“You Have The Look Of A Man Who Accepts What He Sees Because He Is Expecting To Wake Up.”

Have I told y’all about my husband’s Fork Theory?  If I did already, pretend I didn’t, I’m an old.

So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time. But it has a corollary.  You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right? Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens.  A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.

This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”

I'm an AMAB Trans girl and I'm wondering how to avoid voice dysphoria when I begin practicing? My voice (when I was in choir) was low in the base section if it helps.

Harper says:Hey there!First, I’ll signpost you to our dysphoria tips page, for general dealing with dysphoria tips, and our transfem voice page, and (a bit of a long shot here) a search I did about voice dysphoria on our blog.At first, it’ll be strange and you’ll probably sound a bit funny at the top of your range, so it’ll take you some time to get your footing, (I’m a casual learner and I’m still not really there). I think that’s probably the main thing you should keep in mind - either in terms of dealing with voice dysphoria, or in terms of just trying to embrace that shakiness and sometimes silliness as a bit of fun with it.With this in mind, if you haven’t started practicing raising the tone of your voice and you’re worried that it might induce dysphoria - give it a go first, it might not be as bad as you think!Also don’t forget about the other part of vocal training: intonation - learning the traditionally “feminine” inflections etc., of speech. This can be the best way of actually sounding “feminine” no matter how high or low your voice is. There are plenty of trans women and cis women with lovely deep voices (the model Dara hasn’t made any effort to heighten her voice and its lovely and deep and feminine) that sound womanly / feminine / all that jazz. (There’s a very popular post I think about a lot that comes to mind, deep voices in girls can be very well loved by some people!)Try to keep in mind that there’s no “correct” level, or “correct” voice to strive for. The voice you have right now is a woman’s voice! And also try to keep in mind that the more you practice, the easier things will become, it’s all about growing.Finally, I’d recommend representation. Listening to trans women talk is one of my great comforts in life. I don’t have a wide variety of sources but I’ll link here a brief list of the people I listen to/know about. If any other followers or mods have any other ideas that’d be grand!Shon Faye - Shon this Way (YouTube link)Paris Lees - Interview with James O’Brien (YT link)Merritt Kopas - Woodland Secrets (Podcast)Morgan M. Page - One from the Vaults (trans history podcast)Laura Jane Grace - from the band Against Me! (YT interview and song)

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so season 1 was familiarizing us with elliot’s alters, introducing players and setting the scene for the play that was about to unfold. season 2 was creating tension between mastermind & robot and establishing just how unreliable a narrator elliot would be just by way of his mental illness. season 3 was when all the big, sweeping moves happened and the fate of most of the players was determined. season 4 is the jarring, sudden realization that this was never about revenge, but a desperate desire for control over a world that was unsafe for host elliot to occupy; that there was a greater purpose concealed beneath the theatrics and rage-fueled rants, and that elliot’s trauma was always at the center of it. 

Aye, little one, back home you go, then. 

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