The Worst Thing You Can Do Is Get Stuck In Wanting. It’s Safe And Easy To Stay With The Longing And

Trista Mateer, from "Aphrodite Made Me Do It," originally published in 2019

I hope you understand, you deserve nothing but love regardless of your past or your futures mistakes to come. You deserve it all.

Thoughts-> emotion -> behaviour -> action -> habits -> results

It all starts with your thoughts.

Your brain has the ability to visualize both the past and future. This means we’re not only able to relive difficult scenarios from our past but also imagine worst case outcomes that haven’t even happened yet.

Your mind doesn’t distinguish between what’s imagined and what’s real. When you repeatedly think about stressful situations or dwell on negativity, your body reacts as if those scenarios are actually happening. You have the power to turn on the stress response with your thoughts alone.

Unfortunately, our brains are wired to focus on the negative, imagining worst case scenarios, worrying, and even sabotaging ourselves.

When you’re constantly visualizing stress or living with a negative mindset, your body struggles to escape fight or flight mode. Instead of relaxing, your brain keeps releasing stress hormones to protect you from perceived danger even when no real danger exists.

However, a stressed mind and a grateful mind can’t exist at the same time.

If your thoughts can make you sick, they can also heal you. By shifting your focus to positive thoughts you can help your body relax, reduce stress, and promote healing. It starts with bringing awareness to your thoughts and consciously choosing to focus on what uplifts you.

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete”

— Buddha

Strangers to friends then strangers again

“Things never end the way you expect them to. Though our time with each other was always vibrant and loving, the end came suddenly and spineless, without send off or ceremony, slipping away quietly into the dark. An ordinary moment, like any other, that just happened to be our last.”

— Beau Taplin

honey instead of romanticising neat little plans that live only in your head, you gotta fall in love with the mess, the challenge, the chaos of a life truly lived. it is so so beautiful but you’re so afraid of anything real and raw; you think it’s ugly and frightening. but it’s not, it’s not!