Oh Gawd Every Time You Think It's Over It Gers BETTER

So I got a complaint from a client about their website today.

In brief, this client operates an online directory, in which companies within a particular industry can advertise their services.

Companies appearing in this directory have the option to voluntarily disclose which of a pre-defined list of "visible minority" identifiers apply to the company's ownership: "disabled", "LGBT", etc.

Companies appearing in this directory also have the ability to list people – typically owners or directors – associated with the company. The same visible minority identifiers which apply to companies can also voluntarily be applied to individual people listed under a company.

Today, the website's operator decided to add a new identifier to the list. I'm not sure why they chose to phrase it the way they did, or whether they just forgot that the same list of visible minority identifiers is used for both companies and persons, but the short version is that they want to know why the site's users now have the ability to designate people as "Female Owned".

Disability aids, medication, food, water, shelter...

It's almost like we should care about people.

fyi things like insulin, hearing aids, wheelchairs, glasses costing money at all is a form of structural ableism

As a non-English speaker as well, I think cross, horse, sauce and boss can all rhyme

thinking about how in ancient times, at least people knew that the lives their children would lead would….vaguely resemble their own???

People have always fondly reminisced about The Good Old Days and complained about Kids These Days, of course. But—and I cannot stress this enough—when my mom was born the Internet did not exist.

I normally would never have been interested in House of the Dragon or Star Wars: Acolyte, it’s just not my thing.

But here I am watching them.

I have to.

neurotypicals talk a lot about how autistic people aren’t “empathetic” bc we express empathy differently but. but then they turn around and refuse to empathize with experiences they don’t relate to? i don’t get it? 

i get called unempathetic for missing out on social cues, by the same people whose default attitudes include: “the music is hurting your ears? but it’s not that loud?” “you’re having trouble sitting still? but have you considered that what you’re doing looks weird?” “this thing bothers you? have you tried not being bothered by it???”  

How the types react to stress (based on defence mechanisms)

Esfj: reaction formation and dissociation

Estj: projection and repression

Isfj: withdrawal and denial

Istj: sublimation and displacement

Esfp: regression and denial

Estp: regression and acting out

Isfp: denial and turning against the self

Istp: acting out and rationalisation

Enfj: displacement and passive-aggressive behaviour

Entj: intellectualisation and projection

Infj: dissociation and sublimation

Intj: introjection and isolation

Enfp: passive-aggressive behaviour and withdrawal

Entp: repression and rationalisation

Infp: turning against the self and introjection

Intp: isolation and intellectualisation

Key to defence mechanisms (basics)

Repression: Feeling is hidden and forced from the consciousness to the unconscious because it is seen as socially unacceptable

Denial: Refusal to accept external reality because it is too threatening; arguing against an anxiety-provoking stimulus by stating it does not exist

Regression: Falling back into an early state of mental/physical development seen as "less demanding and safer"

Reaction formation: Acting the opposite way that the unconscious instructs a person to behave

Acting out: Direct expression of an unconscious wish or impulse in action, without conscious awareness of the emotion that drives the expressive behaviour

Isolation: Separation of feelings from ideas and events, for example, describing a murder with graphic details with no emotional response

Dissociation: Temporary drastic modification of one's personal identity or character to avoid emotional distress; separation or postponement of a feeling that normally would accompany a situation or thought

Rationalisation: Convincing oneself that no wrong has been done and that all is or was all right through faulty and false reasoning

Projection: Shifting one's unacceptable thoughts, feelings and impulses onto someone else, such that those same thoughts, feelings, beliefs and motivations are perceived as being possessed by the other.

Introjection: Identifying with some idea or object so deeply that it becomes a part of that person. For example, introjection occurs when we take on attributes of other people who seem better able to cope with the situation than oneself does

Turning against the self: Enables to deal with intense stress in the current moment by causing the self physical pain as distraction

Sublimation: The conscious decision to delay paying attention to a thought, emotion, or need in order to cope with the present reality; making it possible later to access uncomfortable or distressing emotions whilst accepting them

Displacement: Defence mechanism that shifts aggressive impulses to a more acceptable or less threatening target; redirecting emotion to a safer outlet

Intellectualisation: Concentrating on the intellectual components of a situation so as to distance oneself from the associated anxiety-provoking emotions

Withdrawal: Avoidance as a form of defence; It entails removing oneself from events, stimuli, and interactions under the threat of being reminded of painful thoughts and feelings

Passive-aggressive behaviour: Indirect expression of hostility

(Of course this doesn’t need to be true for everyone and we definitely do not only practice two of them but yet I’ve noticed kind of a pattern...)

girls will start getting settled for sleep like "wow i'm getting to bed early tonight" and it's 3am

Welcome to ADHD emotions! Get ready to experience

Understimulation

Overstimulation

The Anger Spiral

Wednesday Forever

Oh God they hate me. This whole Grocery Store hates me.

And *•.~°♪ lust *•.~°♪

I want to prove a point to a coworker of mine.

Pretend this post is the coronavirus.

If you see this on your dash, just reblog it.

Let’s show them how quickly this virus can spread from just one person.