Tbh In Fics Where Draco Is Harry’s First Homosexual Experience And When Harry Went In To Kiss Him And

harry: do you want to know your gay name?

draco: my… gay name?

harry: yeah, it’s your first name —

draco: oh, ha ha ha, very funny harry —

harry: *gets down on one knee* — and my lastname

draco: oh — oh my god

Usually we imagine that true love will be intensely pleasurable and romantic, full of love and light. In truth, true love is all about work. The poet Rainer Maria Rilke wisely observed: “Like so much else, people have also misunderstood the place of love in my life, they have made it into play and pleasure because they thought that play and pleasure was more blissful than work; but there is nothing happier than work, and love, just because it is the extreme happiness, can be nothing else but work …” The essence of true love is mutual recognition – two individuals seeing each other as they really are. We all know that the usual approach is to meet someone we like and put our best self forward, or even at times a false self, one we believe will be more appealing to the person we want to attract. When our real self appears in its entirety, when the good behaviour becomes too much to maintain or the masks are taken away, disappointment comes. All too often individuals feel, after the fact – when feelings are hurt and hearts are broken – that it was a case of mistaken identity, that the loved one is a stranger. They saw what they wanted to see rather than what was really there.

True love is a different story. When it happens, individuals usually feel in touch with each other’s core identity. Embarking on such a relationship is frightening precisely because we feel there is no place to hide. We are known. All the ecstasy that we feel emerges as this love nurtures us and challenges us to grow and transform. Describing true love, Eric Butterworth writes: “True love is a peculiar kind of insight through which we see the wholeness which the person is – at the same time totally accepting the level on which he now expresses himself – without any delusion that the potential is a present reality. True love accepts the person who now is without qualifications, but with a sincere and unwavering commitment to help him achieve his goals of self-unfoldment – which we may see better than he does.” Most of the time, we think that love means just accepting the other person as they are. Who among us has not learned the hard way that we cannot change someone, mold them and make them into the ideal beloved we might want them to be. Yet when we commit to true love, we are committed to being changed, to being acted upon by the beloved in a way that enables us to be more fully self-actualised. This commitment to change is chosen. It happens by mutual agreement. Again and again in conversations the most common vision of true love I have heard shared was one that declared it to be “unconditional.” True love is unconditional, but to truly flourish it requires an ongoing commitment to constructive struggle and change.

bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

I took a glance at these photos and now I’m pregnant! How crazy😂😂

thinking much thoughts. thoughts are happening in my silly brain <3

friendship IS romance : 1. / 2. / 3. fleabag / 4. / 5. / 6. / 7. / 8. a little life, hanya yanagihara  / 9. / 10. 

In all honesty, procrastination is my nemesis– and I think that goes for a whole lot of people, even here in the perfect world of studyblr. Here are some tips to get better at sitting down and going for it without getting distracted!

Removing Distractions

Physical Distractions

Clear any clutter off your desk. Having a more minimal workspace without yesterday’s receipt from lunch keeps you more focused.

Remove irrelevant items. If you don’t need it for the task at hand, get rid of it. This applies especially to appealing books, games, and puzzles.

Close the door. Whether literally, or figuratively, let other people know you’re working and ask them not to disturb you so you stay focused.

Digital Distractions

Use a website blocker. If you really need to stay away, try an app or extension to make sure you stick to focusing. Here are some options:

StayFocusd

Forest

SelfControl

Cold Turkey

Focus

Turn off phone notifications. Almost nothing is more likely to distract you, so use aeroplane mode, or block all social media notifications.

Getting to Work

Planning

Make a to-do list. Getting a solid list of what you need to do is one step closer to getting it done! Here are some printables that might help you:

Weekly to-do list from @studeying

To-do list printables from @apricot-studies

To-do list from @aescademic

Let’s do this! from @sundayscholar

Schedule according to your priorities. Breaking your tasks down by importance is another way to categorize and be more efficient.

Ensure that you look ahead. If necessary, look at your schedule in the future and plan that so that you’re forced to stay on track in order to not get behind your schedule.

Structuring your Work

Track what you’ve done. If you can check it off your list, you’ll just want that feeling again. It encourages you by showing that you can do it!

Time yourself. If you commit to ten minutes of work, you’re far more likely to just keep going, and timing’s also a great tracked. Here are a few apps you might find handy!

Toggl

Pomello

ClearFocus

Reward yourself at set times or milestones. Take breaks, grab a cup of coffee or an orange, and don’t work yourself into the ground. Giving yourself ten minutes off will refresh you, as long as you don’t go straight back to your distractions. 

You’ve got this!! Get yourself sorted and get going, because you most certainly have it in you :D

I tell everyone this and I mean it. Buy a journal. Carry it with you everywhere you go. And I mean everywhere. Write about your favorite moments, your least favorite moments, ideas, grocery lists, people you’ve met, strangers you’ve walked past on the street, favorite quotes, words to remember, what the sky looked like at 7pm, new songs you’ve discovered and what they mean to you, your childhood, places you want to go or places you’ve been, write about your passions, how you feel in this exact moment, draw out the mountains, scribble all over the pages. And when that one gets full, buy a new one. Reread it in 2 years, 20 years, when you need a good laugh, when you’re crying on your bathroom floor, read it to your children. You need to remember these moments in your life. They are so important.

Vi, the protector

Vi never was a loner. She’s a protector. The entirety of act 1 shows how she cares deeply about people and would never willingly put them in danger. It’s Vander’s influence on her - him telling her that she’s responsible for people’s safety, that whatever happens is on her. 

Vi has only ever known love through protecting others. She learned how to fight and used those skills to defend herself and her siblings - and to survive in the lanes. 

When she thought she wouldn’t be able to keep Powder safe, she left her behind and went out there with Mylo and Claggor instead. She could always rely on people as long as she felt sure she could still protect them if things went south. She wasn’t sure she could protect Powder this time.

Vander did everything he could to protect Vi, even if he was on the verge of death. She learned it from the best.

When Vi finds herself in prison, she becomes a protector with no one to protect.

After Vander dies, Caitlyn is the first person to protect Vi. The very first instance is when she protects her from the warden having a “chat” with her. It’s clear from Vi’s attitude that she was fully bracing herself to be beaten up after her conversation with Caitlyn. And she got released instead.

Caitlyn protects Vi from Sevika’s final blow by shooting Sevika. (and she answers Grayson’s question about what she’s shooting for. They have the same goal; protecting people. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that we see this flashback right before Caitlyn arrives to Sillwater, meeting Vi for the first time.)

Caitlyn protects Vi from Ekko, thinking he was an assailant, saying “listen, I brought her here. It’s me you want." 

Every decision Vi makes about Caitlyn after this is with the intention of protecting her. Keeping her out of trouble on the bridge to find Powder herself. She couldn’t have imagined that Powder would come back and attack Caitlyn instead, but when she fires at them, Vi ultimately chooses to bring Caitlyn to safety. 

“Will you be okay? I’ll be right back” she says, ensuring that she’s safe.

She’s forced to face the inevitable. Powder wants to and could kill Caitlyn. Plus, she almost did. Her connection with Powder puts Caitlyn in danger, so when Vi thinks she won’t be able to keep Caitlyn safe, she leaves her behind, just like she did with Powder all those years ago. 

However, Jayce reminds Vi she won’t make it alone and he’s right. She couldn’t beat Sevika alone the first time and she wouldn’t have been able to do it without the hextech gauntlets the second time, and even then it was a close call. She’s not a solo fighter.

Vi needs people. And she needs people who will protect her.

She needs Caitlyn to protect her.

She needs Caitlyn to protect.

Welcome to Earth.