My Favourite Self Concept Affirmations!

“But if you forget to reblog Madame Zeroni, you and your family will be cursed for always and eternity.”

Help ive overconsumed info and nownidk what to do

The way you worded this made me laugh a little ngl 😂

When you’ve over-consumed info,

we have to simplify things and go back to the basics. Just keep these 10 commandments in mind and forget everything else.

Your assumptions form your reality. What you assume solidifies into the 3D.

You create the rules. Fuck science, matter, research and the limitations of the flesh. You’re God, never doubt yourself on what’s possible.

Circumstances do not matter. Your current situation is simply your present assumptions solidified. Reality is extremely malleable. Changing your assumptions changes your reality, no matter what.

Anything is possible. Anything. The only limit to your manifestation is the extent of your belief.

Methods do not hold any power. YOU DO.

Work on your self concept. Know you’re God and persist in your new reality.

Let go of the old story. The past like I said is simply a collection of your assumptions. It does not define you. You can be whoever you want to be.

All you need is faith and trust. Believe what you want is yours and know that you have it. It’s a done deal. Knowing is the secret. And in the words of Neville Goddard, faith is loyalty to the unseen reality.

Persist in your assumption and do not give up. You’re almost there. Failure does not exist in our reality. Remember, the fear of failure is also a cause of failure.

Bridge of incidents does not exist. There is no waiting period or time lag. You can manifest instantly if you want.

Hope this helps you, baby x

’𝑇ℎ𝑒𝑦’𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑠’ 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑎𝑓𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠:

(LGBTQ+ affs)

༄ my family and friends support me no matter what my sexuality is

༄ my parents love me no matter what

༄ my family and friends are happy I had the courage to come out

༄ i have the strength to come out (if you haven’t all ready)

༄ my ’coming out’ was successful

༄ i easily come out with the utmost love and support

༄ i feel fully at peace with who I am and what my sexuality is

༄ i fully accept myself

༄ i feel confident in my sexuality

༄ i am immune to experiencing homophobia/transphobia, discrimination, and hatred

༄ i have finally found myself

༄ i love myself

༄ i am immune to any internalized homophobia, biphobia, transphobia etc directed towards myself

༄ i am immune from getting bullied about my sexual or gender identity

༄ my family and friend fully support the idea of me wanting to transition

༄ i am immune to ever being dead-named

༄ everyone is proud I had the courage to come out

༄ i am able to fully express who I am

༄ my parents wouldn’t have me any other way

ultimate motivation to finish your book

from somebody who just published their book:

people will send you selfies of them holding your book and it WILL make you cry 

realising you actually made money? from the thing you created?? mindblowing. incredible. 

putting your physical book on your shelf and staring at it alongside all the books that inspired you, knowing you finished something you poured so much of your love and care and time into 

seeing how many people have your book marked as ‘currently reading’ on goodreads and how many more have it on their ‘to be read’ 

family members asking if you’re Still Doing That Writing Thing? and being able to tell them that you actually just had a book published, thanks, yeah it was pretty successful, it’s been a really smooth process,

the immense excitement of having successfully launched a book and knowing you’re going to do it even BETTER next time around

seeing all the different currencies and marketplaces in which your book was sold…..all around the world ppl are holding it in their hands…..and reading it…….incredible………

sales reports are frustrating and awful but hey at least you’re making sales!!!!!

you’re an Author now buddy! i sort of went by author before bc this isn’t the first time i’ve technically been published - anthology stuff! - but like, now it’s official, it’s the best feeling in the world

the selfies. they’re the best part. the selfies are incredible dude

the feeling that this is only the beginning of a long, exciting, wonderful journey as an author - and that the only way to go is up.

so get out there and get writing!!!!!! your book is gonna be in your hands someday soon and it’s gonna be an indescribable feeling. 

It's always "If this first draft isn't perfect I will literally die." or "Hahaha, I don't give a fuck anymore. Typos. Grammatical errors. Yeeet."

There is nothing in between.

Creating a New Species

Hey everyone, Abby here with another writing post! Today we’re talking about new species and how to create them in your writing.

In many fantasy and sci-fi books, you’ll hear about different species, be them humanoid or not. Often it can be hard for the average writer to create something as complex as a new species, but with a little extra effort they can really add an extra element to your story.

What is it reminiscent of?

Do you remember, back in your first biology class, learning about taxonomic ranks? (In case you forgot: domain, kingdom, phylum, class, order, family, genus, species.) The species is the most specific classification for a living thing, but it helps to know a bit of the other stuff surrounding it as well.

