Women will practice and uphold patriarchal beauty standards they personally conform to. It’s all fun and games when you’re the preferred fetish. Body types, hair colors and textures, lip size, skin tones, etc are all ways in which women are ranked. Egos are bruised when different models go in and out of style. Not because those women want to forgo such ideals altogether, but because they’re unable to embody the latest trend. Let thee without a makeup brush make the first accusation of brainwashing.
A “feminist” former model turned influencer, has dedicated her retirement to preaching about the beauty industry. Writing paragraphs about how her efforts to get dolled up resulted in no dating offers, because men were interested in younger women. This then propelled her into calling out unrealistic beauty standards. The same standards she enjoyed gleefully in youth. Citing she misses “turning heads” and ignoring the hypocrisy of her first marriage to a much older man. Her ultimate goal being a societal shift into including older women into the category of “sexy.”
Women with faces full of filler and glue adhesive on their eyelids will claim it’s ridiculous to rate women based on body shapes. Women who buy undergarments with the purpose of pushing their breast together have something to say about butts being the new thing. Women who sell out Sephoras in college complain about the pressure of maintaining youth with each passing birthday. The body positivity movement is filled with cognitive dissonance. “This standard is bad! Wait, what do you mean my hair dye and eyeliner are included in that? It’s not that deep and I do it for myself anyway.”
When women are “winning” the patriarchal game of penises and empty promises, they will do anything to maintain their status. Social capital is kept through presenting yourself as sexually available to heterosexual males. That is the foundation on which all beauty standards are built upon, regardless of what women tell themselves. Competitiveness is the sole purpose behind women’s picking and choosing of which aesthetic preference’s should be maintained. Remember, women are hierarchical too, and heterosexual world dominance is perpetuated through pecking order.
I’ll take claims of unfair beauty standards seriously when I see women rejecting ALL of them in mass. Until then, the same women shaving off their body hair can keep begging the pedo’s they’re appealing to for less judgment on their ass size/shape. Every woman wants to be the exception, the one who accepts patriarchy’s “prizes,” but escapes its eventual expiration date. There’s no having it both ways. Men cannot be both your oppressors and saviors. Perform and play dress up for the penis, then graciously bow and exit the stage when it demands the next act.
normie straight women piss me the fuck off. they are aliens to me.
There is an ongoing literacy crisis. Teach kids how to read phonetically (other methods produce poor literacy) and introduce them to fun books, both fiction and educational non-fiction.
Teach kids about critical thinking and the scientific method.
You can also introduce kids to edutainment like Sesame Street, Reading Rainbow, The Magic Schoolbus, Bill Nye The Science Guy, Beakman's World, etc.
Help kids develop media literacy skills by asking them literary analysis questions about the media they engage with. Even very young children can begin learning literary analysis if the questions are phrased in words they can understand.
Learn and help other people learn information literacy, ie, how to locate and evaluate information.
Learn the red flags of pseudoscience, and educate other people about them.
Educate people and share media on real science and real history, because fascist narratives are full of pseudoscience and pseudohistory. (Miniminuteman, Gutsick Gibbon and Bart D. Ehrman's YouTube channel are great, by the way!)
Make learning a joyful experience, and show people the beauty and wonder of what's real. Being a discouraging killjoy will spoil your efforts.
It’s sad that participating in a movement as simple as 4B, a movement that merely requires an inaction that will keep women safe, is considered difficult, unusual or extreme.
4B is the bare minimum and women doing anything less than 4B shouldn’t be considered feminists.
If you’re not doing 4B, you should be ashamed, not only are you hurting yourself by dating or marrying men, you’re hurting everyone else around you too.
If your boyfriend or husband becomes violent, it won’t only be you that has to deal with the violence, your family, potential children and potential pets may face it too.
Even in a best case scenario situation in which your boyfriend or husband never becomes violent and is kind to you, you’re being a horrible example to any girls looking up to you, you wouldn’t get blackout drunk in front of a child, would you? No, you wouldn’t. So don’t normalize dating oppressors or act as if heterosexual relationships are typically healthy either, most heterosexual relationships are toxic, and like I said previously, even if what we’re talking about here is a best case scenario and your man is decent, there is still an inherent power imbalance between men and women, meaning no heterosexual relationship can be considered healthy.
Now, repeat after me:
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which femicide is common worldwide, even in the most “progressive” countries. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which most murdered women and girls are murdered by a male family member, boyfriend, husband or son. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which men who murder women get a slap on the wrist and sometimes even walk free. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which people regularly and knowingly vote rapists and pedophiles into office. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which most rapists aren’t charged with rape. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world where women are forced to wear the hijab and refusal to comply means risking beatings and even death. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which millions of women and girls have had their genitals mutilated and were killed due to infection that came from the unclean equipment used to slice up their genitals. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world in which virginity testing is still a thing. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world where abortion is banned, causing both maternal and infant mortality rates to climb exponentially. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world that wants to restrict or ban access to birth control. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world that wants to erase women and discourage us from talking about our oppression. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world where baby girls are discarded in trash cans because they happened to be girls. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world where over 99% of the people who sexually abuse children are men. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world where over 97% of the people who sexually abuse animals are men. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme response to a world where over 99% of poachers are men. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world where the majority of people who physically abuse or kill animals are men. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not unusual or extreme reaction to a world where terrorism, shootings, hate crimes, strangulations and arsons are typically committed by men. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
- 4B is not an unusual or extreme reaction to a world currently going through a mass extinction event due to men polluting this planet and forcing women to reproduce, to the point this planet is becoming so overpopulated, we are running out of resources. You’re just used to women staying silent and accepting mistreatment, even though it’s justified for us to lash out since we’re treated like garbage.
4B is an amazing, merciful movement, it’s the opposite of what men and anti-feminist women paint it out to be. 4B will undoubtedly save lives if enough women do it. Every baby not born is one less baby that will be an oppressor or victim. Every baby not born is one less baby that will contribute to climate change, meaning that neither babies or adults will have to suffer in the future due to a lack of resources.
I sometimes feel betrayed, concerned, in disbelief, and even disgusted with women's willful participation in patriarchy, but I am working on that. A day will come when I no longer care about any of it. From that moment on, it won't even register to me anymore. I will have accepted I was never truly owed sisterhood, nor is there a point in building it when you realise that the majority of women are deviants themselves, trapped in heated heterosexual foreplay.
Sisterhood comes across as a euphemism for labour from childfree women who are either in homosexual relationships or are celibate while the majority of women offer nothing to help those women's broken backs. They're more likely to drop a drawer of knives on their backs, really. It's not something I want to be a part of. Even among women, sisterhood is to sacrifice yourself for women who cater to males or have failed catering to males but learned nothing from it.
One day when I happen to see their struggle amongst themselves in endless cycles of empty words, cute slogans, and briefly trending hashtags while they continue loving men, regardless of how many times they prove unsalvageable, I'll not feel emotional about it at all anymore. And I will be a happier woman for it.
annoying when people act like women playing into misogyny to make a profit is something to celebrate and like not just incredibly bleak and demeaning. she's not tricking incels or draining their pockets, you're just falling for an illusion that the power is flipped as if the men who asked for this behavior in the first place aren't still in control. the fact that so many men like when women do their makeup to look like cartoon porn, put on little anime girl voices, make hentai faces, and act like babies doesn't make the women who degrade themselves and act like children for their pleasure badass. it seems like people think it being a transaction makes this a powerful thing for the woman and not like just even more misogynistic and disturbing