How to figure out the lesson in situations:
1. Identity the pattern. Think about the situations and people who have made you feel this way or brought you a specific outcome.
Are these relationships leaving you feeling the same way (undervalued, overwhelmed, or hurt)?
What character traits are you seeing (unavailability, neediness, or dishonesty)? Are you choosing people because of specific character traits (they don’t have to feel inherently negative to you)?
2. Think about your reactions to all of those things. Do you tolerate bad behavior hoping it will change? Do you avoid confrontation or fail to set boundaries? Do you feel like a victim or powerless?
3. Figure out what you are avoiding. Typically the lessons come from the things we resist. Are you avoiding self respect by settling for less? Are you ignoring red flags for fear of being alone?
4. Think about how your choices or beliefs contribute to these outcomes.
For example:
Do you over-give to earn approval?
Do you ignore your intuition to avoid conflict?
5. Ask yourself:
What can this situation teach me about self worth, boundaries, or communication?
How can I grow emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?
6. Practice the lesson actively:
If the lesson is about self worth, say no to people who devalue you.
If it’s about boundaries, start expressing your needs clearly.
You’ll know you’ve learned the lesson when similar situations arise and you respond differently, breaking the cycle.
*There is always a lesson to be learned (aside from the fact that the other person is probably a horrible human being) 😚 Don’t be stubborn about it and think you’re a perfect person. It doesn’t make you less perfect, or dumb, or deserving of how people treated you. The point is for you to grow, evolve and make sure it never happens again.
I can behave normally around books
That “loss” was a blessing in disguise.
Re: blorbo from my research, here is my favorite ever case study. I'm obsessed with it.
Summary:
- Guy presents to neurology with muscle issues, very clearly has something going on but diagnostic tests are inconclusive
- History is mostly unremarkable. Key word, mostly. He drinks four liters of plain Earl Grey tea per day. For context this is nearly twice the recommended daily fluid intake. All fluids, to be clear, not just tea. He only drinks tea tho
- Bergamot is known to be phototoxic in high doses (reacts badly on your skin with sunlight)
- APPARENTLY nobody previously has consumed enough of it for it to be widely known that it is also, apparently, mildly toxic to ingest in high doses
- Guy starts drinking plain black tea again. Only 2 liters this time (he didn't have a medical reason to drink that much tea, he just liked it) and so now he's fully recovered
Your standards reflect your self worth—settling is self betrayal
living in the age of social media makes us crave instant results, gratification and stimulation. we’re constantly racing against the clock instead of letting things flow. this makes it difficult to stay motivated on long term goals or have the patience to see it through. but despite the distractions, continue to believe in yourself and persist in your goals. everything comes when it’s ready.
If I schedule posts for when I forget about Tumblr exists then it looks like I never forgot and it looks like I post regularly.
ADHD pro gamer move right there.
Yes this is a scheduled post my memory is really bad and I've been hyperfixating on Tumblr all day
You've been diagnosed with jack of all trades disorder! Good luck finding a career you're supposed to hold for the rest of your life!
'God's Idea' by Da Loria Norman, 1931.
Fourth year clinical medical student . Accipe facta, intercipe factura . #bibliophile
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