For example, let’s say I create the Lunax species. I can describe it all I want, but it helps me as an author get a clearer mental image if I say it’s in the same genus as a tiger or something like that. You can take your species and relate it to other, already-existing species to help yourself develop and create.

What characteristics or defining features does it have?

This goes far beyond appearance, even though appearance on its own could probably create a whole separate post. Here are some questions on characteristics to help you get started:

Is it nocturnal?

Herbivore, carnivore, omnivore?

Can it climb, fly, swim?

How fast can it move?

How fine-tuned are its senses, and which is the strongest?

Which temperatures or biomes is it found in, and why?

How long does it sleep for?

Does it have any predators?

Of course, there are so many more questions you can ask to get that development rolling, but you’ll want to have a good idea of what really defines this species as you go along.

Population Size

This is something you may also want to consider: what causes an increase and decrease in population.

For this you’ll want to look at things like the mating process, gestation, youth development, etc. - things that go into the life cycle of the species. Like anything else, the knowledge you have here doesn’t have to be super in-depth, but it would certainly help to at least have a general idea.

What helps the population flourish, and what hurts it? How available is their specific habitat, and is that level growing, shrinking, or remaining level? What factors in the world could change the growth rate of the population? Is this species rare enough to be considered endangered by our standards?

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There’s… a lot that goes into creating a species, so this guide isn’t at all meant to be comprehensive. It’s all up to you as an author, these are just some bases to help you get started!

If this post helped you out, please consider buying me a coffee over on ko-fi!

𝑠𝚑𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑓𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑦 𝚑𝑎𝑠 𝑙𝑢𝑐𝑘𝑦 𝑔𝑖𝑟𝑙 𝑠𝑦𝑛𝑑𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑒

✰ i am the luckiest girl alive

✰ everything goes my way and way only

✰ i love how everything just naturally goes my way

✰ i always get what i want because i have luck on my side

✰ i was born into this life to be the luckiest girl alive

✰ why am i so god dam lucky?

✰ everything i want just instantly falls into my lap

✰ i am a magnet for miracles

✰ i attract more success and luck everywhere i go

✰ I always get special treatment

✰ amazing opportunities flow to me like water

✰ everything just loves to work in my favour

✰ literally everything always works out for me

✰ luck is always on my side so i never have to worry about anything

✰ everything i want just easily and effortlessly flow into my life

✰ i am always in the right place at the right time

✰ everything is working and happening for me

✰ i am blessed with the abundance of luck

✰ everything comes easily to me

✰ life is a game and it is rigged in my favour

✰ life is a game i always win

✰ i was born lucky

✰ i am just naturally lucky

✰ everything falls into place perfectly for me

✰ things just naturally go my way no matter what

✰ i don’t even try and im still the luckiest person in the world

Creating Fantasy Races: An Introduction

Hey everyone, Abby here with another post! Today we’re talking a bit about world-building, and specifically your world’s intelligent species. Let’s hop right in!

Let’s start with some definitions.

I’ve made a post in the past about creating new species in your world, and here’s what I want to start with. Within the context of this post, I’m defining race as any variation of an intelligent species for ease of language. That in mind, you will want to have your species developed.

Some Basic Questions to Start

There are some aspects that you just have to answer questions for in order to develop. Here are some basics for you to start with:

What is the origin species?

What defines a different race? Skin color, abilities, some physical marker? Something non-physical?

What is most known about this race as a fact?

What is most known about this race as a stereotype?

Are there any common variations within this race?

For Dungeons and Dragons players, think about the Dragonborn race. Different scale colors don’t mean a different race, but they do mark different abilities.

There may be common variations in appearance, like different eye colors or heights, that don’t have any other meaning. Just regular physical variation!

Are there any skills or other characteristics specific to this race?

What distinguishes this race from other races that may exist in your world?

How much interaction is there between different races?

Are there any areas of the world that each race tends to gravitate to?

Are there different expected life spans for each race? If they are different, why?

For example! In the RPG I’m working on, Journey to Valeria, there are two races in the Steerean species: shallow and Reclusive. They share a similar origin species, but different characteristics have created other aspects enough for them to be considered different races. As a result, I’ve developed them as two separate races with their own characteristics.

Go ahead and compare this to some aspects of DnD as well! The game does an awesome job of distinguishing between races and making each one unique, and I find that looking at things in context helps me a lot.

Write out what you think is important.

You, as the creator of this world, are also its master. What things outside of just answering questions do you think is important to know right off the bat? For one of my races, I wrote about camouflage in the environment and some elements of magic because I think those are things important to the development.

These could be topics like:

History

Associated cultures or religions

Temperaments, if applicable

Strengths and weaknesses specific to this race

And anything else that you think is important. As I’m developing the races on Steere, I’m thinking a lot about how different races interact with the world, how they use technology, their general lifestyles, etc.

