I genuinely don’t get the whole shtick that NPD makes you a bad person, for many reasons.
I mean most obviously a disorder doesn’t define you but like, in my experience it’s also just that NPD does the exact OPPOSITE of what people think it does!
it can be a horrible thing to deal with, I won’t deny that. But it has forced me to confront two choices- who I am/who I want to be, and who NPD wants me to be. Like, most people don’t ACTIVELY make the choice not to hurt or manipulate others, but I do because NPD is always influencing my desire to be in control and manipulate others. It’s much more present in my mind which means i HAVE to actively make a choice every day to not hurt other people. So actually, NPD just reveals the kind of person I actually am, which is a good one!
I didn’t choose the emotional struggles that forced me to develop this way, but i DO choose how I react. When I want to yell and hurt, i CHOOSE to be kind instead. I’m not saying that I never fuck up or anything like that, I mean hell y’all have seen me fuck up a lot. but even with all the narc crashes and self esteem issues, I am glad I have NPD because I wouldn’t know how much I care about doing the right thing without it!
Narcissists, I love you. I love you. I love you.
You don't need to have energy to deserve anyone's love.
You don't need to be kind to deserve anyone's love.
You don't need to be smart to deserve anyone's love.
You don't need any talent to deserve anyone's love.
You don't need to love any way to deserve anyone's love.
You deserve it now. As you are. Unconditionally.
It’s absolutely insane how I still see so many borderlines misuse the term narcissist…you do realize all that crap they say about ppl with NPD being evil they say about us too, just to a lesser extent, right?
idk if it’s hpd/npd but i fixate on random people i think could be equals & imagine us being really close only to see them talk about someone else who’s not me and crash over it. how am i not the most important person in your life and center of your attention (we’ve never spoken)
i am human and i am flawed because of it but there is an innate capability to connect in the human brain and i think maybe it's okay to start out by connecting to yourself however that may look
I want to give pwNPD and BPD, HPD, ASPD all the love. virtual hugs. you guys deserve it. every day you're bombarded with ppl who would rather abuse you and use you as a scapegoat for the entire world's problems than actually solve any problems. the shit people say about you on the daily is horrifying. may you find the strength to keep going in spite of it.
Woe I made a hyper specific NPD bingo
Egotypicals can interact just dont be weird
NPD is also about having learned so much on how to present yourself because you were forced to perform at an age far too early for that, then growing up and looking down at everyone who cannot perform as well as you do and considering them weak and unprepared for life. How dare you not have the horrific experience of lacking any sense of self unless you’re praised and elevated.
why does npd make me a massive fucking hypocrite like damn i’m judging somebody for doing something i literally do myself ?????? the fuck ?????
Most common responses I get when I post any sort of cluster B positivity:
An extensive trauma dump in an attempt to validate their hatred towards us.
"You sound like a narcissist"
"You're just trying to manipulate us but we won't fall for it"
"This is really invalidating to actual trauma survivors"
"This is why people don't like cluster B's"
"Part of supporting someone with a cluster B disorder is by not enabling their abusive behaviour"
"I'll only support cluster B's if they get help"
Assuming that my opinions are based on a lack of research.
A looooong response about how trauma survivors need to stick together that promptly gets deleted when they realise I myself have a cluster B disorder.
*Posts to r/fakedisordercringe*
Tries to justify the exclusion of an entire group of trauma survivors because "we need to keep ourselves safe from people like you"
society makes it hard to tell you're aroace because you think "hmmm i value this person deeply and want to be close to them and have them consider me as closely as i consider them. i must be romantically or sexually attracted to them" like no buddy you've just got separation anxiety
Crow | 29 | System | Diagnosed BPD | Questioning NPD | Physically Disabled
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