the list if you’re still reading this! Think about the compliments you receive, especially those that you regularly get from different people who don’t know each other. I find that these types of comments help us learn the most about how we’re perceived in the world. Add all of these characteristics, personality traits, talents, skillsets, etc. to your list. 

Acknowledge your dark side: Get comfortable with your shadow self. If you have certain traits or habits holding you back from being your ideal self (i.e. people pleasing, self-sabotage, procrastinating, etc.), become curious and reflect on why you engage in these behaviors or uphold this mindset. Strategize ways to unlearn these characteristics and ways you move through the world that no longer serves you. Create a plan to dig yourself out of these self-destructive thought patterns and actions. Read books, speak with a therapist (if you can), and start journaling to come up with creative solutions to make changes in your daily life to prioritize yourself. Set up your environment in ways to help you win. Own your indulgent side - it makes you human. The sooner you align with your guilty pleasures, the better you get at indulging in them strategically. Have a small sweet treat every day if needed. Keep emotional distance from toxic loved ones. Make your feelings about your current hot hookup self-referential. Block out time to watch your favorite show.

Assert an active role in your life: Create healthy habits to make you feel good. Stop craving others’ approval – no one can be as happy for you as you are for yourself when you succeed. It’s okay to remind yourself we’re all a bit narcissistic – it’s human nature. 

Construct your higher self: Once you’ve acknowledged the qualities you need to internalize to become your ideal self, discover the external qualities and habits you need to cultivate to build your dream girl. What does she wear, what’s her career, how does she speak, work through issues, engage in conversation? What are her habits like? Her morning and night routine? What does she read, watch, and listen to? What’s her social life like? How does she spend her leisure time? What does her space look like, her beauty, diet, and self-care routine? What quotes does she live by? Does she know other languages or about certain topics? How do others speak about her? Create as many inspiration boards and lists, journal entries, etc. as you need until you unlock all of these answers. You will know when some new characteristic, routine, or aesthetic resonates. 

How To Write Your Personal Manifesto: 

Essentially, this document (can be a journal entry, notes app entry, Google doc, etc.) is an amalgamation of your values, principles, habits, and boundaries. It’s a written reminder to yourself of who you truly are, decide to be, and promise to yourself to stick by your values no matter who tries to tear you down. 

Create a mission statement of your ideal self and the qualities that validate this narrative. Essentially, practice the law of assumption by creating a series of personally-tailored affirmations that describe your self-concept and the woman you choose to be. 

Write out all of the qualities listed above that you admire about yourself and emulate in your daily life. Affirm this self-concept. Feel free to use specific personal affirmations and attach related behaviors to your self-affirming characteristics (i.e. I make it my mission to show up with class and confidence in every area of my life. I’m mindful of how I speak to others, choose my words carefully – in person or in writing – and consider the feelings of the other person when engaging in conversation. I take my appearance seriously and aim to embody a seductive and alluring presence. I maintain a healthy diet, make almost all of my meals from fresh ingredients, go on long walks daily to take care of my body, tailor my closet with streamlined clothes made of high-quality fabrics that fit my body well, indulge in my makeup and beauty routines daily alongside wearing my signature scent. I’m an intellectual whose dedicated to learning more about the world every day – I read at least 10 pages of psychology, personal development, or a business-related book daily, etc.). 

List out your boundaries and non-negotiables with yourself. Feel free to get specific with your boundaries to include all aspects of your life – with your work, family, friends, intimate relationships, dating, food, style, self-care habits, etc. Validate your needs. Add your ‘why’ to each of these boundaries and priorities to help you internalize them and to motivate yourself to uphold these standards despite any self-doubt or external criticisms.