Usually when you create a fantasy race, your goal is to make this race as well-rounded as possible. Creating an intelligent species, much less several different variations of one, can be very difficult! This is something that will take time and a lot of thought, but it’s vital to the process.

I talked about Journey to Valeria a bit more than I anticipated I would, but what can I say? I’ve been on a kick lately, and I like talking about the things that matter to me. If you’d like, you can follow the project’s blog @journeytovaleria​ to see more updates and development!

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Radical Feminism Beliefs: the basics

“Radical feminism is a perspective within feminism that calls for a radical reordering of society in which male supremacy is eliminated in all social and economic contexts. Radical feminists view society as fundamentally a patriarchy in which men dominate and oppress women.”

Prostitution

Purchased consent is not consent, it’s coercion. Sex work is dehumanizing and traumatizing for women, and fueled by sex trafficking. The commodification of female sexuality is a mix of misogyny and capitalism.

Pornography

Prostitution on camera. See above for key points. Additionally, female sexuality should not be monetized and sold for male entertainment. The industry is rife with rape, abuse, coercion, trafficked women, drugged women, and CP. It harms not only the women involved in the videos (physically and mentally), but it also harms the viewers in the long run.

Surrogacy

Similar to prostitution and pornography in the sense that women’s bodies become acquirable products for sale or rent. A woman's organs should not be for rent, as it creates a perverse incentive. Most surrogacy is outsourced to disadvantaged women in developing nations, where they are made to sign contracts they can't read and undergo poor treatment.

Bodily Autonomy

Understanding that a woman should have complete and utter control of her reproductive system; including abortion, birth, and sterilization. Understanding a woman should have access to informed and accurate medical care. Understanding a woman should have complete control over when and if she engages in sex with a partner. Understanding that PIV is often an unequal act.

Nuclear Family

This allows for the isolation of women, both emotionally and financially. The family unit, ideally, includes a large safety net of family and friends who assist in child rearing. Women should not be financially dependent on men, as this open the potential for abuse and difficulty leaving via power imbalance.

Capitalism

The system that allows the commodification of women and their bodies. Women shouldn’t have to sell or rent out their bodies in order to survive.

BDSM/Kink

Wherein the majority of subs are women and the majority of doms are men. Fetishization of slavery, power imbalances, rape, incest, pedophilia, and abuse. Hurting your partner does not suddenly become healthy if you can orgasm to it. Power imbalances that lead to physical and emotional abuse and trauma.

Patriarchal Religions

All holy books were written by men and serve to maintain and legitimize patriarchal power structures. Patriarchal religions falsely attribute the gift of creation to men when in reality every man on earth was molded from the flesh of women.

Postmodernism/Queer Theory

Radical feminism is based on materialism. Women are oppressed because of their biological reality, which is not subjective, subjectable to changes or personal interpretations. Postmodernism and queer theory are.

The Beauty Industry

Fills up the pockets of men who make money by ever-changing standards of female beauty. Keeps women insecure, low self-esteem, their value and self-worth forever dependent on their physical appeal (to men). Demands women change how they appear (makeup, shaving, dieting, cosmetic surgeries) to appear prepubescent (lithe, hair free, firm not soft) which is a part of what we identify as 'pedophilia culture'.

Marriage

Marriage would be described by some as the wheels on which patriarchy is carried onwards. Historically, marriage has been nothing but a transaction: a daughter, who belonged to her father, now belongs to her husband. Her reproductive labor, domestic labor, emotional labor, and physical labor all at his disposal. This is how marriage continues to work and act culturally in a majority of societies

Individualism

As opposed to class analysis. Arguably the most overlooked and hardest ‘’issue’’ to overcome. It’s understandable that most women gravitate towards liberal feminism because they don’t have to analyze the reasons behind their actions, they don’t have to come to difficult and unappealing conclusions, they don’t have to feel the need to take action and stop engaging in whatever they are doing that’s harming women as a class. Known as 'choice feminism', which affirms any choice as a personal one, despite what influenced that choice or how it may affect the female class at large (see: plastic surgery, "makeup makes me feel confident!", "I like being hurt during sex!")

Gender Critical/Gender Abolitionist

Gender is a social class applied to biology. Each individuals sex is innate, and gender is the series of roles, expectations, socialization, cultural practices, and personality traits applied to that sex. Sex is "this baby has a vulva" and gender is "so give that baby a pink blanket and a dolly". Therefore, radical feminists understand that gender is a means of oppressing women. They wish to abolish gender. This creates clashes with pieces of trans rights activism, which upholds ones gender as innate. Read more here on this topic.

