This Is Your Permission Post To Get A Little Bit Goofy With Butch/femme Culture Btw

This is your permission post to get a little bit goofy with butch/femme culture btw

y’all take this too seriously sometimes. “That’s not femme enough” “That’s too femme” My angel honey sea anemone pea princess. We are in gender buffoonery land. It has always been like that. We are clowning around in the face of gender essentialism. Stop trying to reinvent gender essentialism.

If you’ve ever accused yourself of not being femme enough, or not being butch enough, I need you to remind yourself that the culture is there to serve you. It exists so you can cope. It exists so you can feel at home. It exists so you can do gender tomfoolery and feel good.

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1 month ago

what a good day to remember that butch lesbians (ESPECIALLY trans, poc, and/or fat butch lesbians) aren’t fucking predatory 

4 weeks ago

Hey now, I didn’t open Tumblr to be attacked today

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1 month ago

Accessibility and caring for disabled folk needs to be at the core of any eco friendly movement. Caring for your neighbors is the most important thing you can do for the world.

2 years ago
1 month ago

Trans? Experienced or educated? Stuck in the USA?

First off, we're all rooting for you out here, muchacho.

Secondly, you can take a job abroad! And in nearly all cases you can apply to stay permanently after a few years ✨ Work visas typically allow a spouse, so 2 people can leave the USA per job. I should know, I work one of these jobs as a foreigner in Denmark and am accompanied by my American wife.

Below I've written a guide for applying in Europe, specifically, but be aware that it's not only the EU hiring Americans, most countries allow skilled/educated immigration.

Also, this is not just for trans people. Anyone who can be hired for a given job can follow the guide below.

Trans? Experienced Or Educated? Stuck In The USA?

Q&A -

Q: I don't sprechen Deutsch or anything though?

A: If you speak a given country's language that's a plus, but if not, don't worry! There are a lot of sites you can use to search for English-speaking jobs. One example is Englishjobs.com, which lists thousands of live, English-speaking jobs in mainland Europe. I would know, I found my current job on a similar site. For permanent settlement you in some cases need to have learned the language well (here that's available in Denmark, for example, after 5 years residency).

Q: Can I really bring my wife/husband?

A: In nearly all cases, yes. I'm in Denmark currently with my Californian wife. For the record I'm not trans, but a lot of my friends are (my background's in animation).

Q: Are they really hiring trans people?

A: Yes. And it's worth adding that DE&I (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) initiatives are still in full swing in many EU countries. As a result, your resume may have a particular appeal if you meet the following criteria:

Ethnic Minority: Companies are actively seeking diverse backgrounds to enhance representation.

Female: Many organisations prioritise gender diversity and aim to improve women's representation in the workforce.

LGBTQIA+: There is a growing recognition of the importance of sexual orientation and gender identity in hiring practices, with many employers implementing policies to support LGBTQIA+ employees.

Disabled: Organisations often have initiatives to promote the hiring of individuals with disabilities.

Neurodivergent: Increasing awareness of neurodivergent conditions leads to more companies welcoming neurodiverse talent. I have ADHD, for example, and my company is pushing hard for DE&I normalisation.

Q: Does it cost money to apply?

A: Usually the company you apply to will ask whether you have the right to work in the country and, if they really want you, will pay this application cost themselves. If you get the job offer and you need to then apply by yourself it costs, in most cases, $100 to $300. My application in Denmark cost $1,100, however. My wife could then apply for residency via that same application.

Q: Do I need an education in all cases?

A: Not necessarily. Varies by case. I have a degree, experience in my field, and software proficiencies that made my application stand out, but many jobs are skill or trade based.

Q: These jobs seem a little low paid for my field. Why is that?

A: Healthcare is covered, public transport is widespread, cities are walkable or cyclable, childcare is taken care of in a lot of places. You're paying less overall. Roughly 20% of the US GDP is from its batshit medical/insurance system, so you make about 10-20% more monthly in the US, give or take.

Q: If I lose my job, does my visa expire?

A: Yes, and your spouse's if you brought one. You can move jobs, so long as the salary still meets the minimum, but if there's downtime that means the visa lapses you gotta go.

Q: Does the job salary need to meet a minimum threshold for me to apply to live there?

A: Yes.

Germany: The minimum gross salary threshold for most skilled workers is around $60,000 per year. For occupations in high demand (e.g., engineers, doctors), the threshold is lower, at around $48,000 per year.

France: The minimum salary for a work visa in France typically aligns with the Smic (minimum wage), which is approximately $23,000 per year. However, for skilled positions, remuneration must usually be at least 1.5 times the Smic.

Netherlands: The minimum salary threshold for a highly skilled migrant is around $5,000 per month ($60,000 per year) for those over 30 years of age, and lower for younger applicants (around €4,000 per month).

Spain: The minimum salary threshold for work visas depends on the job but generally aligns with the national minimum wage, which is approximately $17,000 per year. However, skilled positions may require higher salaries.

Sweden: For skilled workers, the salary must be competitive and generally must meet the average salary level, which can be around SEK 26,400 per month (approximately $2,750).

Denmark: Unusually stringent laws make this 514,000dkk/$75,000 per year, or possibly less if your career is on the Positive List for Skilled Work or Higher Education. Worth mentioning that Denmark is perhaps the only EU country not seeing right wing populism in their political polls, largely due to their high bar for incoming migration.

Q: Do I need documentation?

A: Yes. Passport, certificates for education, marriage certificate if relevant. You'll also need to trade in your driver's license for a local one within a set period of time upon arrival.

Q: If I don't have a degree, skills, or experience, am I just fucked?

A: No, for example people with successful businesses can apply for entrepreneurial visas, and there are "working holiday" visas available (chiefly for people under 35) in Australia, Ireland, Singapore, New Zealand, Canada and South Korea, as these countries have an agreement with the USA (for now). Countries have a variety of ways in!

Q: What about muh rights?

A: You still gottem. Unless it's guns, and even then you can usually get a proper license in the countryside. Hate speech is not protected speech. Abortion is generally permitted within a term limit below fetal viability (e.g. 12 weeks in Germany and 12 weeks and 6 days in Italy, or 14 weeks in France and Spain). More privacy rights. More consumer protection.

Q: Is this an exhaustive list for ways a trans person can have asylum? Do I definitely need to travel far?

A: No! Read this helpful, recent guide, written in 2025: https://translash.org/articles/trans-relocation-guide-finding-trans-asylum-and-safe-havens/

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If anyone in Europe or elsewhere wants to put their hand up and say, hey I'm in X city in Y country and I'll be here to talk to you when you move, reblog and say so! That's so important!

4 weeks ago

Okay, so I try hard to cover global queer history, and this isn't marking a stop to that, but I am aware that most of my audience is American, and I want to address them very directly right now.

Google Removed Pride Month From Its Calendar App, and Stonewall National Monument's "LGBTQ" status was changed to "LGB" on the government website. This is the beginning of the erasure of queer history, not the end. I don't know what the future of the United States looks like, as someone who studies queer history and has done so for many years, I want to share some tools with you.

Now is a good time to prioritize local queer history, Making Gay History is a great project, so is the Digital Transgender Archive, but also check your city and see what resources there are.

Read and buy books about queer history. I have an affiliate list with some of the books I personally recommend.

If you use Google Calendar, repopulate that resource with so much queer history with a free queer history calendar plug-in, it has names from queer history that you can also learn more about for free when they come up. As the author of these articles, feel free to save them, print them off, whatever makes them freely accessible as suppression get's worse.

Use your local library. Email the board about book bans, request banned books, request queer books, and make your voice heard.

Make queer art. Share queer art. Protect queer art. Here is some public-domain queer art to use as you wish.

Keep up with queer news, THEM is a great resource.

All of these tools are currently freely accessible with an internet connection. Queer history is a community responsibility, do your part.

2 months ago

they need to invent getting your pussy ate for girls with dicks. please i’m desperate.

2 months ago

Can we just appreciate that taking one day off of work to prepare this seems like not nearly enough. Impressive work

Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned
Hosted My Most Elaborate LOTRathon + Feast Yet. 12 Hours, 12 People, 8 Courses, 2 Spreadsheets, Planned

Hosted my most elaborate LOTRathon + feast yet. 12 hours, 12 people, 8 courses, 2 spreadsheets, planned & executed by yours truly. I took Friday off work to prepare.

Some details under the cut.

I’ve always wanted to do a real Hobbit-style feast (instead of typical afternoon grazing board + dinner) and this year I finally did it! All the planning paid off, it went off without a hitch. 😎 Early reviews included the words “insane” and “deranged” (honorary).

As for the menu, I took inspiration from other people’s LOTR feasts (mostly from Reddit, Pinterest, etc). However I wanted mine to be sliiiightly less carb-intensive than a lot of the ones I saw, considering we’d be eating ALL day and I didn’t want everyone to get too full too early lol. So I tried to alternate heavier courses with lighter courses and served fresh fruit & veg with every course. Some courses, like Dinner (cheese & potato tart), were meant to be more of a taster than a full meal.

I also prioritized menu cohesion/my own preferences over being super “fantasy accurate”. Examples—thin, aromatic shortbread cookies instead of typical thicker/bready Lembas bread, tomato confit instead of typical Full English-style roasted/seared tomatoes.

For recipes, I found a bunch of recipes and often combined elements or used them as a base and adjusted to preference. If anyone’s interested in the recipes I can provide more details.

Finally, I also printed out relevant book/movie quotes and set them out with each course but Tumblr is limiting me on images!

All in all, a very successful showing! 🥕🧅🍅🥓🧀🍓🍇


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2 months ago

🌍✨ A Voice from Gaza: Fighting for Hope ❤️‍🩹

Hi, my name is Mosab , and I’m from Gaza. Life here has been harder than I could ever imagine, but today I’m sharing my story with hope in my heart, because your kindness has already given us so much strength.

This journey hasn’t been easy. The war has taken 25 family members from us—25 beautiful souls we loved deeply. Their laughter, their presence, their love… all of it is gone, leaving behind memories that are both precious and painful. Every day, I carry the weight of their loss, but I also carry their spirit, which gives me the strength to keep going.

🌍✨ A Voice From Gaza: Fighting For Hope ❤️‍🩹
🌍✨ A Voice From Gaza: Fighting For Hope ❤️‍🩹
🌍✨ A Voice From Gaza: Fighting For Hope ❤️‍🩹

Our Journey So Far

When I first reached out, I couldn’t have imagined we’d make it this far. Your support has been a light in these difficult times, and we are so deeply grateful for every single contribution.

But the road ahead is still challenging. Every day, we’re reminded of how much we’ve lost and how much we still need to rebuild.

Here’s what life in Gaza looks like for my family right now:

🏠 Safety: The uncertainty of tomorrow weighs heavily on us.

😢 Loss: The absence of the 25 family members we’ve lost is a pain we carry every moment.

💔 Dreams on Hold: The future feels so far away when survival takes all our strength.

How You Can Help Us Cross the Finish Line Even the smallest act of kindness can make a difference:

$5 may seem small, but for us, it’s a little relief, a moment of comfort, and a reminder that kindness still exists. ❤️

Can’t donate? Reblog this post to help us reach someone who can. Every share matters more than you know.

✅️ Vetted by @gazavetters ( #309 ) ✅️

Donate to Help Mosab saving who's left of his family
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My name is Mosab Elderawi, and I am a survivor of the war in Gaza. Life as I knew it has been completely destroyed. I have lost my home, my

Why Your Support Matters Your kindness isn’t just about helping us meet our goal—it’s about reminding us that we’re not alone in this fight. It’s about hope. It’s about survival. And it’s about giving my family a chance to rebuild our lives, even in the face of unimaginable loss.

Thank you for helping us get this far. Your generosity and compassion have already brought us closer to a better tomorrow, and for that, I’m endlessly grateful.

With all my love and gratitude,

Mosab and Family ❤️

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???/adult/She/theyHello, I am here to lurk and be really gay. I have passions for sewing, baking, and TTRPGS

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