I Think (well, I Know) There's This Big Mix Up In Words Within The Disabled Community Where Some People

I think (well, I know) there's this big mix up in words within the disabled community where some people use "can't" to mean "it's hard" or "I shouldn't" while other people use "can't" to mean "can't"

and a lot of problems arise when the prior group doesn't understand what the latter means by "can't"

it's entirely okay to use the word "can't" to communicate to (particularly abled) people that this is something that you either really struggle with or shouldn't do. it's a boundary word. it's okay to draw that line in the sand and say you can't do something because your disability makes it hard or dangerous.

but you have to remember that some people in the community are using the word "can't" to mean "can't" and truly can't do the thing no matter how much they want to or how hard they try. when you see someone say they can't do something your assumption should be impossibility, especially if you're going to respond, and especially especially if you're going to offer advice (which you should only do with permission. unsolicited advice isn't acceptable)

statements from people who "can't" as in "it's difficult" saying things like "well I just do it anyways even though it's hard!" are a total slap in the face when you mean "can't" as in "can't." it makes you feel misunderstood and alone when no one relates to you and all people ever say is that they can do it! so why can't you?!

to put it into perspective for the people in the "can't" as in "difficult" group: how does it feel when you say you can't do something to an abled person and they say something along the lines of "well I do it just fine, why can't you?" because that is exactly what you are saying to other disabled people. just because you're disabled as well doesn't make it okay or less hurtful.

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dear autistics who

white

low support needs

not need 24/7 support

can work independently

can pay taxes

language privileged

intellectual & cognitive privileged

who can fit in societal definition of useful & productive (yes, even if hard)

when fight back against eugenics & ableism, you NEED to fight alongside, fight with, n fight for autistics who

radicalized & POC

from places of world where there critically lack autism knowledge n support

visibly autistic

higher support needs

need 24/7 care

can’t work independently or even work at all

can’t pay taxes

nonverbal, nonspeaking, minimally verbal, without functional communication, or cannot communicate via language at all even AAC

w intellectual disability or cognitive disabilities

who cannot fit into society definition of useful n productive, no matter how hard we try

because we always are & always will be primary target.

because we most vulnerable most marginalized within our, OUR community, which you belong in.

because once they finish us off you won’t be spared.

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1 month ago

So after browsing the "transmisogyny" tag for a couple weeks and seeing the animosity towards trans men (and anybody who was AFAB in general), I decided to look into the "transandrophobia" tag that some transfeminists were decrying. Y'know, to see trans men's side of the story.

It only took a few minutes for me to see that most trans men who used that word were not doing what some were claiming they did.

They weren't remixing sexist MRA talking points or weaponizing their AGAB against trans women. They were just putting words to the specific axes of oppression they faced, and how they don't benefit from patriarchy like cis men do (society does not see them as men except for when it hurts them, like with the bathroom thing). This only becomes clearer to me the longer I browse the tag.

And this has left me confused about why some transfeminists are so angry at them. Is it because they've had bad experiences with trans men and assume all of them are like that? Are they taking posts by trans men talking about transandrophobia in bad faith due to paranoia that a world that's hostile towards us breeds? Do they just not understand? I don't get it.

As a trans woman myself, seeing all this fighting and vitriol over what seems to be misunderstandings is saddening.

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The Details, Man. The DETAILS!! >w
The Details, Man. The DETAILS!! >w
The Details, Man. The DETAILS!! >w

The details, man. The DETAILS!! >w<

1 month ago

Hey!!

Just a reminder to all reconnecting Indigenous people, you are valid.

You're still Indigenous, even if you are "1/16th indigenous blood"

You're still Indigenous even if you don't "look" Indigenous

You're still Indigenous if you're mixed with black, white, etc.

You're still Indigenous if you tribe doesn't exist anymore

You're still Indigenous if your tribe is lesser known

You're still Indigenous if you don't have a tribe

You are still Indigenous!!

Even if you don't know your ancestors, they know you

Or if you aren't 100% indigenous, that doesn't make your ancestors disappear!

You can still reconnect and participate in your culture!!!

Please don't give up, you can do this ^^

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