The main clashing beliefs are as follows:

-Being dysphoric doesn’t automatically means trans, since transitioning is only a way of treating dysphoria, and there are many reasons someone might be dysphoric.

-Instead of “identifying as a man/woman/nonbinary”, we should abolish gender altogether.

- Males remain male and females remain female, even if they’re dysphoric/gnc. Biology is innate. Therefore, for example, a transwoman that rapes someone, is an male abuser. It is male violence.

- Males have male privilege, regardless of how they identify, because society is built upon upholding and amplifying males.

- Females will be opressed, regardless of how they identify, because society is built upon the females-as-a-resource model that holds us as sexual and reproductive resources for male pleasure and male heirs.

Radical Feminist Goals

Women's liberation via the dismantling of male power structures, and the rejection of a woman's "role" within society as a lesser class.

Ways to Achieve This

Separatism/Male Exclusion - simply deciding to center one’s life and actions around females in all possible aspects. The keeping and protecting of female only spaces. Ultimately, this might look like a female-only society that any girl or woman could enter or leave at will.

Introspection - analyzing one’s actions and maybe asking oneself: why do I want these things? What's drives this action? Is this the healthiest option for me, physically and mentally? Am I hurting a woman or girl if I partake in this option?

Raising Awareness - of all the issues mentioned above. Talking to women and girls about radical feminism. This is not a solution but a step towards finding or creating more solutions as a community.

Being Politically Active - political agency and action is essential for female liberation; especially concerning topics such as reproductive rights, legislation of prostitution, electing representatives ETC.

Male Reform - investing time and effort into making men aware of the issues, in the hopes that they’ll do their part for the liberation of women and do the same with their fellow men.

Childrearing - Focus on advocacy and action around raising girls and boys the same way, to begin to treat the class divide at the root. This is very difficult without full societal support.

Conclusion

Radical feminism is for female people, by female people. It's ideology goes beyond these tenets, but the ideas presented above should allow you to derive answers as to what that might be. Radical feminism is also referred to as second wave feminism, and is compatible with Marxist feminism and the original principles of intersectional feminism. Thank you for reading.

Things That May Be Causing Your Writer's Block- and How to Beat Them

I don't like the term 'Writer's Block' - not because it isn't real, but because the term is so vague that it's useless. Hundreds of issues all get lumped together under this one umbrella, making writer's block seem like this all-powerful boogeyman that's impossible to beat. Worse yet, it leaves people giving and receiving advice that is completely ineffective because people often don't realize they're talking about entirely different issues.

In my experience, the key to beating writer's block is figuring out what the block even is, so I put together a list of Actual Reasons why you may be struggling to write:

(note that any case of writer's block is usually a mix of two or more)

Perfectionism (most common)

What it looks like:

You write one sentence and spend the next hour googling "synonyms for ___"

Write. Erase. Write. Rewrite. Erase.

Should I even start writing this scene when I haven't figured out this one specific detail yet?

I hate everything I write

Cringing while writing

My first draft must be perfect, or else I'm a terrible writer

Things that can help:

Give yourself permission to suck

Keep in mind that nothing you write is going to be perfect, especially your first draft

Think of writing your first/early drafts not as writing, but sketching out a loose foundation to build upon later

People write multiple drafts for a reason: write now, edit later

Stop googling synonyms and save that for editing

Write with a pen to reduce temptation to erase

Embrace leaving blank spaces in your writing when you can't think of the right word, name, or detail

It's okay if your writing sucks. We all suck at some point. Embrace the growth mindset, and focus on getting words on a page

Lack of inspiration (easiest to fix)

What it looks like:

Head empty, no ideas

What do I even write about???

I don't have a plot, I just have an image

Want to write but no story to write

Things that can help:

Google writing prompts

If writing prompts aren't your thing, instead try thinking about what kind of tropes/genres/story elements you would like to try out

Instead of thinking about the story you would like to write, think about the story you would like to read, and write that

It's okay if you don't have a fully fleshed out story idea. Even if it's just an image or a line of dialogue, it's okay to write that. A story may or may not come out of it, but at least you got the creative juices flowing

Stop writing. Step away from your desk and let yourself naturally get inspired. Go for a walk, read a book, travel, play video games, research history, etc. Don't force ideas, but do open up your mind to them

If you're like me, world-building may come more naturally than plotting. Design the world first and let the story come later

Boredom/Understimulation (lost the flow)

What it looks like:

I know I should be writing but uugggghhhh I just can'tttttt

Writing words feels like pulling teeth

I started writing, but then I got bored/distracted

I enjoy the idea of writing, but the actual process makes me want to throw my laptop out the window

Things that can help:

Introduce stimulation: snacks, beverages, gum, music such as lo-fi, blankets, decorate your writing space, get a clickity-clackity keyboard, etc.

