Leeisallyouneed - Finding Peace

I participated in a live quiz by a writer on Substack, which got me thinking about love, partners, and relationships. People who believe in and practice monogamy often see their love as pure, earnest, and true. In contrast, those who explore other types of relationships, such as polyamory, are often viewed as less pure, less earnest, and definitely untrue.

For a long time, I believed in the ideology that polyamorous love was somehow less pure because society teaches that true love is meant to be between two people forever. However, we are society, and we have the power to determine our own beliefs and values. Thus, we can choose to view love differently.

Regardless of other factors, love is love. If it's not genuine, then it simply isn't. When you truly love someone—or multiple people—your affection for one person doesn't diminish the love you have for another. We express love in different ways, and it's impossible to equate or quantify it.

An important aspect to consider is the notion that differing levels of commitment in polyamorous relationships indicate a lack of commitment overall. However, that is not the case. If someone is open and transparent with their partners about wanting to be involved with both, how is that not a form of commitment? In fact, it could be seen as a double commitment!

The idea that someone can love two or more people romantically because one person isn’t enough for them is a common myth. It’s important to recognize that it’s never truly about the other person. What does it even mean for someone to be "enough"? We need community and connection, and a person can thrive with more than one meaningful relationship. This doesn't automatically make each person any less whole or sufficient. In my view, the answer is no; they are still complete individuals.

I am tired of ranting and will head to bed now

Fe

Love comes back around

Sitting at the airport at 2am

Thinking about love and relationships and how they encompass so much of our lives

How someone you think you’d never love again becomes a life long partner

How a long time friendship turns into a steamy love story

How some people could never really move on from a love that was lost

How two ex lovers, one day, can’t be in the same room because feelings

How we miss our pets when we travel for a bit

How mum’s sometimes live for their kids

We go about our little lives but there is a big part of us and simply wants to love and be loved

What hurts the most?

The denial within myself

The unveiling of the truth

The painting I drew that was a lie

The preparations to start again at the end

What really hurts the most is the disappointment

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Nov 2024 | Netflix: "What's In My Trunk?" (x)

Numb???? (Rant not a poem)

I Dont know how i am feeling, i just know that i am not okay okay, i look okay but i dont think i am, i want to lie on the floor, i have to convince myself not to eat the same thing over and over, even though that's all i honestly want to eat, its hard to focus and i feel so easily irritable.

I hate having to explain the way I am feeling to people most times I am met with template responses and on the worst side, seemly dismissive responses or passive dismissive responses, like “you will be fine” and the other variations of it, the craziest thing is, I don’t even know what the response should but it makes me want to shrink still, a part of me feels like people avoid me or reduce interaction with me when they can’t quite grasp what I am feeling and that makes me feel alone and like I shouldn’t share how I am feeling but I also know that bottling it up is not the way to go, so no up and no down

Sometimes I daydream or bother line dissociate from my body to relax, I wonder if other people do that too.

Musings part 209

Is loving a part of hurting or is hurting a part of loving

We meet someone who makes us smile and happy and excited but they also make us sad, hurt and upset

It’s like a dance between two souls, is it a forever dance? Where we find each other and do the dance in every single life time?

Or is this life time sadly not the forever after one but the dance one

I’ll never know, all I know is, in every moment that I am not with you, I long to be.

Source: kitten.foster.corner

A friend once said “anxiety leave me alone”

Somehow that felt profound to me, cause I also would very much like to be left alone.

I like to think to myself that my mind is an interesting place, I laugh nowadays when my mind conjures something that we need to be afraid and I think to myself like really, a new one? And chuckle a little.

I think making fun of myself makes me feel like I am more in control.

It really does help.