I Am Trying To Choose To Hope. 

"wait but how can that work ?" instead of asking how their queer identity works, and how can it be valid, maybe ask them their experiences. ask how it feels to themself being a mspec mono, or lesboy, or turigirl, or whatever. instead of getting angry at queer identities which dont fit your standard, just perhaps let it go and ask them as a person what their identity means to them. stop policing identities and open up your mind a little.

I wish more people would post pictures of things that are used

Backpacks with patches, well worn sweaters with darned elbows, beat up water bottles and tee shirts with more holes than fabric. I want to hear people talk about their oldest possessions with all of the excitement of influencers posting a haul. I want people to be excited about the idea of having things with the type of character that can only come from years of companionship and memories.

I'm so serious about being kind above all else. it has genuinely changed the way I interact with the world on a fundamental level and has made me so so much happier.

Too many people will pass around "always trust your gut!" and "your intuition never lies" content when actually your "intuition" isn't immune to either propaganda, bigotry or trauma reactions. Which is important to be aware of actually

"guys we're so cooked" "it's wraps" "the end is near" shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up. i say that with love because you are probably saying it out of distress and hopelessness, but for your own well-being and for everyone else's, please stop saying this shit.

no we are not "cooked." and by saying that, by the way, you are giving more power to the neo-nazi oligarchy in charge.

they want you to abandon all hope of a better life. they want you to believe "oh well, it's over, we might as well stop trying to fight back and just resign ourselves to despair forever."

every time you get on tiktok and comment "guys we're so cooked haha it's over," you are feeding into the mindset of hopeless compliance. you are, unknowingly, spreading this infectious idea that just because we've lost one battle, we've lost the entire war.

your words matter. i am saying this out of love and concern for our future, but please stop choosing words of defeat.

damselpunk as a term focuses on the strength of a person who is affected by mysogyny. this obviously isnt limited to women, but naturally theres a reference to being a princess who needs to be saved or obtained; hence "damsel".

but for the opposite forme of opression, the one bestowed usually upon men, im not sure what stereotype would apply. something that references the fact that men (and more) are forced to become leaders, macho bravo, strong soldiers, units of force— im not even sure this has a name, maybe toxic masculinity, but its the way of which patriarchy affects men. turns them into emotionless machines made for earning money and being tough.

i think i'm gonna try to coin the male version of damselpunk myself. namely for me, because my masculinity is punk in the sense is is passive and soft and chill, instead of the expected "domineering and strong" masculinity in societal standards. but first, i think stablishing a name is important.

CAVALIER and KNIGHT are the first words that come to mind, in direct parallel to damselpunk. since damselBLADE is the symbol for the other term, i thought this term's symbol should be a SHIELD instead of any weapon— signifying not how "a real man is expected to protec", but the protection of the self within cavalierpunk/knightpunk.

please share thoughts 👀 i am very interested in making more than just this term for genderpunk modalities