Jonahs-human13 - Barely Hanging On To That Tied Knot

this post hasn't left my mind since i've first saw it

Next time transphobes call trans healthcare “experimental” you can show them this

ALT

Quick reminder from Edwin: You're a MAIN B*TCH.

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if you find it hard to make close friends, i still recommend you do socialise a little. hangout with your classmates if they invite you, go to places, a little bit of human interaction everyday will keep you sane and make sure you are out of your head

....Okaybut what.

Not me paying *very* close attention to that very American disclaimer, wherein they loosely ebcouraged homicide, um what the fuc? No. Fuc that. What.

Also what the hell is up with this whole giant actual bit of the Pisces Venus missing? Really quite discouraging, but wdIk?

A Personal Thought on Water Venuses by Me.

I love to scroll through tons and tons of astrology observations all day. I can do this for days on end! However, I noticed that we can all agree within the community that having a water venus is a challenge. When I check people’s charts, I like to see how many water placements they have (if they have any) and see how much they feel beyond the physical. To me, having water placements means that you’ve learned somehow to master feeling beyond the physical. Feeling things for what they are, seeing things for what they are, having the ability to spot the subliminal and whatever else people have this tendency to overlook. It’s sucks because you have no choice to NOT face it. It is there, loud and clear. Having your Venus in this element allows you to see what goes on below the surface and seeing things for what they really are.

However, this gave me an idea. Humanity, in its current state cannot handle the natural intensity that water venuses bring on. Finding someone who can match your intensity (and not masking, acting like they can see it) is truly a rarity that seems impossible with every day passing. I’m convinced that we’re meant to literally feel and love beyond the physical. Each one in their own respective ways, depending on the sign. And when you put them together, maybe you can understand from my perspective how these placements are warriors, carrying the world on their backs, better yet in their souls.

Let’s start with a Cancer Venus. Thinking about what Cancer stands for (I.e. emotions, home/real estate, etc.) so I think that to love beyond the physical, I recommend making a space for yourself that you can call home.  Create a safe space where you, your vulnerability, your love, your creativity, etc. can thrive. In other words make a home for yourself. The saying that comes to my mind when thinking of this placement is “home is where the heart is.” Wherever you have your heart set on, that is where you will reside. Be careful of being around people who take advantage of that vulnerability because they are overstaying their welcome. That is your property and you have the right to kick someone out if they disrespect you. In some states, here in the USA, you are allowed to even take them out (if you catch my drift *cough cough* Texas and Florida  *cough cough*) by using a weapon. I am not saying that you need to kill someone…but don’t be afraid to use force if it goes *that* far. If you are able to find someone who can match your intensity, great! Invite them into your home and love them they way how you do when you’re alone. Make sure they love you as well!

For a Pisces Venus, I would say, developing an unconditional relationship with whatever is higher than you. Your spiritual side, your creativity as well, and any other innate talents that you are born with. Develop an unconditional, all-encompassing relationship with it. Because this is a mutable sign, explore the different ways to keep you interested and attached to it. You will need to learn how to express yourself in a plethora of ways to keep the flow going. You are to learn how to go with the ebb and flow of the journey to your higher self. Maybe you found someone who is also on their journey and you two just happened to cross paths. Great! However, beware that there are a lot of people who will cross your path, but only to be an obstacle overcome. By the way, it may seem like I am saying the same thing and in a way I am, but the way it is expressed is different. 

Last but definitely not least, Scorpio Venus. As everyone says, Scorpio is into the dark stuff. This placement has a love for the dark arts. If not a love for the dark arts, an appreciation for recognizing that which is liminal (I don’t know if that is the right term for it, but basically what is actually shown compared to what people want to show). Just like Pisces Venus, the goal here is to develop an enclosed relationship which that you’re innately blessed with. To consume the information, and in turn letting it consume you, guiding you with the necessary information that will help you avoid problems in the long run. Anything taboo, the psychology of a person’s mind, working with spirits/angels/demons/entities/etc. to help you achieve a personal goal whether it be protection for yourself, or to return someone’s negative energy that they have attempted to send to you. Allow yourself to become possessed by the knowledge. Allow yourself to be obsessive over the curiosity for more information regarding what does not be exposed to humanity. 

