Lvrful - A

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how to stop being toxic⋆.ೃ࿔*:･⭐️

the point of this post in general is a reminder to be self aware so that then u can become an individual that u are proud of ✨

SELF AWARENESS ;

everyone has traits in themselves that they aren't necessarily proud of and thats okay. its only natural bcuz we are humans. whats important is that u are able to acknowledge it and work on it.

toxic traits and behaviors stem from things like our own insecurities, conditioning, our egos and a multitude of other things. when we aren't toxic we free ourselves up for better people and experiences.

SELF ASSESSMENT ACTIVITY ;

do some shadow work, dig deeper and do some journalling to rly assess some of ur personality traits whether u classify them as a negative or a positive trait. some examples of traits include

having trouble taking accountability (shifting blame)

once you've classified that trait, write a sentence that explains why that particular trait is/isnt toxic. so for this particular trait ur sentence could look something like

trouble with taking accountability for myself and my actions is a toxic trait because it displays my inability to be responsible for myself/admit fault. this can jeopardize relationships and opportunities for me, it can also hinder my growth as an individual.

just because you notice toxic behaviors within yourself, it doesn't mean that u are a bad person. in fact, since u can acknowledge it and wanna improve it, that shows that u are a good person.

HOW TO ACTUALLY STOP ;

look for the source of toxic behaviors that u display. some ways that can help u to identify what makes u act in that way is by seeing a therapist who can help u to dissect and understand urself, intentional journalling etc.

when u find urself in situations in which u think that ur being toxic, u can practice mindfulness and nip it in the bud. the more that u practice doing this the easier and more natural it'll feel.

be a good listener

show urself compassion

start journalling/going to therapy

listen to feedback

listen to feedback from others from an impartial view. dont take criticism or negative feedback personally. take the feedback that u get and apply it cuz thats one of the many ways u can grow.

Jennifer’s Body, 2009.

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I want to give up. It's really really hard to keep going when all you want is to give up. I want to be done.

stop saying you're ugly stop saying you're stupid stop saying you're worthless just stop. stop cursing yourself. stop turning the rotten hatred that doesn't belong to your true essence into the physical act of speaking. don't materialize it. don't naturalize it. no person was born to hate themselves and no person deserves to hear that they are worthless from the one person who needs to care for them the most. don't speak of yourself in a way you wouldn't let someone else speak of your best friend. don't normalize it. it will never be true no matter how many times you claim it. you will never make yourself believe it so you can be at peace with it. you will never trust yourself if you keep lying like that. stop trying to turn the hate into truth. it will never happen. stop rotting your lips with curses. fight the impulse back with what you really know from birth, and that is love. you will never make it right by attempting to destroy yourself because you will never believe this cause. your only weapon is overwhelming yourself with love because that is what was born with you and love will follow you to the grave. stop cursing yourself

How can I trust your love when you keep leaving me?