Replaying DRAGON QUEST XI - Heliodor ;

Hello, I saw in a previous ask you provided some location-based resources since they were moving, and I was just wondering if you could provide any tips or help in searching for a gender therapist? I am around Harrisburg, PA and have been searching for a gender therapist to go to in my area, or even just within the vicinity (I am willing to drive a bit of a ways if needed). Thank you very much for your time!

Lee says:

We have a Getting a therapist and being in therapy post which might help in searching for a gender therapist, so first you should check that out!

I looked it up, and it seems there’s a trans support group in Harrisburg, and you could go there and ask the members who they see if they have a therapist or if they have any recommendations.

The Alder Health Services website says they have therapists so that’s something you could look into also, and you could look through these therapists.

There’s also the Mazzoni Center which is like 2 hours away from you according to google maps, but they may be able to refer you to more local therapists, and they have the Trans Wellness Conference in August where there will be a lot of trans folk to talk to.

Hi! I’m an mtf girl and I’ve been searching around for good hairstyles to have, but I’m having a lot of trouble finding anything that wouldn’t be too suspicious to ask my hairdresser to do. She doesn’t know I’m trans and I’m unsure of how she’ll react if I told her. Do you have any advice or good hairstyles that would work in this situation?

Devon says:

Firstly, check out this post from our transfeminine resources!

Depending on how often you get your hair cut/styled, and how soon you want a more feminine hairstyle, you could try gauging how supportive she is the next time you see her. This would give you the opportunity to figure out if she is supportive while you get your “usual” hair cut/style, and then you can make the decision about whether to come out to her before the next time you get your hair cut/styled.

If she then seems unsupportive of trans folks, or you don’t want to wait so long for a new hairstyle, then you could try some of these things:

Go to a new hairdresser, who you know is supportive of trans folks

This website looks helpful (under “What Do You Need?” with the category “Personal Care & Services”)

Try searching elsewhere online for supportive businesses in your area

Ask LGBT+ friends of yours about their hairdressers. If you don’t have any LGBT+ friends, you could contact local LGBT+ organizations and ask them where they get their hair cut/styled

Ask on facebook! You might have accepting acquaintances who are into hairstyling and willing to help you out, that you don’t know about

Search for reference photos online, or using links from the first post that I linked

Try a search term like “feminine men hair” or “unisex men hair” on search engine like Google

Google image results for these search terms are all white folks, so you can add “feminine Black men hair” if you’re Black, for example

This will give you a photo of a man with the more feminine hair style, which your hairdresser may be more accepting of than a reference photo of a woman with the hair style that you want

Style/cut your own hair! Use tips from the first post that I linked

I hope this helps! Followers, reblog this post with more tips for anon.

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TOP 50 TELEVISION CHARACTERS (as voted by my followers): #50 - angela moss (mr. robot)

“I have an idea that will change the world. I know it sounds really stupid, but I know how to do it. I think it could actually work.”

I'm an AMAB Trans girl and I'm wondering how to avoid voice dysphoria when I begin practicing? My voice (when I was in choir) was low in the base section if it helps.

Harper says:Hey there!First, I’ll signpost you to our dysphoria tips page, for general dealing with dysphoria tips, and our transfem voice page, and (a bit of a long shot here) a search I did about voice dysphoria on our blog.At first, it’ll be strange and you’ll probably sound a bit funny at the top of your range, so it’ll take you some time to get your footing, (I’m a casual learner and I’m still not really there). I think that’s probably the main thing you should keep in mind - either in terms of dealing with voice dysphoria, or in terms of just trying to embrace that shakiness and sometimes silliness as a bit of fun with it.With this in mind, if you haven’t started practicing raising the tone of your voice and you’re worried that it might induce dysphoria - give it a go first, it might not be as bad as you think!Also don’t forget about the other part of vocal training: intonation - learning the traditionally “feminine” inflections etc., of speech. This can be the best way of actually sounding “feminine” no matter how high or low your voice is. There are plenty of trans women and cis women with lovely deep voices (the model Dara hasn’t made any effort to heighten her voice and its lovely and deep and feminine) that sound womanly / feminine / all that jazz. (There’s a very popular post I think about a lot that comes to mind, deep voices in girls can be very well loved by some people!)Try to keep in mind that there’s no “correct” level, or “correct” voice to strive for. The voice you have right now is a woman’s voice! And also try to keep in mind that the more you practice, the easier things will become, it’s all about growing.Finally, I’d recommend representation. Listening to trans women talk is one of my great comforts in life. I don’t have a wide variety of sources but I’ll link here a brief list of the people I listen to/know about. If any other followers or mods have any other ideas that’d be grand!Shon Faye - Shon this Way (YouTube link)Paris Lees - Interview with James O’Brien (YT link)Merritt Kopas - Woodland Secrets (Podcast)Morgan M. Page - One from the Vaults (trans history podcast)Laura Jane Grace - from the band Against Me! (YT interview and song)

‪Getting real fucking tired of people telling me that I have to be chill & that I can’t get angry when family members deadname/misgender me. I get that it takes time for people to get used to new names/pronouns, but I’ve been out as trans for almost a year now. You’ve had time. And now, when family members STILL get it wrong, it just feels like they don’t even care enough to try to use my correct name/pronouns.‬ Ugh.

TV Performances of 2017 - Joey Badass as Leon, Mr. Robot, Season 3.

Elliot’s journey of mistrusting us & Mr. Robot and building that trust back up.

My father picked me up from school one day and we played hooky and went to the beach. It was too cold to go in the water, so we sat on a blanket and ate pizza. When I got home, my sneakers were full of sand, and I dumped it on my bedroom floor. I didn’t know the difference. I was six. My mother screamed at me for the mess, but he wasn’t mad. He said that billions of years ago, the world shifting and the oceans moving brought that sand to that spot on the beach, and then I took it away. “Every day,” he said, “we change the world,” which is a nice thought until I think about how many days and lifetimes I would need to bring a shoe full of sand home until there is no beach, until it made a difference to anyone. Every day we change the world, but to change the world in a way that means anything- that takes more time than most people have. It never happens all at once. It’s slow. It’s methodical. It’s exhausting. We don’t all have the stomach for it.

– Mr. Robot 1x05, ‘eps1.4_3xpl0its.wmv’