Of course, too much of a good thing is a bad thing, so practicing the concept of moderation is needed. But this concludes my speech on the psychology of water venuses, from a Scorpio Venus =). Be safe and travel!

The thrilling threquel: "have you tried yoga? Walking? Or what about livelaugloving?"

“if you take medication for that, you’ll be taking medication all your life!!” yeah, and?? bud, i already put on my glasses every morning. it’s like. a condition of mine, not a side hobby i’m pursuing irresponsibly. 

y'know what? fuck it! shout out to all my fellow "stereotypes!"

shoutout to my fellow autists who do feel like a kid in an adult’s body because their mind works differently. shoutout to my fellow systems who have alters that lash out, and/or alters of fictives from popular media. shoutout to my fellow bpd folks who get clingy and have abandonment issues. shoutout to the autists who act "robotic" and love trains or dinosaurs. shoutout to the people with OCD/OCPD who do get obsessions with cleanliness and orderliness, who do wash their hands over and over, who do lock and unlock the doors a specific number of times. shoutout to the people struggling with intrusive thoughts that do get the violent ones and the sexual ones, not just the self-injurious ones.

shoutout to my fellow flamboyant gays. shoutout to the lesbians who wear flannel and have buzzcuts. shoutout to the aces who like space and cake and dragons. shoutout to the aces who are stoic and don't have an interest in bonding with people even non-romantically. shoutout to the nbs with neopronouns and names like "star." shoutout to the queers(or otherwise lgbt+ folk if you don't use that term for yourself) who have dyed and cut hair, wear a shitload of pronoun pins, wear a rainbow binder that can be seen, and love talking about how much they love being part of the community.

shoutout to my fellow activists who yell and get mad. shoutout to my fellow activists who bring up the problems in things, even if it means "always making it political." shoutout to the feminists who don't wear bras or shave, and don't get along with men.

shoutout to the men who struggle with emotions. shoutout to the men who love blue and camo and trucks and fixing things and sports and hunting. shoutout to the women who cry easily. shoutout to the women who take hours getting ready. shoutout to the women who love pink and shopping and shoes and cooking and taking care of kids and cleaning.

i'm very white so i'll summarize the next one: shoutout to all the BIPOC fitting into "stereotypes" as well. if anyone who is BIPOC wants to give specific shout outs, go for it!

to anyone who fits these or any other "stereotypes":

You are not a stereotype. You are a person with traits and qualities. You are not doing anything wrong by being true to yourself, whether that means fitting expectations or not.

Anyone who hates whatever group you are in for these "stereotypes" would hate your group regardless; anyone who accuses you of "giving your group a bad name" is deflecting the hate onto you because it's easier to pretend that it's nothing they are doing that gets that hatred; the truth is, bigots are bigots and they will always find a "reason" to be hateful. You trying to avoid "stereotypes" will never change that.

(do not fucking clown on this post. you will not get a debate from me, you will get blocked.)

gentle reminders in case you need it:

it’s ok to start “late”

drink water if you haven’t for hours

it’s ok if u need more time than other people

it’s ok to feel what you’re feeling

you have a cute smile

you make people happy

you have plenty of good traits

you are loved

you deserve all the good things

it’s ok if you relapse, it doesn’t make u weak

bad days are just temporary

tomorrow is a new day

you can heal again

I’m proud of you

All of this.

We knew we had ADHDbrain *long* before diagnosis.

We knew we had BPD *long* before even all the symptoms were showing.

We knew we even were Multiple v. early on (but were gaslit by psychiatry).

You know you better than anyone else.

Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”

Then block you.

Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.

Misdiagnoses happen a lot

People aren’t taken seriously

It’s expensive asf

Its inaccessible

People want to adopt

People want the right to their bodily autonomy

I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.

Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:

Finding coping mechanisms

Find organization tools to function

Therapy

Talking about experiences

Researching extensively on traits

Documenting

Unmasking

Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)

Stimming (if it isn’t harming)

Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.

We’re valid

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.”

— Alexander den Heijer