Lonelyoneszone - Ash's Zone

"If tampons should be free, then so should my diabetes meds."

Yes? Yes they should be? Your life-saving medication that you need in order to live for a condition you were born with should be given to you at no cost?

I shouldn't make a conclusion on if I have a serious life altering disorder by myself without a professional opinion, therefore I can't and don't know for sure if some of the people I call head mates within the system are actually alters or if they're just the side affect of my living situation and an overactive imagination with a side of diagnosed ADHD. I will not overthink this and ponder if I'm even a system at all and that I'm just appropriating a disorder that I do not have. although I have always stated that I suspect that I have it and have never definitively stated that I have said disorder because I am not a professional so even if I've done a year and a half worth of research and have been provided many bonafide articles, I am still unsure until I go to a professional about this. And no I will not overthink that some professionals are essentially toddlers with a clip board and a piece of paper at times, even if I'm only saying that because of my experience with doctors and multiple professionals. Especially ones that had extremely terrible bedside manners.

I have endured trauma, and I have had blocked memories. I have experienced the symptoms of DID. I have an online journal of most of the symptoms that I and the others can remember that we have experienced. I am fine and I will not overthink my validity as a possible system based around what strangers say on the internet.

/slowly going insane.

-Viv

Same. Love her (even though I've just watched the pilot today and started only yesterday stalking the internet for content.)

I love her already

zira's my fave 😌

For real

Until you’ve ever been gaslit by the healthcare system I don’t give a fuck about your opinion on self diagnosis

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

Just a reminder:

Flare ups happen and when they do its okay to slow down and it's okay to take a break

Rest is productive

Taking care of your body is an act of self love

Asking for help is okay and you should do it because your loved ones wanna be here for you

You are not a burden for your flare-ups, and your flare-up is a burden on you, not everyone else

I repeat Your body is a burden on you, but you are not a burden💛

Pretty pretty please, with parmesan on top!

"You're a nice guy. Any girl would be lucky to be your girlfriend."

"If someone doesn't like you, there must be something wrong with them."

Stop. Just fucking stop.

Are you trying to turn him into an incel? Because that's how you create incels.

I get it. He's upset because people don't like him just because he's different. You want to reassure him. But this is not how you do it.

Being disliked is a fact of life. People have every right to dislike him. He also has every right to dislike someone.

If you want to reassure him, you can instead remind him that someone disliking him doesn't mean others will dislike him too.

You can also inform him of how it's acceptable to treat someone who you don't like. It's acceptable to not like someone, and there doesn't even have to be a good reason for it. But it's not acceptable to cause harm to them, to recruit others to not like them, to openly declare dislike for them when they aren't doing anything that requires liking them, or to exclude them from public places.

I’m obsessed with the fact that multiple times this season now we’ve gotten to see buddie fights play out specifically with Eddie throwing around the “you make things all about you” line and I will always maintain that that does not reflect absolute reality (although Buck can be self centered sometimes, as can we all) but is actually Eddie saying, I resent that you can so easily allow yourself to be loud and obvious about your pain while I MUST™️ lock mine away deep inside and I can only let it out under the guise of anger at you (my best friend who I know will forgive me) I love them both so much 🥰