Don’t Fall Into The Perfectionist Trap! The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself Is The First Something.

Do you ever feel sick and don't feel like doing anything when the day before you told yourself you were going to do a glow up, live always the best ecc..?

yes definitely! unless i'm actually sick and incapable of doing anything, i will at least try. you didn't ask for advice, but here we go anyways. when i feel like that, heres a few things i do:

how to do things when you don't feel like doing them: (from personal experience)

believe that you can do anything. dont roll your eyes at me! dont skip this part either. this is the main point that gets me going every single time. i truly believe that i can do anything, that i am capable of literally anything that i want to achieve. if i want it, i will have it. that is the first mindset you must have when it comes to this.

start small/ make it fun. yes, ofc i said this. if you can't do a full 1 hour workout, do some pushups/squats/lunges and go for a bike ride or a walk with a friend. what i do when im going bike riding with a friend is we go to a mall and buy drinks there! so make it fun! adding friends to whatever you need to do certainly makes it fun. another thing you can do is if you need to read, you can create a cosy spot in your room with scented candles and a little snack and everything and sit and read there. just the idea of it gets me excited!

treat yourself like a project/ robot. now THIS is something that has certainly gotten my some discipline. we as humans have emotions and feelings and moods. sometimes we don't wanna do stuff, and we actually cave into that. if you promised yourself that you would change your life, switch off your emotions and moods. treat yourself like a robot or an "apprentice" that you're training to become the best.

reward yourself! so you can either reward the action (like reading or studying) or the outcome (like finishing a book or getting a high mark on a test). decide what works the best for you. example: you don't wanna study? you can either a) reward yourself for studying with some free time with friends or watching your fav show or b) you can reward your self by the score you get on the test (ex if you got higher than 80%= a certain thing on your wish list, above 90%= a better thing on your wish list, 100%= the thing you've wanted for ages) you don't wanna read? you can either.. a) reward yourself for reading for x amount of minutes or b) you can reward yourself for finishing a book in a certain amount of time.

alter egosss. i know, i mention this quite often, but trust me this actually gives such a burst of emotion! embody someone else/ a different version of you that can best handle the situation. im gonna make a whole post on alter egos soon cus i mention it in a lot of my posts.

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Please remember that if ur actually sick or genuinely feeling really low, remember to rest!! Remember to take time to relax and slow down. Take care of yourself honey <3

thats it for now! i hope this helped <3

btw heres a big master-post to how to get things done when you dont want to (not by me)

helloo ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ !!

laufey my beloved

laufey my beloved

self introduction yipee

قالوا: تموت بها حبـاًً، فقلـت لهـم. ألا اذكروها علـى قبـري فتحيينـي

English translation: They asked "Do you love her to death?" | said "Speak of her over my grave and watch how she brings me back to life."

just re-read @agentnatesewell and @ava-du-mortain headcanons of Nate being a darling during ramadhan and i CANNOTTT stop thinking abt it so heres a whole visual board based on that ☹️🤍

Quote of the day

Honey, I'm a little nervous. How can I manifest such unreal beauty that can impress everyone and be something like jennifercheck. There is a popular group at my college and my friends and I are in love with them, the problem is that they are very womanizing and only look at models and have a specific type of physical type of girls that they like. We see them as unattainable, besides we have never had a conversation with them and we feel that it is difficult for us, what can we do? Is it possible? [...]

HOW2LOA : be that guy/girl !

i hope you don’t mind me changing up the question a bit so my answer can be easier to apply for more people :)

realise you already are them. end of post thank you for reading. i’m kidding of course, but that really is what it comes down to. you need to realise that you don’t need to “manifest” it, because you already are it. there is no separation. there already is a version of yourself that has your ideal physical beauty, the body you want, the face you want, who is living the life that you want. all that you need to do is accept that it is true and think like that version of yourself.

who do you want to be? define that and think like that version of yourself. live like them even. this doesn’t mean that you have to go crazy with spending money if you want to be rich for example, but i think doing simple everyday tasks that you can incorporate into your daily routine will help with the resistance. for example, if you want long hair you could try brushing your hair every day and affirming that with every brush it gets longer.

you should realise that you need to be it. i think a lot of people are manifesting thinking it is a process and something you are trying to do or create. no! it is who you are aware of being. so act like it, think like it, feel like it and it will materialize in no time. you need to prioritize your state above everything else. what state makes you feel the best? the calmest? the most fulfilled? what would it feel like to live like the version of you that has what you want? be it now!

its a good idea to work on your self concept as well. you do not need it to manifest however you will be able to fall back on it when in doubt or fear. embrace yourself, follow your happiness and persist! everything is working out for you :)

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges.