GET. AI. OUT. OF. FANDOM. Stop Making Headcanons With It, Stop Making Fanfic With It, Stop Making Fanart

Playing w Remus like he's a Barbie doll but in the way where I'm cutting his hair off and drawing all over his face with markers before flinging him off the balcony

Hi yes can any hp fans who are trans friendly and anti jkr give me advice on how to deal with the insane hate us hp fans get on here for simply just being fans of hp..you know the posts and type of comments I mean. I have moral ocd and it makes me feel like the worst person ever 🙃

i don't really think i have a right answer for this, honestly. When you still like hp and interact with it you have to come to terms with the fact that you are adding to the general harm jkr is causing, because whenever you talk about it, even when it is in the context of fandom, you give her attention and might consequently make more people join the fandom who don't yet know about what a terrible person she is and therefore don't have the same understanding that you cannot profit her in any way whatsoever. No buying merch, no streaming the films, no going to the studios, no seeing cursed child, no watching the reboot. I used to think that we're at a point of saturation where everyone already knows about harry potter anyway so me talking about it won't give her more attention, but the fact alone that i've had a couple comments telling me that one of my fics was the introduction to the fandom for them tells me differently.

My general approach is that i make everything about my fandom interaction as easy to block out for other people as possible. On tumblr this means every time i mention any harry potter related things i tag it 'hp', if it mentions jkr i also tag her, so people can easily blacklist these tags if they want to avoid seeing the content at all. I've made new social media accounts to talk about hp because i didn't want to subject my friends, many of whom i know do not want to have anything to do with hp, to seeing anything about it. I don't talk about hp with non-fandom friends without heavily checking the vibe first and even then i attach a bunch of disclaimers to make absolutely certain they understand that i interact with this fandom as harm reducing as i can and very much do not support jkr, despite me myself being trans and that therefore probably being obvious.

You can be trans or be an ally and still like hp. Liking hp doesn't make you an inherently bad person. But you have to be aware that whenever someone looks at you and they see that you like hp, they don't have the knowledge that you are a safe person. Their first reaction will most likely be to assume that you support jkr and her views and are therefore not a safe person for queer people to be around. I myself have that same thought whenever I see people in public wearing harry potter merch. If you wear hp merch in public i will instantly mistrust you, despite very clearly also being in the fandom, because you're carrying hp outside of the confined space of a fandom in which people know not to support her.

You deal with the hate you get by acknowledging that these people have a reason for mistrusting and hating you, and by presenting yourself in a way that clarifies your stance regarding jkr while giving them the possibility to distance themselves from any mentions of her or harry potter. You deal with the hate by acknowledging that while initially it is not your guilt and not your harm, feeling some guilt over it is needed regardless, because you are, inadvertently, adding to the harm. You deal with the hate by supporting trans people, by informing yourself about what jkr is doing and what impact she has, by counteracting that impact as much as you can and by talking to people and raising awareness whenever you're able.

*grabby hands* WOLFSTARBUCKS CAFE AU!!

ok there’s really not much else to say on this one, sooo snippet!!

i am absolutely not writing this one in chronological order so they are already together in this snippet but it is a getting together fic, they start out as strangers and everything.

also this is almost entirely unedited.

Remus attempts to pick up where he left off like everything is normal. Because it is. A minor accident, that’s all it was. Standard. Run-of-the-mill. Accidents happen.

His boyfriends seem to disagree.

They’re both standing from their stools, and James is already reaching out to take his hand. Their fingertips brush, and he yanks his own back as if the touch is what burned him.

“Moony, baby, come on, let me see,” James says softly.

“I’m fine! I need to finish your drinks,” he replies, a bit snappier than he intended. He’s just…embarrassed. And stressed.

i promise they’re happy he’s just being dramatic 😭😭

why's it so hard to find polyamorous fluff but so easy to find monogamous fluff? what i'm saying is why does every poly ship fic have smut? you can probably tell what im implying

The devastating difference between how much time it takes to write something vs how fast people read it lol

If anyone ever looked at me the way Sirius and Remus look at each other I would simply ascend into the atmosphere like a helium balloon.

OK, fandom, here’s a thing about Remus Lupin we don’t hear nearly enough about: sometimes, being a werewolf wasn’t an unrelenting cycle of angst.  Sure there was a lot of suckage, but sometimes there was fun.

‘And they didn’t desert me at all.  Instead they did something for me that would make my transformations not only bearable, but the best times of my life.  They became Animagi.’

(Chapter 19, The Servant of Lord Voldemort, PoA.)

Where are you all hiding the fic and arts when teenage Remus gets to actually enjoy some full moon high-jinks?  There’s more misery and moping around the hospital wing than you can shake a stick at and, I get that, I really do, we all love a bit of h/c, we hurt the ones we love the most and all that malarkey.  But surely there’s room for more?  The roaming the school grounds, running about the Forest, wild animal adventures?  Most times there’s not much willingness to even admit that Remus ever had any fun, instead just a grudging acceptance that his Animagi friends made full moon a bit less bad, maybe even tolerable.  but Remus very clearly says otherwise.  To repeat:

‘The best times of my life.’

Look, it’s not like Remus didn’t have enough misery, can we not let the poor bastard enjoy the one bit of fun canon gives him?  Oh, and while we’re on the subject, he goes on:

‘And there were near misses, many of them.  We laughed about them afterwards.’

Think about that for a minute.  Remus came close to attacking people during the full moon on multiple occasions, but far from being consumed with self-loathing and regret, managed to laugh about it afterwards.  I mean, he had a bit of a conscience about it, but:

‘I always managed to forget my guilty feelings every time we sat down to plan our next month’s adventure.’

Sure, he knew what he was doing was dangerous, and sometimes he felt a bit bad about it.  But it didn’t stop him doing it, didn’t stop him laughing off the dangers, didn’t stop him regarding the full moon as an “adventure.” 

There will always be fans of long-suffering Remus and, hey, knock yourselves out if that’s fun for you.  But, oh, what I wouldn’t give for a little more of canon Remus who is no sort of soft doughy cinnamon roll but is a bit of a thrill-seeker, not entirely honest, and definitely capable of having fun.  

Don’t @ me unless you’ve got recs or are up for planning next month’s adventure.

Umm also remus lupin buys a flowy dress to wear for his first date with Sirius because it's comfortable and makes him feel confident, but then gets too self conscious to wear it, and when Sirius finds out, he takes him out again (this time in the dress) and tells him over and over how gorgeous he looks ❤️

Remus “i don’t know how to let people in” Lupin and Sirius “then i’ll stay at the door forever” Black

“You were my little bit of magic.”