Add variety: write in a new location, try a new idea/different story for a day or so, switch up how you write (pen and paper vs. computer) or try voice recording or text-to-speech

Gamify writing: create an arbitrary challenge, such as trying to see how many words you can write in a set time and try to beat your high score

Find a writing buddy or join a writer's group

Give yourself a reward for every writing milestone, even if it's just writing a paragraph

Ask yourself whether this project you're working on is something you really want to be doing, and be honest with your answer

Intimidation/Procrastination (often related to perfectionism, but not always)

What it looks like:

I was feeling really motivated to write, but then I opened my laptop

I don't even know where to start

I love writing, but I can never seem to get started

I'll write tomorrow. I mean next week. Next month? Next month, I swear (doesn't write next month)

Can't find the time or energy

Unreasonable expectations (I should be able to write 10,000 words a day, right????)

Feeling discouraged and wondering why I'm even trying

Things that can help:

Follow the 2 min rule (or the 1 paragraph rule, which works better for me): whenever you sit down to write, tell yourself that you are only going to write for 2 minutes. If you feel like continuing once the 2 mins are up, go for it! Otherwise, stop. Force yourself to start but DO NOT force yourself to continue unless you feel like it. The more often you do this, the easier it will be to get started

Make getting started as easy as possible (i.e. minimize barriers: if getting up to get a notebook is stopping you from getting started, then write in the notes app of your phone)

Commit to a routine that will work for you. Baby steps are important here. Go with something that feels reasonable: every day, every other day, once a week, twice a week, and use cues to help you remember to start. If you chose a set time to write, just make sure that it's a time that feels natural to you- i.e. don't force yourself to writing at 9am every morning if you're not a morning person

Find a friend or a writing buddy you can trust and talk it out or share a piece of work you're proud of. Sometimes we just get a bit bogged down by criticism- either internal or external- and need a few words of encouragement

The Problem's Not You, It's Your Story (or Outline (or Process))

What it looks like:

I have no problems writing other scenes, it's just this scene

I started writing, but now I have no idea where I'm going

I don't think I'm doing this right

What's an outline?

Drowning in documents

This. Doesn't. Make. Sense. How do I get from this plot point to this one?!?!?! (this ColeyDoesThings quote lives in my head rent free cause BOY have I been there)

Things That Can Help:

Go back to the drawing board. Really try to get at the root of why a scene or story isn't working

A part of growing as a writer is learning when to kill your darlings. Sometimes you're trying to force an idea or scene that just doesn't work and you need to let it go

If you don't have an outline, write one

If you have an outline and it isn't working, rewrite it, or look up different ways to structure it

You may be trying to write as a pantser when you're really a plotter or vice versa. Experiment with different writing processes and see what feels most natural

Study story structures, starting with the three act structure. Even if you don't use them, you should know them

Check out Ellen Brock on YouTube. She's a professional novel editor who has a lot of advice on writing strategies for different types of writers

Also check out Savage Books on YouTube (another professional story editor) for advice on story structure and dialogue. Seriously, I cannot recommend this guy enough

Executive Dysfunction, Usually From ADHD/Autism

What it looks like:

Everything in boredom/understimulation

Everything in intimidation/procrastination

You have been diagnosed with and/or have symptoms of ADHD/Autism

Things that can help:

If you haven't already, seek a diagnosis or professional treatment

Hire an ADHD coach or other specialist that can help you work with your brain (I use Shimmer; feel free to DM me for a referral)

Seek out neurodiverse and neurodiverse writing communities for advice and support

Try body doubling! There's lot's of free online body doubling websites out there for you to try. If social anxiety is a barrier, start out with writing streams such as katecavanaughwrites on Twitch

Be aware of any sensory barriers that may be getting in the way of you writing (such as an uncomfortable desk chair, harsh lighting, bad sounds)

And Lastly, Burnout, Depression, or Other Mental Illness

What it looks like:

You have symptoms of burnout or depression

Struggling with all things, not just writing

It's more than a lack of motivation- the spark is just dead

Things that can help:

Forget writing for now. Focus on healing first.

Seek professional help

If you feel like it, use writing as a way to explore your feelings. It can take the form of journaling, poetry, an abstract reflection of your thoughts, narrative essays, or exploring what you're feeling through your fictional characters. The last two helped me rediscover my love of writing after I thought years of depression had killed it for good. Just don't force yourself to do so, and stop if it takes you to a darker place instead of feeling cathartic