Nonbinary Moodboard

Just a reminder:

Flare ups happen and when they do its okay to slow down and it's okay to take a break

Rest is productive

Taking care of your body is an act of self love

Asking for help is okay and you should do it because your loved ones wanna be here for you

You are not a burden for your flare-ups, and your flare-up is a burden on you, not everyone else

I repeat Your body is a burden on you, but you are not a burden💛

I’ve seen quite a few people this past week ask something along the lines of ‘how to be up-to-date and properly informed about current events and politics and also not get super depressed?’

While most of these were phrased in a joking matter, it actually is a really good question. Being able to balance awareness of the shitty things happening in the world, but not letting that shittiness destroy you is a skill.

Being well informed is vital. However, if you become so informed that it’s starting to effect your life, you’ve gone too far.

The point of being aware of current events, especially bad ones, is so you can do something about it. Read about it, post about it, donate to charity, volunteer, etc. Something you can’t do if your overwhelmed with (rightful) anger and sadness.

So the answer to the original question is that you become informed enough that you want to do something about it, but do not overload yourself to the point where you feel too depressed to take any action.

Burying your head in the sand isn’t good. But neither is doomscrolling into oblivion. Find that middle where you are actively interested in what is happening in the world, but not to the point where it becomes a hinderance to regular life.

Being aware of the world around you is super interesting, but don’t spiral. Misery loves company. Stay informed, stay active, stay hopeful.

windows in chinese suzhou gardens by 六毛钱的月亮

please stop immediately giving disabled people suggestions when they talk about their pain, it's not a free pass to assume we haven't tried the most basic things ever before :/

(it's like assuming we haven't thought to drink water if we're thirsty)

post buddie canon episode called “partners” where buck and eddie aren’t allowed to be partners at work anymore so the whole episode we see bobby teaming up different duos on different calls. we get fun character moments between characters we don’t see interacting as much and of course it ends with some big climax where buck and eddie prove they work best as a team and should get to stay partners <3.

tim minear you can steal this one

For real.

abled bodied people also need to understand that, for physically disabled people resting isn't "free time" that you can use up with assigning us tasks or duties because you're busy. it's an essential part of managing disability and some of us have a hard limit that we're avoiding by having days where we do nothing.

pony being like "darry treats me like a little kid even though i am grown🙄" brother soda has to sleep in your bed because you have nightmares otherwise. they tickle you out of bed every morning. darry carried you to bed like a baby. you draw pictures of horses instead of doing your homework.

There is so much shame that comes with having amnesia and other memory issues.

As someone that has multiple conditions that cause memory loss (DID, TBI, ADHD, etc) we can't even begin to describe the shame and guilt that is conditioned into people who are """forgetful""".

Having memory issues does not make you a bad person. It doesn't mean you are uncaring, lazy, or immature.

Memory is simply one of the many things that people can struggle with. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. We are conditioned to think otherwise because being "forgetful" makes people less productive to a capitalist society. Society is arranged to make life a living hell for people with memory issues. This is an aspect of structural ableism. People in power do not want people like us to exist because we are less useful to them.

Dont get me wrong - it can absolutely hurt when someone you care about forgets something that's important to you. You're not wrong for feeling upset that someone missed an important date, event, detail, etc. That makes sense and feeling that way is not inherently ableist.

All we ask for is for compassion to be extended to people who struggle with memory. We ask for people to stop assigning moral value to how effective someone's memory is. We desire for social structures to accommodate people of all cognitive functions, not just those who are most productive to a capitalist machine.

And if you are someone with memory issues, know you do not need to be ashamed. We've been conditioned to hold negative beliefs about ourselves and our struggles for somebody else's benefit. Guilt and shame will not resolve our struggles. You are worthy and valuable as you are.

I really don't think a lot of abled and low support needs disabled people realize how many of us rely on the kindness of others to stay alive. Imagine if your entire survival and existence was pinned to being likeable enough.