The Thing About NPD Is Nothing Is Ever Enough.

I just discovered a narcissistic abuse believer in my followers. So friendly reminder:

I love people with npd. People with npd deserve compassion and understanding. People with npd are not inherently abusive just because they have a disorder. No disorder is "abusive person disorder" and people with npd deserve so much better. I love narcissists and I hope they have a lovely day.

not to sound mentally ill, but if I have to face the reality of my existence one more time, I might light myself on fire in hopes to be born anew like a phoenix.

“i respect pwnpd as long as they dont hurt people” ok. anyways here’s to narcs who unintentionally harm or hurt others!!

reblog to tell your local narcissist that they’re the best ever

CW: mentions of "narc abuse" and ableism against pwNPD

There is no NPD awareness day but there is "narcissistic abuse awareness day" on June 1st.

My proposal: we take over the whole first week of June and make it NPD awareness week. We use that week to raise awareness of what NPD is and the fact that the concept of narcissistic abuse is DEEPLY ableist and it doesn't exist.

They might claim we're being narcissistic by making a day "about abuse victims" about us, as if most of us aren't abuse victims ourselves, but they already made it about us when they made a day about "narcissistic abuse" instead of calling it what it is: emotional abuse. It's not our fault they're so obsessed with us that they blame us for the actions of a completely unrelated group of people (abusers) /hj

But in all seriousness, I do think making June cluster B awareness month, with NPD the first week, ASPD the second, HPD the third, and BPD the fourth (May is BPD awareness month, but almost no one knows this, so including it in June makes sense), would be a good idea.

(If there already is an awareness time, lmk, google only showing me the ableist bullshit)

npd culture is getting annoyed because someone assumes something incorrect about you so you're like "please ask next time" and then getting annoyed when they actually ask next time because they should just know

Sick and tired of narcissists being talked about like mythological wild animals. I just read something that described covert narcissists as “highly defensive and extremely hostile”. I’m not a skittish dog. Why can’t you put it as “traumatised with extreme trust issues” like you would for any other less stigmatised disorder?

We really need to stop moralising emotions.

A kid who gets angry when they get hurt is not somehow ‘worse’ than a kid who gets sad. They are not less deserving of love, sympathy, and affection just because their natural response is anger.

Adults are allowed to be angry without being evil or immature.

Like literally any other emotion, anger, when successfully regulated, is GOOD for you to feel! And pretty much any emotion can be harmful if it gets out of control.

I’m making this posts from the perspective of someone with ASPD, but this applies to other ND people too as well as NT people.

a friendly reminder from your local NPD/ASPD wolf:

you don't need empathy, whether emotional or cognitive, to be a "good person", and you don't need sympathy, either.

you don't need remorse, guilt, shame, or even regret to be a "good person".

you don't need to have anything else that "makes up for" any of the above to be a "good person".

those of us who don't have some or all of these things still deserve support. we should not have to strive to gain or emulate these things in any fashion in order to be worthy of the same decency you offer to those who do not need to try to gain these things on account of already having them.

it is a form of violence to demand that we change or hide parts of ourselves in order to fit into your definition of "good person" before you'll offer decency and humanity. decency and humanity is not an incentive for change, it is not a reward for doing what you want, it is a basic right that everyone--no matter who they are or what they've done or what they feel--is entitled to and is worthy of having.

if you want us to change in any way, you must first give us the room and support we need to do so, even if we choose not to change in the end. if your support is conditional, if there is a risk of losing it if we do not fit into your box, there is no point in us trying to gain it anyway.