just-ju

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The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

weirdest side effect of the pandemic is how many people i know who get sick and say 'but my covid tests are negative so i should be fine' like you know other illnesses. exist. right.

everyone more pretentious than me is an insufferable poseur and everyone less pretentious than me is a clueless philistine

12/Clara photoshoots aesthetic, it’s what I thrive for

queerplatonic is whatever those 3 middleaged animal men from ice age had btw. i hope you understand now

lmao on the edinburgh zoo site it says “there is a daily penguin parade at 14:15 but it may be cancelled last minute as it is a voulntary parade, we do not coax the penguins with food, and they may not want to go out” lmao anarchopenguinism

I would like to wish everyone an uneventful new year

Goncharov wouldn’t be half as entertaining if Tumblr weren’t completely and utterly willing to “yes and” all the initial flaws. Katya’s name should be Goncharova? Her calling herself Goncharov reflects her complicated relationship with both her gender and her queerness. Andrey’s name should be Andrei? No, because he’s actually a Ukrainian being mistaken for a Russian by the Italians, which is central to his character and the themes about identity and nationality in the wake of the collapsed USSR. The USSR wouldn’t even fall until 20 years after the film was made? Matteo JWHJ0715 was ahead of his time.

It’s a great example about how good faith approach to writing can really enhance the reading, when you treat flaws as opportunities rather than just nitpicking them or erasing them. The mistakes being folded into Goncharov makes for a deeper, stronger, and more interesting story than if those mistakes had never happened at all.

reading A Study in Scarlet the first time like

Arthur Conan Doyle: hehe thank you for picking up my silly little book about a silly little man going on silly little adventures haha! hope he can solve all the silly little mysteries hehehe! come on in get comfy– *locks door* MORMONISM IS A CULT

"Villain era," I hiccup between sobs as I'm forced to assert basic boundaries for my mental well being.

I can't believe home depot literally produced a wildly successful science fiction musical and we all just pretend it didn't happen. on one hand yes it had a boring white guy main character but like.... home depot just... Made it? And it had shit ton of box office sales? and no one even talks about this. this is like avatar (2009) all over again

Is anyone else ever a little baffled by the cis women who consider women’s restrooms and locker rooms these safe havens from abuse and sexual harassment?

Like I feel like there are two options here:

1. They did not have mean girls in their school

2. They were the mean girls in their school and didn’t realize all the shit they were doing to the other girls in the locker room was absolutely sexual harassment and sometimes assault

kitty wrapped. in a little blanket

A few days ago I came across a video that really resonated with me and I can’t find it but what was said is stuck in my head.

“My whole personality was being smart and then one day I wasn’t ”

I was always just the smart and nerdy kid and after the pandemic, and everything else that happened to me, I ended up failing exam after exam. And with that title of smart being gone I’ve come to realise I never developed an actual personality.

the kiss, by inna ruda

New Program Idea

A figure skating program to the how to train your dragon soundtrack and as a dress a black one with some leathery optics, but a small red/orange/yellow fiery piece of fabric at the skirt.

we all know about the adhd hyper fixations that make you do one thing and one thing only for 3 days straight only for you to drink a sip of water and your brain's goes "nah, ion wike it anymore :("

but how about when you really wanna do something and you're so excited and then you start doing that thing but after literally 3 seconds of doing it it becomes so overwhelmingly boring that you... stop?

Ok tell me this people, how do I explain to people that being infantilized is really disrespectful and upsetting? Every time I try everyone tells me "how is looking young for your age is not a compliment?" And I can't tell them it's not the same as infantilization and the latter actually feels very demeaning.

There’s a devil in your head telling you that you can complete 4 tasks before you eat breakfast and it’ll be fine. Do not listen to that guy you will be so hungry and so pissed off they’re lying to you

me irl

grounding techniques, ok 5 things i can see. ugly man. shitty palm tree. clear evidence of air pollution. conservative bumper stickers. roadkill. why do i feel worse

i don’t think we talk enough about how childhood bullying really just. fucks up your ability to make friends long-term.

I’m not talking about self-image or even like attachment styles, although peer emotional abuse affects that too. I’m talking about how it legitimately stunts your understanding of how positive platonic relationships even work.

Like, a few years back (pre pandemic) a classmate point-blank told me, “hey, you’re pretty cool, do you wanna come out for drinks and trivia with us Thursday night?” and my first internal reaction wasn’t “oh cool, a friend!” or even “I’m not really interested” but: “where is the trap?” My kneejerk response to an earnest overture of friendship from this guy was trying to figure out how he was trying to back me into a corner, trick me into something, or make fun of me. We were in goddamm GRADUATE SCHOOL.

Of course I did end up going to drinks and it was a lovely time, but sometimes I think about the sheer number of potential friendships I’ve missed out on because I read their intentions as potentially hostile, *even when their intent is clearly not hostile*. Getting asked out for drinks is SUPER NORMAL. Being invited to parties is normal. Meeting for coffee is normal. in fact it’s a primary way of forging adult friendships. But i am immediately wary of it, because the years in which I was developing most of my crucial social skills were spent dodging cruel pranks, getting invited to fake parties or uninvited from real ones, getting asked out “as a joke”, being given compliments that were actually somehow insults, and so forth.

I don’t have problems making friends– I talk to people for a living, I am overall extremely charismatic and get invited out a lot, but I struggle to forge new connections because my trained response is to be immediately suspicious of people who appear friendly, welcoming and well-intentioned – even fifteen years later. This is why I don’t get the “you should have been bullied more” crowd. Like somehow bullying makes you more “normal”. It definitely doesn’t, even if “normal” was a real thing. I am definitely a more antisocial weirdo as a result of prolonged peer-to-peer emotional abuse than I would have been otherwise.

Expecting Neurodivegents to work by Neurotypicals' methods is like pressing Windows shortcuts on a Macbook.

You know I had to do it to em

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