Luxlila

She's is one of my favorite TikTok and Instagram pages.

Is hypergamy inherently transactional, and if so, does it risk commodifying relationship?

It doesn't surprise me at all that somebody would view hypergamy to be something that is inherently transactional the way it's showcased on social media. When you scroll through the hypergamy tag on TikTok, all you're going to see is tons of videos by beautiful woman who seem to to live the life - taken on expensive trips and shopping sprees, spoiled like a princess by their so called boyfriends, and living an enviably luxurious lifestyle. Nine times out of ten, she’s either a SW, staging it for views and attention, or trying to sell you something—a course, a consultation, a book, or some other product.

The version of “hypergamy” often showcased on TikTok is inherently transactional. Many of the women presenting themselves as “spoiled girlfriends” are, in reality, engaging in SW. This dynamic involves exchanging physical favors for money, which is fundamentally different from hypergamy. Despite the narratives pushed by some SWs, the two concepts are not interchangeable.The lines often blur in online spaces, which I find quite weird but it’s particularly concerning for young girls who come across videos of women being showered with gifts, roses, and luxurious lifestyles without realizing that, more often than not, these women are offering certain favors in return and this lack of transparency can be dangerously misleading.

Hypergamy is not a new concept or a trend that has arisen in recent years. It has existed since the dawn of humanity and will continue to do so because most women will always be attracted to men who can provide them with a good life, much in the same way that men are attracted to beautiful woman, it’s just a fundamental aspect of human nature and rooted in biology and social conditioning. Does that mean a man will settle down with a woman just because she's beautiful or that a woman will settle down with any rich man? In most cases, that’s not the case—unless they lack discernment or are extremely desperate. Attraction and relationships are far more complex than just beauty or wealth.

You can’t build a healthy, lasting relationship on something as superficial as good looks or wealth alone. Yes, physical attraction and financial stability are very important factors but there are many other key factors at play and no man in his right mind is going to marry a woman just for her looks or in exchange for physical favors. A woman who has married well will keep her mouth shut about it and care about her privacy and reputation, you're not gonna catch her filming videos of a day in her life as a spoiled girlfriend or trophy wife, she's not going to give you tips on how to bag a man and what manipulation strategies to use because those tips don't work in the long haul unless you want to attract narcissists or unstable man.

A woman who attracted a quality man did it by becoming one herself. The most reliable way for a woman to marry well is by focusing on becoming the best version of herself—not for the purpose of attracting a wealthy partner, but for her own growth and self-worth. Women who have genuinely succeeded in hypergamy don’t make online videos or share intimate details of their lives. They know the power of privacy, dignity, and self-respect.

Women who marry well do so not just because of their looks, but because they have dedicated themselves to personal growth in every aspect of their lives. They invest in their education, build meaningful careers, and refine their skills, improve in every aspect of their life while also cultivating a strong, supportive social circle. I don’t believe in opposites attract; you attract who you are. The quality of the partner you draw into your life reflects the person you’ve worked to become.

Cant wait to get back from university and start my mini garden

Walking such an underrated exercise.

Travel

I need to travel… I need to go… I need to sit in a private luxury villa overlooking an infinity pool over looking clear blue waters /ocean 

I need to bury my feet in the buttery sand of the dubaian desert at night and wake for an early camel ride. 

I need to wake up another morning in Burj Al arab and ask for food that has to be flown in from another country. 

I need to sit in a tree somewhere on the African continent (reading a romantic  novel while my lover looks up to me as if in prayer to his goddess)

I need to sit on another tree preferably home (Africa) reading a favorite childhood novel, while eating a fruit plucked from the cranky neighbors tree

I need to sit on a Large Parisian terrace facing the Eiffel tower while the french maids serving my breakfast gossips behind me

I need to drive in a top down luxury car with the wind in my hair and occasionally freaking out if it will take my wig off (Don’t judge me… shit happens)

I need to do another drive… this time in a red sports car with silk scarf framing my face and preventing (the wig panic mentioned above). Red lips and a dangerously large cat eye sunglasses.

I need to get on a plane, to feel the anticipation and excitement of going somewhere new or/and somewhere old and experienced….

I just need to freaking go… And Covid needs to chill the fuck out soon, or am finding a cure myself…

Is anyone as frustrated as i am? I really miss the things i took for granted…

Academic Goals

-graduate top of my class

-graduate with at least a 3.7 gpa

-get my first job (don't care if its working in the library or whatever, just want to get my first job ever before graduating college)

-doing more of what I love and finding new hobbies

-intern at a hospital

-NETWORK!! (make more friends in general/I have some but honestly I need more variety)

-try all the local restaurants/clubs

-study abroad

-make contacts with professionals in my desired industry

-connect more with professors (struggling at this right now)

-join clubs

-date more

Basically I expect myself to graduate at the top of my class, secure a job at some of the top hospitals in the US (shoot for the stars, why not the world) , and become healthier, hotter, and smarter, while working hard until I establish myself and eventually settle down and have kids.

Sounds a little bit delusional, but hey if I do not succeed, at least I tried